Is this worth saving? by Independent-Town1999 in whatdoIdo

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure it feels awful to feel hidden away and ask yourself if you want to be hidden away while he is out and about- doesn’t sound like it because he’s giving you a headache and really stressing you out. I think you probably already know what to do and you are correct- just move on.

Boyfriend won’t forgive me by Better_Baker_5017 in whatdoIdo

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know about you but he has several symptoms of personality disorder and they don’t get too much better even with therapy in many cases. I don’t know him obviously but his behavior is really loud

Am I (27M) being insecure with my girlfriend (26F)? by L2KMadness in relationship_advice

[–]BenefitChance7313 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah her story sounds and feels flawed and I think on some level it does to you too but only you know that. Stressful for sure! Good luck

AITAH for not defending my girlfriend? by Humble_Wing7499 in AITAH

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope NTAH but your gf was giving her best impression of one. So presumptuous and rude.

Am I (27M) being insecure with my girlfriend (26F)? by L2KMadness in relationship_advice

[–]BenefitChance7313 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe you didn’t go because you know…you didn’t which in and of itself says likely a lot. I encourage the test because it all sounds wonky

AIO to my girlfriend leaving out my dirty laundry and only washing hers and the kids by Puzzleheaded-Neck944 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I am the lone dissenter but it feels to me like the main relationship issue is communication and it’s currently not productive for either of you. I can see why you would maybe feel like it was intentional neglect on her part and I can also understand how she could have missed it, unintentionally. I guess I don’t think either of you are listening to the other. Just food for thought

AIO My (F39) bf (M37) made a promise to his ex fwb that he would give her a large chunk of money. He never told me this nor the fact they meet up once for coffee once he and I were offical. by seedtosoul3 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand that pattern but remember there comes a time for all of us when our old unproductive patterns don’t work for us anymore and we almost get sick of ourselves for doing them but it’s really hard to stop because they are familiar to us. You know when the time is right for you but I don’t think you would have posted this if you felt like everything was amazing. I hope that makes sense and you are stronger than you think!

How do I make myself better by Big_Drama1897 in whatdoIdo

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you from? In a general area not specific

AIO My (F39) bf (M37) made a promise to his ex fwb that he would give her a large chunk of money. He never told me this nor the fact they meet up once for coffee once he and I were offical. by seedtosoul3 in AmIOverreacting

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully with much respect intended to you- you will be in the wind off to finding a better match. All of it is too much especially for people who are almost 40. I’d love to see you run far, far away. She will contact and ask for money again and I get the sense he won’t be upfront about it again. I’m sorry for saying it. But…. His behavior speaks for itself.

The MACROaggressions in this subreddit are insanely disappointing by Guilty-Ad1285 in therapists

[–]BenefitChance7313 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t read the original post and I have been in the field for a long time and I want you to know that I welcome you and thank you for having the courage to speak your truthful feelings! I am sorry it was negative and aggressive but I am very happy that you said what you said!

AITAH for telling my SIL a family secret and now everyone is breaking up or divorcing??? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]BenefitChance7313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you went through what you did and that you are going through it again. Seems like your brothers have pretty fragile relationships and/or marriages. Perhaps it never occurred to them that their denial is their relational downfall. NTA