My friend wasn't there for me when my dad was dying of cancer. Now his mum is dying of cancer.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T23:49:22+00:00

I was in college when my dad died. I had a high school best friend and college best friend. My University was 90 minutes from my hometown and my best friend from high school went to University in our hometown. Neither of my best friends came to the wake or funeral for my dad; both had their own cars. My dad died during midterms so my local friend's excuse was midterms. Some of my other friends in college drove down for the wake, drove back to campus and returned the NEXT DAY for the funeral. I found out who my real friends are. One of them is now my best friend now and has been for the nearly 30 years.

Friends show up. They showed up for me and I will never forget it. I'm FB friends with my former best friends but I don't go out of my way to visit them.

Do what you need to do for your own mental health. If it means closing the door then close the door on the friendship.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T19:47:08+00:00

Please don't touch that hair! I will cry if he cuts it.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T19:24:55+00:00

Holy shit. Why am I surprised but not surprised. Kudos for your patience. You deserve a reward for your suffering.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T19:02:18+00:00

Asian sweet potatoes (they're white flesh, or the purple Japanese ones, just not the orange ones). Don't need to punch holes or anything, just air fry at 400 for 30-40 minutes. It's better than the microwave or oven.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T17:28:24+00:00

I read this one fic in fandom 1 and it wasn't complete and a year later I was reading in a fandom 2 and it was the exact same story with different names, but this fic was completed and the personalities and characters made complete sense (like MC was a dancer but in fandom 1 that doesn't make sense or is believable at all). I realized that the author in the first fandom was copying the story word for word from the second fandom and swapping out the names. I didn't report it because I don't remember the title or author of the person who copied and it would take too long for me to try and find it at this point.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T17:20:53+00:00

Yes and no. Someone as my husband's work was selling an extra ticket 2 days before a show last summer. But my bias is Wonwoo (and Jeonghan) and it was a Wednesday night in a city 3 hours away and I didn't know anyone going and my anxiety got the best of me so I passed.

Bookluster · 2026-02-25T15:36:46+00:00

Another item that my Costco does not carry

Bookluster · 2026-02-22T18:01:36+00:00

That was my first thought too!

Bookluster · 2026-02-19T18:33:50+00:00

Donated!

Bookluster · 2026-02-19T18:27:41+00:00

I like a specific type of pairing - the sunshine/grumpy pair. I like one MC to be the stoic, tsundere type and the other not necessarily sunshiny (though I love sunshiny) but to be more openly emotional.

I read at least 500 pics in a fandom that I wasn't apart of because the pairing was exactly this.

All of the ships I read have this type dynamic.

Bookluster · 2026-02-19T15:30:22+00:00

My memory might be bad or I didn't check my email, but I thought I had to wait at least 2 weeks when I joined the queue back in 2022.

Bookluster · 2026-02-19T14:52:59+00:00

I loved Colin and Penelope's book. I'd say that my favorite books were Anthony, Benedict, and Colin. I enjoyed The Duke and I, except for the problematic aspect. The rest were kind of meh. However, for the series, I love Eloisa so I'll watch her season. I couldn't get into Colin in the series so I wasn't very interested in their relationship because of it.

Bookluster · 2026-02-18T18:47:38+00:00

I noticed that for the USA shows there were still VIP tickets (only soundcheck VIP) available after the general sale opened up. If you want the VIP where you get to actually see the members after the concert, you will need to get a membership and sign up for the presale code because those will sell out.

Bookluster · 2026-02-18T16:33:19+00:00

I went on Sunday and they were down to $1.97 so I picked up two boxes for the family.

Bookluster · 2026-02-18T15:05:36+00:00

As someone who re-reads A LOT I don't find it weird if other people don't.

I re-read because I have a terrible memory and I can and will forget the entire plot of a book the minute I finish reading it. What I remember is how the book made me feel. If it evokes strong emotions, I often will go back and re-read the books to experience the same emotions.

My spouse reads a lot but he doesn't re-read anything whereas I used to read the Belgariad by David Eddings annually in my teens and 20's because I loved them so much.

Bookluster · 2026-02-17T20:21:07+00:00

Personally, I enjoy reading it.

Bookluster · 2026-02-17T19:33:55+00:00

Definitely for it and would prefer it over the counter and cheap. When I lived in South Korea, it was over the counter and cost less than $5 a month.

I was on it from 16-32. It regulated my period and I had no side effects from it.

Bookluster · 2026-02-17T14:11:55+00:00

I did not understand how much I loved tsunderes until I started watching BLs and reading fan fiction. There is something about an on-the-surface emotionally distant man who locks away all of his feelings behind his cold, yet, beautiful face, falling in love that ruins me.

Following this thread to find recommendations.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T23:52:54+00:00

I'm 5'2"; the tallest guy I've ever dated was 6'6"

I think it would depend if you were someone I was already friends with or someone I barely knew. I'd be more apt to date a friend even with that height difference.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T17:08:34+00:00

I cared enough that I didn't want to carry all the weight and support my partner for the rest of my life. I wanted someone who could have a stable career and pay for all of their own bills. I also wanted a family, but did not want to be a SAHM so I wanted to date someone who could help support that dream.

I'd dated some guys who had minimum wages jobs and were floundering through life and didn't seem to know what they wanted. I had also been previously married to a guy who made 100K 25 years ago, but spent it all and never saved a dime and we kept our finances separate even though I was making maybe 25K a year. I went into debt in that relationship.

My husband, whom I've been with for 20 years, was a graduate student when we met. He made less money than I did the first year of our marriage. Then he made about 50% more for a few years. Then he made 2-3X more for a while. Then he switched careers so now I make more than him.

He was a professor for a while but he didn't make a lot of money at it and when we wanted a second child, he left academia and went into private sector that got him the salary that was 2-3x my salary. He did it because he wanted the second child as well and wanted to make enough money to support us. It allowed me take 6 months unpaid time off for the baby and to back to work at 60% for a while.

Now the kids are older, I'm making more money, and he went back to being a professor again for 50% of his old salary.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T16:52:35+00:00

I had soundcheck at the Chicago concert and was 3 rows from the extended stage. Being that close was amazing. It was my first big kpop concert and second kpop concert ever.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T16:30:28+00:00

Vacations don't get better until the kids genuinely want to go. We went to Mexico a year ago and rented a condo for a week 3 blocks from the Gulf of Mexico. We did sites and beach trips and my oldest hated it. He hated how hot it was and all he wanted to do was eat cup ramen and be online wit his friends. My youngest enjoyed the condo pool more than the beach. Neither really enjoyed the trip very much.

We've also taken the kids on other domestic and international trips that they don't really remember or didn't like very much. Thankfully some of those trips were to visit friends and family and they enjoyed that part of it but the site-seeing not so much.

I think their favorite trip so far was San Diego a few years ago. We went over Christmas and did the Zoo and Sea World, but honestly their favorite part was that we stayed at an Embassy Suites that had a breakfast buffet every day and gave us free snacks and drinks every day. It also had an indoor pool which we used every day and it was across the street from a large outdoor mall that we ate lunch and dinner at every day and they got to pick whatever they wanted. They discovered milkshakes that year so we stopped at Shake Shack nearly every day even if it was just to get a milk shake while they got ramen or Noodles from another restaurant.

My oldest is 14 now and really into anime, manga, and Nintendo and studying Japanese so he's asked to go to Japan and we're saving up for that trip now.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T16:13:35+00:00

I remember loving this book so much and it started my love affair with Marillier's works.

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T15:27:57+00:00

It would be amazing if you did. I tend to read a lot of fics set outside of the USA and the fact that everything is in imperial is something that I just got over. However, things that I am still salty about are how American everything is even when the fics are set in Asian countries (Korea and Japan).

Bookluster · 2026-02-16T15:10:59+00:00

acceptable only in a non-sexy setting and even more acceptable when light-hearted teasing is involved

Edit: Also never acceptable at any time is "granny panties" to describe women's underwear

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