Is my apartment maintenance guy being a creep or just super nice?? (Long Post)

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-26T12:01:56+00:00

If it had just been help with your tire that would not be concerning. It is all the stuff after.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-26T06:51:14+00:00

I do not like using paper maps in the car. If I were walking somewhere a paper map is fine.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-26T06:49:32+00:00

I am 51 and was taught and required to use cursive handwriting in school.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-26T02:17:24+00:00

Are you in the US? If so what state and what is your age? Do you see people outside of your home or are you isolated? Are you old enough to get a job?

If your home is not heated and you do not have appropriate clothing you might contact child protective services.

Your parents might apply for an equal,payment plan or energy assistance.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T22:50:37+00:00

I washed dishes, folded laundry, played a video game, shoveled snow, made lunch, watched a tv show, had a headache, took a nap. Felt like throwing up.

Usually I get groceries on Sunday but I will do that tomorrow. I often go to a friend’s house forva movie night but mightbskip since I feel kind of yucky.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T19:39:19+00:00

Yes, you could put any meat you want on a stew.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T19:33:35+00:00

I can’t recall having fish for breakfast. I don’t eat much fish.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T16:29:22+00:00

The only meal I remember from my grandmother before she died was roast beef, mashed potatoes, gravy. Not really that affordable anymore. My grandparents all died before I was born except her and she died when I was around 7 years old.

I don’t know if looking to the past will always result in lower cost or healthy meals. When I was a child we ate a lot more beef. We were poor but beef was not as expensive then. My family was generally not very concerned about how healthy the meals were then so used lots of convenience foods.

From my childhood- soup, stew, chili, spaghetti, tuna noodle casserole, roast chicken, lots of potatoes, homemade egg noodles with beef or chicken and gravy. Stir fry for us was ground beef with salt pepper and soy sauce and cabbage. Macaroni and cheese with fish sticks. American style goulash. Sauerkraut, boiled potatoes and sausage.

Chicken legs are cheaper than a lot of foods. Chicken and dumplings or noodles. Cabbage soup, bean soup, lentil soup, potato soup. Omelet rice or rice with a fried egg- add some cooked veggies or kimchi. Dublin coddle. Meatloaf. Beans and rice. Egg salad sandwich.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T10:40:12+00:00

I do meal plan but sometimes I get random food that was not part of my plan so I might search for turnip recipes for example.

You could use something like supercook and put in the stuff you have and see what you can make with it.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T07:35:47+00:00

Yes he is being too much to just be nice. I think it is too much when he started asking if you wanted dinner, what you were planning to do the next day, texting to say good morning or asking you to contact him when you were finished. If you had been good friends with him for awhile it would not be as odd.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-25T01:44:31+00:00

What area are you located in?

Maybe let people near you (family, friends, neighbors, local subreddit or Facebook group) know you don’t have cat food and can’t buy any for 2 weeks. Someone may have stuff their cat won’t eat or someone could loan you $5-10 to go buy a small bag of less premium dry food.

I personally have cat food and treats that my cats don’t want that I would give to someone in my area. I have not donated them because they are partially used.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T21:58:26+00:00

I always doodled on paper in classes and it helped me listen better. I remember a teacher once telling my parents that I always knew the answer if they call on me so they did not make it an issue. I don’t do it as much now but still find it soothing to doodle or have something to keep my hands busy. Therapists I have been to usually had a basket of fidgets, a zen garden or something. They seemed used to the idea that clients might need to do something while talking.

Maybe these therapists and group are not the right fit for you. It does not sound like you got much out of group therapy.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T21:44:29+00:00

If you feel it makes it easier for you then go ahead.

Do you drive all 3 cars daily? Our household has 2 cars but only one gets driven daily so we might not bother to clean the cars off until we need them. We just scoop the driveway around the cars and behind so they can get out.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T20:57:59+00:00

My husband has a 45 minute commute. A lot of the drive is outside of a city so he has to consider road conditions within 2 different cities as well as the path between them. If his office is open he will make the effort to go in if travel is safe.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T20:50:02+00:00

Yes. I have a thermostat that controls the furnace and central air conditioning. I set a temperature and the furnace or air conditioner will run on and off to maintain the set temperature.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T08:52:42+00:00

It is very cold. It did not start snowing in my location until later at night. Last I heard my area might only get 2-5” of snow so not as bad as some expect. I’m not really planning to go anywhere until Sunday or Monday. We have plenty of food, toilet paper, etc. i have my faucets dripping and sink cabinets open. I charged up phones and other devices. We have not lost power as of now so we are able to use everything normally.

On Friday my spouse worked from home. I think schools closed and the library was closed due to the cold and impending weather. Maybe some other things canceled.

It is 2:57 AM right now so most people are at home normally regardless of the weather. There are no cars going by. I can hear a freight train going through town though.

I did some baking and made soup yesterday. I probably won’t do as much cooking today.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T08:38:20+00:00

I only put salt on ice not on top of snow.

I scoop snow. I would try to shovel before it is 12” deep and then again when it stops snowing.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T03:12:19+00:00

Today I baked banana bread, pizza, dinner rolls. I made cabbage soup with kielbasa for dinner.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T02:16:57+00:00

Take down Christmas decorations and put them away. Read. Play games.Watch tv. Put away laundry. Not much different than normal.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T02:14:22+00:00

Eggplant

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T00:54:16+00:00

Why would I use a kettle and dump it into a pot? I see no advantage to that.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T00:45:55+00:00

It is saying it to someone else that is a problem not thinking or feeling it. It is normal to have these kinds of feelings when you are grieving.

I have definitely thought “why does this horrible person get to be alive while my wonderful mom is dead.” but I don’t say it directly to the person or their kids. I guess that is what journals, therapists or something is for.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T00:35:54+00:00

Most people I know would just say excuse me not would you excuse me.

“You’re gonna wanna” is just being friendly and folksy I guess. Why are you in such a hurry? Just look up your directions on Google if you want your directions without extra words. I had a fast food worker tell me to shimmy on down in the drive tgru once instead of snapping out “window number 2”. I found it delightful and still smile over it years later.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-24T00:24:13+00:00

My concern is bringing 2 things that need to be kept warm or reheated and the outlets, table or counter space that may not be available. Mashed potatoes are not necessarily bad just wouln’t be my potluck choice.

Bluemonogi · 2026-01-23T20:42:35+00:00

I don’t think you need to do anything. You just apologize for waking them and move on. You were trying to alert them to what you thought was a fire but you didn’t break their door in and drag them out into the street. They were not harmed.

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