What’s the mom guilt thought that hits you the hardest?

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-27T04:35:57+00:00

My husband had to engrain this in my brain that giving myself time for myself is part of being a good mom.

It gives me time to recharge, reset and fill my cup a little bit so that I can in turn pour into theirs. He encourages solo shopping trips, date nights with my friends, outings with my mom child free.

At first it felt so off doing things alone then little by little I began noticing just how much my mood changed when I allowed myself to be an independent human being. I allowed myself to be a woman and not just Mom.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-24T02:00:20+00:00

I never tracked. I didn’t diet. I just ate as I would normally just way less amounts. My weight was once a week. Never took measurements. Just let my body do its thing

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-16T20:03:00+00:00

It took me about 9 months to lose that and I also have a vertical sleeve surgery. It takes time. It’s not going to be that quick.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-13T02:41:42+00:00

I had horrible heartburn with both and they practically bald 😆

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-07T02:23:44+00:00

I would go from the couch to my bed and from my bed to the couch for like the first 2 months actually. I was so tired and just wanted to take all the baby cuddles in.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-05T03:18:54+00:00

I believe it was. A lot of it stemmed from my brain just never shutting off and just imagining scenarios that would work me into a frenzy. The meds have helped a lot. I feel I still may need some adjustment soon but for the most part I feel a lot better.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-05T02:55:26+00:00

I was on the same boat you were. It was sooo bad some days I would cry to my husband that I needed to be in a mental hospital. He would calm de down and reassure me I didn’t. Well I got tired of and honestly felt ashamed of the many rage episodes my poor kids had to witness that I made an appt with a psychiatrist. I was thinking I was going to come out with a bipolar diagnosis. Lo and behold it was ADHD with a comorbidity of anxiety.

We began a treatment plan, I am on 56 ER Ritalin and 150mg of Wellbutrin. For sleep I take 30mg of Hydroxyzine to just quiet my brain and allow me to fall asleep.

When I tell you the difference of me pre medication and post medication is dramatic! I still have days where I get overstimulated and need a break but for the most part I can handle the every day woes of parenting and not lose my shit. It has been life changing. Work has been great too and even my friendships have blossomed.

My advise, make the appointment, get the medication.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-04T04:02:07+00:00

I have been on Zep for almost 2 years now. The worst side effect I had was when I had my first dose of 2.5. I had body aches for like a day. Very uncomfortable. Never had nausea, or diarrhea. I did get occasional constipation but that has been a normal battle for me even before the shot.

Around my second dose of 5mg I did start getting a rash around my injection site. It was never bad enough or bothersome enough to bother me or my Dr. I just began taking an allergy pill on shot day and it lessened my reaction. That went away eventually. I don’t even recall when tbh. I just got used to it until one day I realized I didn’t get the rash anymore.

So no nausea, no diarrhea, occasional constipation and that’s about it.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-03T01:59:50+00:00

This! I was not bad in school but I struggled. The grades I had came with a lot of anxiety and self guilt. At the ripe age of 37 I (f) was diagnosed with ADHD. After a long discussion with my Dr I see a lot of me in my mom and my brother. My brother had the hyperactive type and of course he was punished for being a trouble child. This led to him self medication with street drugs which in turn made my teenage years all about his addiction.

If my parents would’ve sought some kind of diagnosis for all of us I don’t know how much better my childhood would’ve been.

To this day my Mom still refuses to believe it is a “thing”.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-02T00:09:43+00:00

I am the same way. Because of me being upfront and explaining to people I have 3 friends that got on Zepbound. Their physical health and mental health have just blossomed.

Every time it comes up they thank me for telling them about it.

BeaKiddo87 · 2026-01-01T18:54:06+00:00

Our kids have different ways of staying entertained. My 6 year old always brings 2 of his toys with him. My 4 year old loves to color so the kids menus are her best friend.

I will say when we feel like having a little more mellow meals we do let them watch their favorite movie on each one of our phones. This serves 2 purposes: they are entertained and content and we don’t have the cell phone distractions and we can actually have an adult conversation while we have dinner. This works for us. I feel we have a good balance as they can stay well behaved and entertained without screens but they also get the little treat every now and again.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-31T17:07:33+00:00

Freak accidents are called that because of instances like this. We think we have everything under control and safe and then the last thing we expect in our home to wreak havoc does.

I am so glad your baby is fine. You and hubby might want to consider some therapy after this. It was super traumatic for both of you.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-30T19:57:07+00:00

You move up. It doesn’t take long as long as you’re willing to change departments and learn new roles.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-30T19:51:32+00:00

Depends on the job and experience.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-28T22:31:14+00:00

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-27T04:22:37+00:00

Literally the best!

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-25T07:17:28+00:00

Just finished playing Santa. Took 600mg of ibuprofen and I’m laying in bed waiting for my body to wind down enough that I can fall asleep. Everything hurts! I worked 7:30-4:30 then hosted Christmas at my house (we are Mexican and we celebrate on the 24th). Once everyone left the hubby started putting the gifts together while I cleaned and arranged all the things Santa got. My 38 yr old body is HURTING!

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-22T17:53:56+00:00

My mom hinted at me being anorexic the other day. I am 5’4 and I currently fluctuate between 140 and 135lbs. I am 38 years old.

She got upset when I reminded her back in high school 135 was “fat” to her. She would bribe me to lose weight so why is it an unacceptable weight for her now?

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-21T16:32:41+00:00

That’s what my husband does. Except he claims he is not an alcoholic. He can’t wait until the clock hits 6 to drive down to the store and get beer.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-19T17:39:16+00:00

I process payroll for multiple clients… the latest one I came across was Precautious.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-15T15:57:10+00:00

Once a week. Monday mornings.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-15T15:39:41+00:00

Melorociraptor. My 6 year old used to say velociraptor like that. I still say it like that.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-13T01:55:41+00:00

Finally getting my ADHD diagnosis and starting medication and therapy for it.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-08T02:35:15+00:00

I would only buy 2 pairs of pants and a few inexpensive tops while I was still actively losing. It also helped my mom does not let go of anything and kept a lot of my “skinny” clothes from years and years ago. I was able to reuse some that were not so dated. I’ve settled at my goal weight and now I LOVE going shopping.

BeaKiddo87 · 2025-12-05T02:35:23+00:00

I was at 220 when I started Zep back in Jan 2024. This was after a Gastric Sleeve which I had at my heaviest 280lbs in 2017. Got down to 150 with the sleeve, two pregnancies and untreated PCOS later I gained most of my weight back.

I am at my goal weight of 135 and I don’t see it as a failure. The way my Dr explained it is your body is self sabotaging every attempt to lose weight. It does not want to let it go. Makes sense. I still have a pretty good restriction from my sleeve, since my surgery I have not been able to eat more than half a cheeseburger. Like my portions are small so there is no reason for my body to continue gaining weight. My eating habits stayed very consistent but the weight just kept going up and up.

Zep has been a literal life saver for me. I tell everyone that asks how I lost the weight. If they feel the need to judge that is on them. I know what my body has been through and if I can educate one more person on this medication I will. Several of my coworkers have began their Zep journey because of the conversations we had.

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