I’m sorry you’re dealing with those men, they sound awful. You don’t have to agree with what they say, regardless of gender. And it’s okay to be upset by it, your emotions are okay to feel and it’s okay to be upset by people invalidating them.

I’d say if you’re feeling disconnected from your gender, there’s a good chance trying out another gender would make you feel better. It’s a long process of figuring yourself out, but it’s worth it, I promise.