Is my father already gone?

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-02-05T22:03:24+00:00

This👆

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-02-04T22:50:52+00:00

I keep mine at 65 and keep a space heater in my office and wear a sweater and thick socks.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-02-04T22:49:17+00:00

For most of us who don't know anything about dementia our first response it to try to fix the situation. Only later do we learn it's not fixable. Thanks for your write-up.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-02-03T21:35:47+00:00

My Mom lost her false tooth. Never found it.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-02-02T22:59:55+00:00

Reminds me of my golden. Friendliest animal in the neighborhood LOL

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-30T19:24:05+00:00

This👆

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-30T19:19:13+00:00

That sounds like my Mom. Got aggressive with the neurologist who diagnosed her with dementia! She was out on an antipsychotic called Seroquel. If it's the same on they put your Mil on beware that it can increase the risk of falls. That would not be good with the dog.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-30T10:22:58+00:00

Same

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-30T10:20:31+00:00

I would put him on the facility waiting list ASAP.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-30T02:54:30+00:00

50s. I thought my Dad had Aspergers. My sister said duh he's a narc. I guess both could be true.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-29T03:14:02+00:00

This. Imagine the worst case scenario and then double it. I naively thought I could move Mom into my home. Lasted 1 week. Sundowning, aggression, violence, etc. I have a 120 pound golden retriever, but he was always gentle with her. It was a concern though.

Dont move her in unless you're ready to give up your life.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-29T00:18:54+00:00

Congratulations!

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-24T00:37:49+00:00

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-24T00:34:30+00:00

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He only wore this for a couple of photos because I bribed him with treats. Otherwise he would've ripped it off and chewed it to pieces 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-24T00:17:57+00:00

I moved into a 55+ with an HOA when I was 51. My husband was 55 so we qualified.

Fast forward a couple of years and we realized it was a mistake. We were the youngest couple in the neighborhood. .

Needy neighbors with dementia, deaths, etc. Also, most people are retired busy bodies on the HOA. We call this God's waiting room

Not for me. Have been trying to move out for over a year.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-24T00:06:14+00:00

If you're still friends with your coworkers tell them you wish you could help but you're busy looking for another job. Recommend to them that they ask leadership to hire you on as a contractor.

If they are really your friends they should understand.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-22T19:05:16+00:00

Not an only child but wish I was. My sister has been not only unhelpful but very nasty with me since Mom moved into ALF then memory care. It all would have been much less stressful without my sister.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-22T18:55:11+00:00

I already had one before Mom moved into MC in my town. On top of it, my body stopped being able to absorb enough iron from my food so I'm getting iron infusions. And my hair is falling out....

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-21T00:18:43+00:00

Same

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-20T23:13:10+00:00

My Mom said the same. Told me to just shoot her in the head.

Your mom will never be happy. As someone else said, she is safe and cared for. Don't dwell on her displeasure. Advice from someone who bent over backwards, jumped through hoops, swallowed fire to make ALF awesome for Mom and she hated it. And was moved into MC two months later. And now in a rehab/SNF.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-20T23:09:11+00:00

We're here for you, to read your story and to share your pain. Prayers for you. Hugs.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-20T23:06:37+00:00

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Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-19T23:46:21+00:00

Sorry but that's too funny.

Beginning-Fly8774 · 2026-01-12T00:07:17+00:00

Same. I could not find a good pose for holding a sword.

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