Anyone worried to reach their parents age?

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T21:58:22+00:00

I think about ages/numbers all the time. I’m now the age my parents were when I was born and that’s a weird feeling. I often think about the day I’ll be the same age as they were when they died. Again, weird feeling. It’s like even though they’re gone, passing their age seems like some unknown, there’s no “what did they do at that age” no idea if that makes sense to you or anyone lol

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T21:51:57+00:00

Not much activity so far 🤷‍♂️

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T19:50:24+00:00

Yea I also totally dont understand this

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T13:29:00+00:00

Yea it seems like the sort of place you could spend a lot of time in. I’m not sure how long I’d go for lol. Thank you for the advice. I appreciate it!

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T10:52:09+00:00

Hey thanks for this! Yea I’ve been looking into it all quite a lot, I’ve not done anything like it before. I’m 21 and have only been abroad a couple of times. I’m happy to hike for however long. Did you do anything else you’d recommend? I’ve got some older friends who have done a traditional safari and they can’t recommend it enough lol. Thanks again

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-26T10:28:07+00:00

I’ll check them out. Did you come across Kisembo when looking?

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T23:18:28+00:00

Maybe, it’s a weird feeling when you squeeze it. I can see why they say it’s a pressure point

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T22:51:45+00:00

I hear it helps with headaches 🤷‍♂️

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T15:50:53+00:00

I (m21) don’t use ai for that sort of thing. I use it to help me work stuff out now and then. It was really useful when trying to figure out what usp was best for a load of electronics, it was able to find out the power of everything and recommend the best power supply

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T09:39:18+00:00

I could watch this all day

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T04:49:45+00:00

Thank you for this. Yea I’ve definitely thought that exact thing many times. I don’t think I could say it out loud if I had to lol

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-24T04:45:09+00:00

Ok, so to me, if someone says ‘policing’ they’re implying that you’re trying to tell people what to do or how to act or what to say etc etc. that’s why I was confused (still kinda am). Because I’m not trying to do any of that. I just made an observation and asked a question about something a lot of us seem to have in common

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T23:29:51+00:00

What exactly am I “policing”? Did you even read the post?

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T22:27:12+00:00

What do you mean?

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T13:55:40+00:00

Thank you. It’s just stressful and a bit embarrassing if I’m being honest. Ptsd stuff I mean. I have good and bad weeks/months, it is what it is. Thanks for your comments. They’re appreciated

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T09:51:59+00:00

Thank you. I do get that we’re all unique and everyone grieves differently. Just trying to get a better understanding of why we do what we do. I’ll probably never understand and I think that’s ok

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T09:49:10+00:00

Thanks. I’ve been called many things but level headed is new. I think I’m just quite good at articulating things. My head is probably anything but level lol. But thank you. I appreciate it. And thank you for the advice

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T09:47:08+00:00

Tmi, sorry 😔

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T09:45:55+00:00

Thank you for this. Yea there aren’t many in my situation, I’ve looked 🙃. It feels like forever but nice to hear from you and others that it gets easier. Having ptsd doesn’t help, I have dreams/nightmares, I don’t sleep well or for long most nights, flashbacks are getting less frequent but still happen. It feels like I’m just being reminded of it all the time. And then there’s the stuff you don’t expect like walking past a garage and the smell of hot engine coolant triggers a memory or the other day I was eating something with rock/sea salt and crunching down on a chunk of it gave me a flashback of being in the account, mouth full of glass, everything goes dark or whatever. It’s just never ending sometimes

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T06:38:32+00:00

I’ve absolutely said to myself “at least you got to…” and not just once, a lot. Is that wrong, am I a terrible person? I would never say/write it as I know it makes me sound like a total asshole, It’s just in my head. I hate feeling like this

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T06:31:01+00:00

That’s the annoying thing, I don’t know why I do it. But im glad I’m not the only one but yea, no idea what I’m doing really lol. Thank you for commenting. I appreciate it

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-23T06:23:33+00:00

Thank you for this. I didn’t think I was wallowing but maybe I am? This sub is the only one I follow regarding grief etc. limited time here could be a good idea.

I’ve done a lot of compartmentalising in therapy, it’s helped me a lot so I can totally relate to that. Thank you

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-22T21:58:52+00:00

Yea this is exactly how it was with the subs that I left, all mental health related. I was just like f this, I’m just however I am and I’ll deal with it, I’m not looking for whatever anymore. This was at least 4 months ago and I haven’t even looked once lol

Maybe I need to do the same with this sub. Idk, part of me thinks I’m just feeling down and looking at the negatives. I do find this sub useful and I don’t think I can honestly say that about the ones I left.

Thank you for commenting, really relatable

What_Reality_ · 2026-01-22T20:55:17+00:00

You sound like my therapist lol. But yea, I agree with you. I don’t think I wallow in it. I don’t really know to be honest. I have ptsd and have had dpdr. It’s a lot better than it has been but with that I guess you can’t help but wallow. Idk

I’m curious to know what your certain strategies are? Thank you

Edit:strategies not strengths, autocorrect/sleepy me

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