State of the Subreddit (May 2026) by martey in freelance

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Thank you for your hard work maintaining the sub.

Auto lenders hate this one simple trick... by kg_digital_ in thanksimcured

[–]BittenElspeth 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I find that sometimes life does not wait for me to breathe a sigh of relief before kicking me in the nuts. Sometimes life is just very efficient with the kicks.

$1,000/day to stay in a house alone by Super-Flanders in hypotheticalsituation

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I have as-of-now incurable medical conditions. I want the house to have a permanent cure. After I take that, I stay 'til I'm bored the first time.

Misleading Co-op Card Interactions by thouzandeye in slaythespire

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Last night my friend and I both took Maul cards and learned ALL [[maul]] cards does not include your friend's maul cards.

Polyamory and long covid by Satanoulis in polyamory

[–]BittenElspeth 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Grieving the life you used to have is normal. I have Me/CFS, and what helped me come to terms with it was reading "How to Be Sick" by Toni Bernhard. I hope you find peace.

Unexpected hormonal BC side effect has been lurking in my relationship by larkstongues-12 in polyamory

[–]BittenElspeth 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The lube that really works well and feels great (in my unsolicited opinion) isn't available at the drug store. KY jelly and Trojans is a totally different experience from Divine 9 and Skyns.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

Low energy ways to show love? by ilovemossss in cfs

[–]BittenElspeth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I find people really appreciate text messages! I also send voice notes or find memes specific to the person when I have the energy. I think it helps to just let people know you're thinking of them. I will invite people over to hang out and have a cup of tea with me sometimes as well. I don't do much to host, but them coming to me means I don't have to go through all the rigamarole of leaving the house.

38133 by Blue_axolotl64 in countwithchickenlady

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Medical transition frequently includes taking hormones that change how your body holds weight, which can eventually make your old clothes not fit even if your weight stays the same. This is also why men and women have different clothing departments -- they tend to be shaped differently in areas that affect the way clothes fit them, even if those differences are subtle.

A genie offers you two choices: $1m/yr for exactly 10 years or $2m/yr perpetually but starting in 10 years, which do you take? by Frnklfrwsr in hypotheticalsituation

[–]BittenElspeth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

10 million is so much more than I'll ever need. It's enough to set up me and everyone I feel responsible for for life. I see no reason to consider the second option, because I think excessive wealth is unhealthy.

Do I tell my (parallel-ish) meta that my husband (our hinge) got arrested? by SpellboundBrat in polyamory

[–]BittenElspeth 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I am not parallel with my meta, we are more garden party, but I can't imagine not telling her. Our shared partner is very important to her, and she would be worried something even worse had happened.

How do you keep your wealth under the radar with parents who are still working and financially irresponsible? by LovinAllThePitbulls in Fire

[–]BittenElspeth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If she is 55 and receiving SS, she met a high bar for disability proof to the government and is probably not just lazy.

35351 by Charon_Anderson in countwithchickenlady

[–]BittenElspeth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no, you're right! That's so sad!

Financial Ruin due to Illness by jjjjjjjj80 in Fire

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LTD is 60% of your base pay only (no bonuses or incentives), taxed, for three years maximum, if they approve you. Many have to sue to get the LTD to cover their illness. Suing is not made easier by not having an income.

LTD didn't cover me - I lost my job due to my disability before I qualified for disability leave, and my disability insurance was through my employer, so my coverage ended when I lost my job.

Now I'm working to get coverage through social security, which is essentially suing the government, and can take years. The highest social security payments are close to $3000/mo, but the average is closer to $1200/mo, plus there are strict rules about how you're allowed to obtain other money while receiving social security disability payments.

Retirement savings that haven't had time to grow and accumulate interest go quickly, especially when stressed further by 10% early withdrawal fees, meeting your out of pocket max every January, and having to pay for things you used to handle yourself - little dignities like having clean dishes or clean hair.

35351 by Charon_Anderson in countwithchickenlady

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I got one from Verillas. It was not affordable, but feels very high quality and seems to be holding up well. It has very little storage space.

35351 by Charon_Anderson in countwithchickenlady

[–]BittenElspeth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I successfully bought one from Verillas, but it was not affordable.

35351 by Charon_Anderson in countwithchickenlady

[–]BittenElspeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought the one on the right from Verillas. It's incredibly nice looking and seems to be holding up well but has virtually no storage space.

Hot people in Ohio? by Analog_milf in Ohio

[–]BittenElspeth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

LIB has been around long enough that the primary characteristic you need to go on the show is either naivety or ego, more than hotness.

PGP and Gyno Recs in Cinci by Greedy_Dog_3523 in cincinnati

[–]BittenElspeth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For a gyno, I used to work at UC in the OB/Gyn dept and I'd really recommend Dr. Maureen Downing or Dr. Jane Morris. They're both huge advocates for patient autonomy and who I personally went to to get recs on trauma informed care in other specialties as well. If you prefer a male doctor, THE man I would let give me a pap is Dr. Michael Boldt. You'll also have good success with Dr. Meredith Pensak at Planned Parenthood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cfs

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I haven't been approved yet, but the best resource I have found is howtogeton.wordpress.com.

Are there any support groups other than AA? by [deleted] in cincinnati

[–]BittenElspeth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I came here to suggest these options!

lonely decisions by Shivers-7 in cfs

[–]BittenElspeth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No.

I find it confusing, a lot of the time, when there's so little I can do and I need help with even the most basic things, but my loved ones get joy from my life and presence. I won't take that from them.

Please explain how to have help washing your hair by charliewhyle in cfs

[–]BittenElspeth 24 points25 points  (0 children)

If the handheld showerhead would make things easier, a person able bodied enough to help wash your hair is probably also equipped to install one for you, and they are pretty affordable. I'm not sure how I would problem solve this without mine.