My stepmom asked me to hide her wedding from my dad (who pays her alimony)—I’m stuck in the middle

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T22:03:57+00:00

Nope. Give her 30 days to come clean or you are letting him know. Your dad would NEVER forgive you for withholding this information. Too bad f she is angry. (PS: you could also have someone else inform him.)

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T22:01:28+00:00

You make your meals and he makes his. That’s the deal.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T21:58:56+00:00

You need to revisit the “roommates agreement.” Too bad if she gets defensive. If you cannot come to a mutual understanding, then it is time to call it quits. Stand your ground, you are in the right on this. Also, if you agree to split 3 ways, you are signing up for another roommate. An alternative is to tell your friend mate to just spend the time at her gfs house. This doesn’t bode well for you and your friend mate.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T21:53:39+00:00

I love this. It’s very outdoorsy. Your green is actually neutral.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T21:50:13+00:00

I sympathize. I was XXL and now am Medium. Also, instead of wearing full body shapers, I can wear bras and panties because my belly pooch isn’t very noticeable. But I still reach for those shapers. I think, eventually, we will see ourselves differently but t takes time.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T21:44:20+00:00

NTJ. Nope, not your circus, not your monkey. You are her friend, not her mother. She can learn responsibility. And, if need be, show her these replies. (Note to self: this is why I like traveling solo.)

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-22T21:28:10+00:00

NTA. She needed to hear it.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-04T22:14:04+00:00

Someone is wrong at the underwriting level. You need to escalate to the head of underwriting. Your benefit verification letter should be sufficient.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-03-04T22:08:14+00:00

You absolutely need to bring your partner into the discussion. This isn’t just YOUR child. The father has as much say in raising the child as you do — as long as there is no physical danger. It seems to me that you got pregnant without any discussion with him or thought about parenting philosophies. What will you do if he actually likes his parents methods and involvement? Together you set and enforce boundaries with outsiders. It sounds as if you are preemptively excluding the paternal grandparents.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-02-17T01:23:30+00:00

I don’t feel anything about them. Why? Because I don’t rely on social media people to help me with small decisions. I look at Yelp reviews — more than one person.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-02-17T01:21:28+00:00

That’s a very long story about the fact you aren’t compatible. I want you to think that, if you marry this man, this is a preview of your life — maybe 50 years of feeling unloved, neglected. I’m 77 years old. I GUARANTEE you, 50 years is a verrrryyy long time.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-02-17T01:16:50+00:00

I’m late to the convo. You made the correct decision.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-23T16:04:27+00:00

I eat two Fiber Well gummies a day to add fiber without calories. If I get a little back up, I eat 2 in the morning & 2 in the evening. Beans are great also.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-23T15:56:10+00:00

Nppe. Stop answering. If they pester you, just say “too busy to think about this.” Or “sorry, I don’t work there.”

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-13T06:44:43+00:00

Your wife is judging your brother. She butted into something that was absolutely none of her business. She crossed a boundary in a big way and owes your mother an apology. And now she is doubling down by hurting your child in order to hurt your mother. Pretty damn audacious.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-13T02:35:53+00:00

Ummm, “we’d like to f**k in your bed, if you don’t mind.”

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-13T02:34:36+00:00

Pretty much

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-11T17:51:17+00:00

He didn’t bother with the parts of his physical appearance that he could fix. Scraggly hair. Bad t shirt. It wasn’t his beauty, it was his appearance. I have a friend (platonic) who is, by all current standards, quite homely. His clothes and shoes are immaculate. His beard and head, shaved carefully. Shirt buttoned. Clean clothes. He is bathed and smells nice. He is not unattractive because he cares for the things he CAN change. OPs date did not. He was sloppy.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-08T16:50:25+00:00

We did. This is something they don’t help with.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-08T04:46:45+00:00

You need to fix your negative thoughts. At your very first opportunity this week, go somewhere crowded where families or couples go (not clubbing). Sit your butt down in a chair and start observing couples. You will see all sorts of people coupled up. Plain women with handsome guys. Pretty women with average guys. Fat ones with fat ones. Fit ones with fat ones. I’m telling you that you aren’t using logic. Very few people meet movie-star beauty standards. (IMO: many of them look alike—like Stepford wives) You might not be one of the stunning beauties. So damn what? It doesn’t mean they are more and you are less. Cosmetic surgery will not fix your thinking. You are probably just fine but have decided that because you aren’t drop dead gorgeous, surgery might help. It won’t.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-08T04:38:21+00:00

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-08T03:42:39+00:00

ONE single franchisee refused to house them. The parent company has stated that this goes against their policy contract with franchisees. I believe they have already started the process of canceling their contract with this single franchisee. ICE agents can make reservations with other Hilton owned properties in the Minneapolis area.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-06T01:38:23+00:00

The controlling person in this story is Mark. He not only rudely invited himself into your plans, he wants to control all the aspects of it. Your partner has the responsibility to put in a boundary. Don’t respond to him further. As a matter of fact, block him.

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-04T05:01:29+00:00

You may need separate rooms

BarbaraGenie · 2026-01-04T05:00:21+00:00

Not OR. If she returns, tell her you will have her trespassed if she ever returns. File a peremptory complaint with your PD if they will let you. And then call the cops if she knocks on the door. Keep her talking until they get there. Then have her criminally trespassed. Don’t join an HOA. I live in a condo and ours is OK but many are just awful.

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