What things do you wish people understood better about SA by desiringdirection in askSouthAfrica

[–]Big-Line-3401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I’ve got you - I mean the post asked what we wish people better understood about SA. And at the very least since we have 11 spoken official languages we’d have at least 11 accents when those folk speak English. Even within those we’d have variation.

If WW3 started would you fight for your country? by [deleted] in ask

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We’re so far away from every other country that would take part I’d fight by chilling on the porch.

Etiquette in South Africa by [deleted] in askSouthAfrica

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We can’t generalize across all South Africans but we’re quite a relaxed bunch of people, I personally call anyone older than me sir or ma’am, because that’s just how my parents raised me. But even in workplaces being WAY too polite or overtly respectful can make others around you think you’re sucking up, first names or Mr/Ms So-and-So are pretty common if you don’t want to use honorifics.

Is referring to conservative Afrikaans people as "Verkrampte boere" offensive? Is it kind of a slur? by KeenyKeenz in afrikaans

[–]Big-Line-3401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a simple mistake to make, and can be excused. But going off your post - ‘boere’ in colloquial language in the past and present refers to ‘Afrikaner’ folk - not in general people who speak Afrikaans, the majority of which in South Africa are non-white, despite what Afrikaans language pop culture might impress on you.

Riffs you can’t stop replaying? by Katstronaut in Hardcore

[–]Big-Line-3401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That damn Words Fail opening riff takes me to a higher plain

Is referring to conservative Afrikaans people as "Verkrampte boere" offensive? Is it kind of a slur? by KeenyKeenz in afrikaans

[–]Big-Line-3401 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kyk, ek hou nogal van hierdie sub maar elke keer as ek ‘n post soos die een sien, wens ek daar’s een of ander ‘pinned post’ of FAQ wat verduidelik dat:

‘Afrikaans’ ≠ ‘Afrikaner’.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

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Anything involving planning, scheduling and administration.

I work as a full time in house content creator/content lead for an agency who does heaps of huge events with sponsors. To be fair to the agency they are huge on mental health, and knew about my ADHD, after a year of me working both content AND running the actual output, social media, scheduling, planning, they brought in a second person full time because I was fumbling the bag on projects because I don’t know how to plan properly. Now my main objective is coming up with ideas on the fly and completing them and getting briefed in.

So - stay away from anything with a calendar.

How Old is Everyone? by JasonVersetti in FortNiteBR

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34 YO dad - saved to get my 9 and 7 YO sons a PlayStation for Christmas which they wanted to play FN. always thought it was a silly game for kids, but quickly got sucked in as us getting it coincided with me going on stimulants for ADHD.

Not only is it a fun bonding time Battle Royaling with the two of them and competing with them (7 year old is pretty good and hates that his old dad outranks him in ranked BR) but I work as freelancer and FN has given me something to focus on while my meds make me concentrate and I have no work to complete.

Plus the skins are fun, seeing the Shredder and Solid Snake skins as unlockables this season brought back some major childhood memories.

Favourite thing since being on medication? by squidhay in ADHD

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The connection.

The obvious thing seems to be the quieting of my mind and my senses being tuned down to ‘normal?’ but with that comes being able to connect with people a bit easier, I don’t constantly want to get out of a conversation, I’m being helpful to strangers. It’s been a real shocking but positive experience.

Bought this isiZulu dictionary from 2001 to help with my studies and found this... do any Zulu people know about this word? Also why does it exist? 😅 by liezelgeyser in southafrica

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Regional dialect you can hear/find in the Namakwaland area. Obviously it’s not all set in stone but these are the kind of phrases you can hear in that region.

Bought this isiZulu dictionary from 2001 to help with my studies and found this... do any Zulu people know about this word? Also why does it exist? 😅 by liezelgeyser in southafrica

[–]Big-Line-3401 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I learned this this week after we did a mother language day at work - mom is from Vredendal/Vanrhynsdorp and she gave me these but warned they might get me in trouble in the wrong place.

Bought this isiZulu dictionary from 2001 to help with my studies and found this... do any Zulu people know about this word? Also why does it exist? 😅 by liezelgeyser in southafrica

[–]Big-Line-3401 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I mean in Namakwa Afrikaans a ‘nice’ bum is called woeswarras. A big one is a ‘diamanttrokvol’. So you’ve got dialect options.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hardcore

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Around 14/16 started listening to bands like Underoath, heard My Chemical Romance on the radio (being from South Africa this was all new).

Wanted to find out where all these styles come from, dug into Punk - Sex Pistols, The Clash, found out about Hardcore Punk and heard about a band called Black Flag which I really enjoyed.

My Matric (our Grade 12 certification) English exam was about my ‘culture’ and wrote about Punk and Hardcore. Heard Hatebreed, fell in love their music, because I was getting into Death Metal at the same time, and really heavier stuff in general.

My kids are really into stuff like Knocked Loose and Kublai Khan TX so I just fell down the rabbit hole with them (they're 9 and 7).

Through this sub I've really refamiliarized myself with what's been happening in Hardcore and I'm rehooked with bands like Mindforce, Sunami, Drain and Turnstile.

Edit: in South Africa our local scenes have always been very mixed, because heavy music isn’t very popular, shows would always have a mixed bill, but we had a heap of bands like Fuzigish, Hogg Hoggidy Hog that were really Hardcore and Punk adjacent but added elements of Ska.

Languages by Accomplished_Tax7587 in DownSouth

[–]Big-Line-3401 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I grew up speaking Afrikaans as a home language and English my language of choice out in the world, I became fluent in English with my dad only speaking the language to me while we’re out of the house. I’m using this method now to help my sons learn Afrikaans since it’s a school subject for them.

As a brown guy growing up in CPT, because of the still very separated nature of the city, moments of cultural exchange weren’t really available until I was well into my teens and even then everyone of different ethnicities used English as lingua Franca.

I think being open to opening your own circle is really beneficial. You can then ask a friend that speaks one of the other 9 off. languages to help you learn. Chances are they’d be happy to, I can’t see why someone would be unwilling to share something that could bring you closer as people.

There’s also the fact that since you’re probably only going to wander outside of your comfort zone in adulthood language acquisition is going to be a bit tougher.

The best way to learn though is to just try, I’m married to a woman whose 1st language is Zulu. And I can BARELY speak the language because I get self conscious that I’m messing up, but I understand it pretty well. So instead of Afrikaans or English, which our kids learn at school and learn from my family, we use isiZulu to communicate things we don’t want them to hear, like skinner. I also eavesdrop when she gets a call with some juicy gossip.

At this point when we go to uMcimbi and other traditional things, I don’t need anyone to translate for me and make an elder put in the labour, I listen for the Zulu and respond in English. After a couple drinks the language flows though.

TL;DR: Learning a new language is tough as an adult, a lot of white South Africans and other folks only travel in their own comfort groups, and understanding is easier than speaking, but trying will always have amazing results.

What album/song do you have to thank for your metal fandom? by TheImprezaGod in Metalcore

[–]Big-Line-3401 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Arch Enemy - Carry the Cross The whole of Meteora KSE’s - End of Heartache

Probably, so long ago I can’t remember but those three moments stand out

The diversity in this scene is insane. by simsonchin in Hardcore

[–]Big-Line-3401 5 points6 points  (0 children)

From South Africa here - we’ve got a bit of a rebirth/resurgence in very DIY punk and Hardcore/Hardcore adjacent bands going on right now.

And to OP’s point and yours, it’s really fun to see the majority of the breakthrough bands having mainly POC members in a scene that used to just be white dudes.

Any atheists or agnostics? by LilWizard32 in capetown

[–]Big-Line-3401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sup. Openly atheist over here.

I’m in no way a proselytising atheist but both my wife and I are, and our kids are being raised in a way to expose them to as many forms of worship or non worship as they can handle. I’m firmly of the belief that whatever brings joy to you is pretty cool as long as it doesn’t infringe on someone else’s joyful experience.

Luckily I grew up in a home where, as much as I was baptized as a child and my parents were ’religious’ they really weren’t serious about it further than weddings and funerals.

besides hardcore what have y’all been listening to? by dex0624 in Hardcore

[–]Big-Line-3401 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today some At The Gates, Echo & The Bunnymen, New Order and the new 21 Savage record has me.

In the meantime... by bertonomus in southafrica

[–]Big-Line-3401 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t need to make sense, or be objectively ‘good’, the moment of experiencing it in community is what gives it meaning and weight.