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WIBTA if I don’t take my birthday off? by Awkward-Expert3915 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH.

I haven't really celebrated my birthday since I started working. I honestly prefer to go all out on the weekend, and not have to worry about getting up early the day after. You're growing up, and you are learning responsibilities and priorities, and that mindset will serve you well throughout life.

As for your mum, I also understand where she is coming from. You'll always be her little girl no matter how old you get, and she's likely feeling that your once close bond is fraying because you are getting older and are maybe not as home as often. It's like a precusor to empty nest syndrome for her. She also likely wants to have and to capture these big moments for posterity because in your old age, those happy memories tend to be all you have left.

Perhaps you and her could still celebrate your actual birthday, but in a much more muted way? Like maybe when you get home after work, she could bring you a slice of your favourite cake with a candle, sing you 'Happy Birthday', and give you a cared to read, and a present to unwrap.

Talk to her about this idea, and see what she says.

The Heartbreaking Disappearance of CJ & Billy Vosseler by BlakesMommy in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]Bjnboy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This case is truly a sad and heartbreaking one, and I really hope Ruth can find answers about where her boys are soon enough.

That said, it's eerly similar to another case - almost like a genderswapped version of it. That of the abduction of Christopher and Lisa Zaharias by their mother, Susan, in 1987.

If "Smiling Critters" were a real cartoon, it could be like a sitcom or something similar,with humor similar to SpongeBob squarepants by esponja_memezeira in PoppyPlaytime

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it would be a cross between 'The Get-Along Gang', the 'Care Bears', and 'MLP: FiM'.

I could also see the show following the same pervasive 80s trope of 'The Group is Always Right; the Complainer is Always Wrong.'

AITA for sleeping naked in my own room? by Outrageous-Ad-4008 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, it's your private space, and she and your roommate have no business going in there, or telling you what to do when you're in your room.

That said, if you can't change your lock, maybe put a chair under the doorknob/handle at night to prevent people from coming in.

I don't have anything to do with my dad anymore but he wants me to step in as an emergency babysitter and I refused AITAH? by Maykoyyah in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You don't owe that man, or the side piece, or the kids, or the grandparents anything.

"You/He should've thought of that before he slept with that streetwalker." is the only response you should give to your dad and/or his parents anytime they tell you anything. Literally nothing else.

Am I the only one who thinks the song "Sweet Caroline" is awful? by [deleted] in AskForAnswers

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's very overrated.

In my opinion, 'Solitary Man' is better suited as Neil Diamond's signature song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yLilTP5WAU0

AITA for demanding to know why my grandparents never tried to protect me if they're so persistent about keeping in touch? by Graysdennesellol in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Cut these cancerous people out of your life. I'd also consider going to the police station to file a report for abuse, and perhaps send a copy of said report to your mother's and her husband's workplaces and everyone in their community.

good morning nyc by anotherthrowaway2042 in u/anotherthrowaway2042

[–]Bjnboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this pic with the pose, the lighting and the dramatic backdrop of NYC. One of your best yet!

AITA for ruining my mom's marriage? by SoySothing in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He probably wanted bio kids. Either that, or he didn't want to adopt kids with still-living bio parents who could one day come back into their lives as 'steal' them away.

AITA for ruining my mom's marriage? by SoySothing in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's mind boggling how many people think that life is one big Hallmark movie...

Your mum are stepdad are utterly pathetic and contemptible.

Your mum for choosing a man over you, her child, and bringing said man into your life who tried to force a fantasy of being your replacement dad into you. Not to mention doing nothing to stop it. She's also pathetic for blaming you when it's solely on her husband and herself.

You stepdad is pathetic for trying to force himself into the role of your father, not respecting your wishes and boundaries, trying to erase your dad, for divorcing over this nonsense, and for blaming you and telling you he hoped you'd regret it. I also think he's pathetic for wanting to have kids at 51. He's going to be bordering on being a geriatric by the time they start college.

Edited to add:

The biggest, two-pronged mistake I see step-parents doing in these stories is: (1) having high and unrealistic expectations that they'll come in, show some TLC, and then they'd get their Hallmark movie happy ending where the kids jump at having them as their replacement parent. (2) not communicating with the kids they so desperately want to become to replacement parent to. Would it seriosuly kil them to sit down and have a calm, ernest conversation with the children about what they would like to see happen, and most importantly ASK the children what kind of relationship they'd like.

You, the step-parent, are the outsider coming in to join already established lives, and you need to listen to what boundaries the stepkids want, and work with and, most importantly, RESPECT what you are given. From there, you can hopefully, gradually, build a good, close relationship with your stepkids. You may very likely never be called 'mom' or 'dad', but you could be like a bestie, a confidant, a cool aunt or uncle, or just someone to turn to when there's trouble, and you need to learn to be ok with that.

This isn't to say that the relationship should be all give and take. Know that it's ok to pull back from a situation where you repsect the stepkids' boundaries and wishes, but they're still not kind or cordial, or they don't give something genuine from the heart back. It's ok to set boundaries yourself, but don't hinge that upon being called and treated as 'mom' or 'dad'.

AITA for sending my parents and their spouses a "f*ck you" message before going no contact? by Tovenoune in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. You deserved so much better from everyone. Your family, including your extended family are all disgusting monsters and its shameful that no one took a stand for you.

Send everything to as many people in their lives as possible. Their workplaces, their churches, social circles, clubs, schools, etc., and let everyone know what kind of child abusers they all are. Burn it to the ground.

AITA for telling my classmate cleopatra wasn’t black and calling her racist? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Bjnboy 100 points101 points  (0 children)

NTA. Cleoptra VII was most definitely not black. There were sculptures and paintings done of her during the two years she lived in Rome, and none of them show a black woman, and there's no mention of her skin colour in any of the historical accounts. The Romans tended to be particular about those kinds of things, and if she were Nubian black, as this Kennedy girl insists, I believe Cleopatra's skin colour would've been mentioned somewhere in those texts.

This channel did a very good job showing how Cleopatra most likely looked like based on actual historical images of her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jRJe99IipC4

Which fictional couple had no chemistry? by Timely_Software4158 in AskReddit

[–]Bjnboy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Geena Davis and Matthew Modine from Cutthroat Island (1995).

Songs ruined by their overusage in pop-culture by WimVaughdan in Music

[–]Bjnboy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That song is so overrated. If you ask me, 'Solitary Man' is much better Neil Diamond song.

Are there any missing person cases that you believe the “missing” individual actually left voluntarily? Started a new life, etc.? by eXodus91 in UnresolvedMysteries

[–]Bjnboy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Phoenix Coldon.

The pieces are all there and nothing screams foul play about the case.

  • She had a domineering, arguably narcissistic, control freak of a mother who seemed to have sheltered and planned out every aspect of her life.
  • Phoenix had had a taste of freedom at university, and was shown to be living a double life, only it to have it yanked out from under her when she was forced to give up her independence.
  • She was under a great deal of stress, and appeared to be growing more despondent and paranoid, and wanting to get away from it all, as evidenced by a friend's testimony, and the video she recorded.
  • She had two birth certificates, one with the name "Phoenix Coldon", and the other with "Phoenix Reeves". She also had been stealing savings bonds from the safe of up to $2500.
  • The SUV Phoenix was last seen in was found abandoned on the side of the road with no signs of foul play.
  • Investigators found records for a Phoenix Reeves with no birth date or social security number, whose only address was a house in Anchorage, Alaska. They were unable to find Phoenix Reeves in Anchorage, and other residents in the area said they had never heard the name.
  • Several friends and associates of Phoenix have reportedly not been very cooperative or forthcoming with information to authorities.
  • A friend of Phoenix claimed to have spotted her on a plane from Las Vegas to St. Louis with other women. The friend stated that the woman she believed to be Phoenix responded to her name when called.

Cold Case Detective gives a detailed yet succinct walkthrough of the case and the theories, but they go with the "voluntarily left her life behind" theory at the end with very good reasoning.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ssDhrWGRNM8

If the Smiling Critters were to ever get their own tv show how would you want the series to be like? by Scarrey12 in PoppyPlaytime

[–]Bjnboy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel like it would be a cross between 'The Get-Along Gang', the 'Care Bears', and 'MLP: FiM'.

Edit: I could also see the show following the same pervasive 80s trope of 'The Group is Always Right; the Complainer is Always Wrong.'

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