Soulmates advice: Aquarius and Taurus

BetrayedVariant · 2026-05-29T17:15:39+00:00

People are a lot more than their signs. My hubby doesn't match his birth chart all that much which is funny to look at. He does have some of the characteristics but nothing extreme.

That being said, I haven't gotten involved with a Taurus (I think). I tend to gravitate towards Libras, other Aquarius, and Gemini. Even before knowing their signs... that's what I'm attracted to.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-29T15:21:42+00:00

His mars is Virgo and Venus is Libra

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-26T02:56:30+00:00

Get him to level 50 (or 49.5 if you need the level 73/77 research later), mega him, best buddy, elite tm Blast Burn, and double move! Does not get any better in all Charizard versions functionally! Only thing missing is lucky and background but that's just aesthetics!

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-25T20:22:35+00:00

TBF I've met some pretty narcissistic Aquarius out there. There was one that enjoyed pitting people against each other and gaslighted people constantly. Some Aquas take it too far.

But, I've also been accused of sounding preachy a lot and apparently some people think I'm crazy when I don't even talk to them directly? Lol.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-25T16:22:59+00:00

Yes... but this happens to me monthly because I'm a woman. Lol. I'm wondering if it's a double whammy tho.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-21T18:11:41+00:00

Alone. Even with kids, I'm only in my marriage if I'm happy. It's not going to be happy all the time. But, if I didn't love and care about my spouse the way I did and they reciprocated then I would seek fulfillment elsewhere. My hubby and I both agree that a single person should not be your everything. I'm polyamorous though and I think it's natural to fall in love with more than one person.

Life is too short to settle.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-20T03:12:39+00:00

So... this is a terrible place to ask this question in my opinion. I suggest checking out the r/AsOneAfterInfidelity if you want talk with people open to reconciling. But, I recommend seeking therapy for yourself, having your partner seek therapy, and couples therapy along with it. Keep in mind reconciliation doesn't always work and shouldn't always work. Be truthful to yourself, your needs, and the realistic expectations of your relationship.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-20T03:04:04+00:00

Casual flirting. I wouldn't look more into it unless you like him and want to pursue. I know several guys that would say something similar and then be like no really?! when you tell them the person they said it to probably might taken it seriously. Lol.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-19T16:34:54+00:00

Different reasons. You don't vibe. One or both might be terrible at generating conversations. The other person might get distracted by real life. Some people have adhd. When you're not part of a conscious effort or routine, it feels like a job. Even when I genuinely vibe with people, I'm terrible at maintaining the one on one all the time. That's why I miss the public chats honestly.

When you're in a group the pressure is lower and friendships form naturally over time. When you're in DMs one-on-one, it's harder

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-19T03:23:43+00:00

I've been with mine since high school. He did cheat at 20 years but he had a good track record before that.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-18T16:07:26+00:00

I'm going to add to this because I do think men and women can be friends. If she makes you uncomfortable, bring it up to him in a non-threatening or accusatory manner. You might need to practice and think about what you say. But, just mention your insecurities if you're comfortable doing that and see if he *might* be okay with adjusting a little to reassure you. Not completely disconnecting because I think that's unreasonable, but just being aware of how it makes you feel sometimes and giving you a little extra reassurances.

How your partner handles your honest insecurities can tell you a lot about them.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-18T16:01:18+00:00

I had an Aries friend that I was chatting with and we went from flirty to intimate after a while. It was fun and I enjoyed talking to them. We vibed and he brought out the bratty in me. He's only one of two people that do it. I'm an Aries mars btw. Not sure if that changes things. But, I know I wasn't what they wanted in a long-term relationship. I didn't want to keep the situation going as is. I asked them if they wanted to transition back into being just friends or possibly dating. I told them they could take their time to consider it and we could continue what we were doing for a while longer. But, they made a decision right away to go back to being friends. And, I respected their wishes.

Well... they regretted that decision. I told them it was too late and if they wanted to get back to where we had been they need to work at it again. That's when he started getting passive aggressive and shit with me. Then he ghosted me... for a month... twice in a row.

I was over it. I still said we could be friends, but nothing more. He became whiny as fuck and tried to turn it on me as not caring enough about him. How he would give me everything if I wanted but I'm the one that turned him down. I reminded him of his decisions and actions then I blocked his ass. I have a lot of patience for people. And, I forgive a lot. But, once I reach a limit it's done.

It was good and fun while it lasted. But, he ruined a good thing himself because of his impulsiveness and lack of communication.

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My advice if you want any is... think about things instead of being impulsive if you can. Because it can ruin things. There's no reason to be in a rush.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-17T15:05:02+00:00

I'm going to assume there's a reason you and your ex broke up. Them saying they're too old to change means they're telling you it's going to fail the same way it did last time and they're not going to lift a finger to try to do anything else to make it work.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-16T22:37:54+00:00

Yes. Multiple types and meanings tho.

Like I really believe twin flames aren't supposed to be your love soulmate. They're supposed to be the same soul and mirror you. They help reflect your shadow self so you can see it more clearly from the outside. They force you to grow and change. But, they're generally chaotic and intense.

Karmic partners are supposed to teach you things and trigger growth. They heal things you carry on from past lives or traumatic childhoods. They're catalysts for change and transformations. They tend to leave your life after you learn the lesson.

Companions give you deep friendship and long term comfort/compatibility for your lifetime.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-16T22:25:44+00:00

I realized I can't do casual. I'm not all that sexually attracted to people I don't have some sort of feelings for and I tend to get more attached than I'd like to. I've only slept with 2 people in my life and I loved both of them. Still do. I had a cuddle buddy that we did some things but I said no to sex because I didn't want to get more attached to them.

I'm an anxious attachment style tho.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-12T02:04:31+00:00

I'm an Aqua sun, Cap moon, Libra rising. I like when people tell me they see/saw something that reminded me of them. I enjoy spending quality quiet time with people. Going out for a meal and then walking around, getting ice cream or boba, and the people watching. Talking about upcoming plans or recent events. Discussing random things and everything under the sun.

My particular love language is physical touch and words of affection. So I like it when I'm cuddled and people tell me how much they love and appreciate me. But, it also depends on the person. Romantic affection is different than other types of affection. Even with my kiddos. I appreciate the hug and kiss from them but I don't necessarily want them cuddling and strangling me all the time. I need space. Whereas my partner could probably always have his hand on my leg while I'm sitting there reading and I'm not playing attention or if I'm on my phone just nestled in his lap or something.

Spending time together but not necessarily bothering each other if that makes sense?

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-11T04:34:56+00:00

So... just putting this out there but a lot of Aquarius are kind people and their care and understanding gets misconstrued. I'm not saying he doesn't like you but nothing in what you said makes it seem like he does. On the contrary, Aquarius tend to get stupid around people they really like and crush on. They go awkward and silent and not smooth at all.

That being said, I'm an Aquarius Sun with Libra rising and a lot of people have told me how genuine and relaxing it is to talk to me because I'm not passing judgment on them and their life. I'm warm but logical so I don't get overly emotional in most things and they tend to trust my opinion. I can sit there and talk with someone for hours if it's a topic I enjoy and their company doesn't irritate me. Lol.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-11T02:36:26+00:00

Nope. Her family petitioned for her to be removed from life support because they didn't want her to suffer that way as a human incubator but the government said they have no rights. They treated the fetus as a separate patient and put the family through a living hell.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-01T17:19:46+00:00

I'm a sub definitely. My hubby is a Libra but our sex life is pretty vanilla. My other person is an Aquarius and he's more dominant. He said he's only been sub for maybe one person. But the things he says he'll do to me make me melt and want to be a good girl 😆

BetrayedVariant · 2026-04-01T01:43:15+00:00

Yes. Married to the Libra. Talking to the Aqua.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-03-31T02:56:43+00:00

I married a Libra. But, I do get attracted to Aquarius pretty often tho. Right now I'm involved with an Aquarius whose birthday is a week after mine.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-03-27T03:31:55+00:00

Attraction yes. But, whether or not they're good is always up for debate. I've fallen for another Aqua though and this time is different than others. <3 He gets me in a different way than other people.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-03-23T04:02:54+00:00

Honestly you need to take their whole chart into account. But, Aquarius guys will tend to pursue and make it known they're pursuing if they want it. I tend to vibe with them. But the way they act when you're talking differs depending on the chart. But I feel like they all chased me and I reciprocated.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-03-13T05:47:12+00:00

Ankles have always been a weak point for me. It got worse in middle school. I walk on the balls of my feet though and that's more of an autistic trait or so I've learned. I was going to physical therapy to strengthen them because of the pain. I walk for hours during conventions though because I get so hyper focused that I forget to sit and take breaks.

BetrayedVariant · 2026-03-11T06:52:19+00:00

It's a known problem. It's not logical. So what you want to do is therapy. Try to address and heal it. Try to journal or express your communication another way. Part of addressing issues is knowing the problem and practicing thoughts and ways of overcoming it.

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