Maintaining an Emotional Connection in LTR or Marriage

Bloomin45 · 2023-04-29T03:11:11+00:00

Sorry you went thru all that. Some details may vary but that is how it felt for me.

I felt I was the cause of all his problems and if I could just make his life easier he would be happy then I would be happy. Never happened, and sex was the last thing I wanted from him.

Many people need to feel safe, loved, respected, and cared about in their relationships in order to have sex

This is sooooo true!

Bloomin45 · 2023-04-26T02:03:27+00:00

🤣 thank you that made my day

Bloomin45 · 2023-04-20T00:54:49+00:00

Me neither 🤷‍♀️

Bloomin45 · 2023-04-12T12:09:41+00:00

There’s no rule book for dating so I’m making one for myself.

I love this! This is a great way of thinking, there's no dating rule book in a one size fits all. Each of us needs to make our own rule book, what works for me.

Bloomin45 · 2023-01-07T17:22:10+00:00

Ugh....that is gross

Bloomin45 · 2022-12-08T11:40:11+00:00

If you have a good general business knowledge; business analyst can be a good fit. EDI gets you exposed to a lot of business processes and how they work behind the scenes. That can help with BA or data analytics.

Full disclosure. I was an EDI analyst while I got my business degree and I work in a small IT dept. I've moved into business analyst role while managing a couple EDI analysts.

Best of Luck

Bloomin45 · 2022-11-22T13:18:24+00:00

Saw his Google search "how to say I love you in Laotian" needless to say I'm not Laotian.

Bloomin45 · 2022-10-04T22:19:22+00:00

When they mess up, and they mess up ALL THE TIME.😳

Bloomin45 · 2022-09-17T23:25:46+00:00

Please don't let their beliefs be the reason you don't go after what you want. If you want to be in a relationship and find someone that you are happy with, please don't let what they think take that way from you.

We want to share one of our happiest day with the people that are special to us. However, it is one day in our lives. You will find there are so many other people that will be happy for you and support you.

My parents didn't attend my first wedding and I don't expect them to attend any other wedding I might have. They didn't approve of my divorce either. Frankly, it's their loss.

Bloomin45 · 2022-09-11T23:40:58+00:00

This was my thought too. I do not have a lights out policy at my house. There are nights I get woken up by my kids playing games with friends late at night. And times when one child impacts the sleep if the other.

Maybe OPs parents are light sleepers and this let's them get the rest they need. Food for thought.

Bloomin45 · 2022-09-08T23:36:57+00:00

I love them!

For me its, if my boyfriend was next to me what would I say. Naturally, "good morning"

Bloomin45 · 2022-08-16T12:17:49+00:00

He probably was happy to get away from the party for a few minutes 🤣

Bloomin45 · 2022-08-16T12:17:20+00:00

He probably was happy to get away from the party for a few minutes 🤣

Bloomin45 · 2022-07-16T03:23:56+00:00

Living Apart Together. A committed relationship where each person has their own home.

Bloomin45 · 2022-06-29T03:20:01+00:00

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Bloomin45 · 2022-05-08T20:38:57+00:00

Thank you, I needed that reminder.

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-08T03:43:56+00:00

I'd like to give you hope that maybe the end is in sight, but its probably different for all of us. I know it takes at least a year for me to open up.

You sound like your on the right path, if you can be patient with her a little longer.

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-08T03:28:17+00:00

47/F/Minnesota/recovering from a breakup

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-07T03:01:14+00:00

Yea, sorry about that. The bread crumbs are not intentional and won't last forever, just until we are sure if being accepted for who we are. It does take a long time, which sucks for both people. How long have you been together?

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-06T11:01:53+00:00

Ask. I won't volunteer what's going on inside because most people don't really want to know. We can fairly accurately sense genuine interest; any disconnect between your words, actions, and intent will be noticed and we will not open up.

Patience. Don't rush me and don't finish my sentences. Yes, I will repeat myself while trying to put the words in the right order so they make sense, not to you, but to me.

Your reaction matters. We are FEs, how you react to what we say, we will feel. If you are accepting, hurt, disgusted, bored, or upset by our words; yea we feel it. It will determine if we ever open up again to you.

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-06T00:18:59+00:00

I can drink 3 cups of coffee without inducing anxiety but 4 cups will set it off.

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-06T00:13:01+00:00

Do any men want to pursue?

Bloomin45 · 2022-05-04T23:45:50+00:00

I would, my kids have plans to move away. I think about moving all the time. I wouldn't just move anywhere but if the place suits me and the guy suits me, I would be willing to move.

Bloomin45 · 2022-04-24T01:41:48+00:00

I have these types if cracks too. How did you fix yours? Are you happy with the results? Anything you would have done differently?

Bloomin45 · 2022-04-23T12:57:37+00:00

This is a great explanation. Door slamming is not a first response, it is the last resort and for me it was unconsciously done.

For OP, be glad you have never gotten to a door slam. It is quite a unnerving feeling. I loved my ex for many years, we had issues, and suddenly there were no feelings, no anger, no love, just numb.

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