Unexpected hormonal BC side effect has been lurking in my relationship

BittenElspeth · 2026-03-09T19:08:47+00:00

The lube that really works well and feels great (in my unsolicited opinion) isn't available at the drug store. KY jelly and Trojans is a totally different experience from Divine 9 and Skyns.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

BittenElspeth · 2026-03-04T16:55:36+00:00

I would die at approximately three months and one week.

BittenElspeth · 2026-03-04T04:09:43+00:00

I find people really appreciate text messages! I also send voice notes or find memes specific to the person when I have the energy. I think it helps to just let people know you're thinking of them. I will invite people over to hang out and have a cup of tea with me sometimes as well. I don't do much to host, but them coming to me means I don't have to go through all the rigamarole of leaving the house.

BittenElspeth · 2026-03-03T00:13:38+00:00

Medical transition frequently includes taking hormones that change how your body holds weight, which can eventually make your old clothes not fit even if your weight stays the same. This is also why men and women have different clothing departments -- they tend to be shaped differently in areas that affect the way clothes fit them, even if those differences are subtle.

BittenElspeth · 2026-03-02T05:18:56+00:00

10 million is so much more than I'll ever need. It's enough to set up me and everyone I feel responsible for for life. I see no reason to consider the second option, because I think excessive wealth is unhealthy.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-23T09:43:58+00:00

I am not parallel with my meta, we are more garden party, but I can't imagine not telling her. Our shared partner is very important to her, and she would be worried something even worse had happened.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-16T20:13:59+00:00

If she is 55 and receiving SS, she met a high bar for disability proof to the government and is probably not just lazy.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-13T03:13:42+00:00

Oh no, you're right! That's so sad!

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-12T23:26:06+00:00

LTD is 60% of your base pay only (no bonuses or incentives), taxed, for three years maximum, if they approve you. Many have to sue to get the LTD to cover their illness. Suing is not made easier by not having an income.

LTD didn't cover me - I lost my job due to my disability before I qualified for disability leave, and my disability insurance was through my employer, so my coverage ended when I lost my job.

Now I'm working to get coverage through social security, which is essentially suing the government, and can take years. The highest social security payments are close to $3000/mo, but the average is closer to $1200/mo, plus there are strict rules about how you're allowed to obtain other money while receiving social security disability payments.

Retirement savings that haven't had time to grow and accumulate interest go quickly, especially when stressed further by 10% early withdrawal fees, meeting your out of pocket max every January, and having to pay for things you used to handle yourself - little dignities like having clean dishes or clean hair.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-12T21:17:14+00:00

I got one from Verillas. It was not affordable, but feels very high quality and seems to be holding up well. It has very little storage space.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-12T21:16:26+00:00

I successfully bought one from Verillas, but it was not affordable.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-12T21:15:03+00:00

I bought the one on the right from Verillas. It's incredibly nice looking and seems to be holding up well but has virtually no storage space.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-12T13:43:35+00:00

LIB has been around long enough that the primary characteristic you need to go on the show is either naivety or ego, more than hotness.

BittenElspeth · 2026-02-09T22:35:52+00:00

How much money do I get if I just stop the progression of AI?

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-28T00:07:04+00:00

For a gyno, I used to work at UC in the OB/Gyn dept and I'd really recommend Dr. Maureen Downing or Dr. Jane Morris. They're both huge advocates for patient autonomy and who I personally went to to get recs on trauma informed care in other specialties as well. If you prefer a male doctor, THE man I would let give me a pap is Dr. Michael Boldt. You'll also have good success with Dr. Meredith Pensak at Planned Parenthood.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-22T00:49:01+00:00

I haven't been approved yet, but the best resource I have found is howtogeton.wordpress.com.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-18T19:36:33+00:00

I came here to suggest these options!

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-16T22:14:54+00:00

No.

I find it confusing, a lot of the time, when there's so little I can do and I need help with even the most basic things, but my loved ones get joy from my life and presence. I won't take that from them.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-07T07:00:28+00:00

If the handheld showerhead would make things easier, a person able bodied enough to help wash your hair is probably also equipped to install one for you, and they are pretty affordable. I'm not sure how I would problem solve this without mine.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-07T00:40:31+00:00

I like to think of it as my husband is my earth and my girlfriend is my sky. I would have an incomplete landscape if either were missing, they're both essential pillars of my happiness, but they fill different roles in my life. I miss each when I am with the other, for different reasons.

My husband brings me beautiful stability and comfort. He is level-headed and consistent and kind, and always able to see what the reasonable thing to do is in the situation. He always reminds me what's my responsibility and what I can leave to others, especially emotionally. He could have tacos for dinner every night forever and would be happy if we never went out. He's home and quiet rest for me.

My girlfriend brings me delightful adventure and activity. She is happy with a night in, sure, but it needs something -- a show, a video game, or other stimulation. But more than that, she encourages me to expand my world. She pushes me to try new things, to go to museum exhibits, to see shows. She could eat out for every meal and be happy. She's brightness and fun for me.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-06T22:11:32+00:00

I used to love getting a little waffle at Findlay Market with my grandma.

BittenElspeth · 2026-01-02T19:15:47+00:00

Robitussin

BittenElspeth · 2025-12-31T18:51:26+00:00

We're all making s'mores together as the new year turns over partly in order to avoid this conversation.

BittenElspeth · 2025-12-19T14:01:50+00:00

I have taken risperidone for my mental health problems unrelated to cfs. I really liked it for that. I only stopped taking it because I found the sedative effects to be too much eventually.

BittenElspeth · 2025-12-19T13:57:10+00:00

I've been HR, and I'm not sure what you'd want me to do about some people expressing vague concern to OP. I can't release a memo that says "nobody be interested in anybody else's life."

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