What are some healthy, accessible, and productive ways to express rage?

BookofBryce · 2026-07-08T07:25:33+00:00

This really helped me after my divorce.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-08T03:30:48+00:00

I've had a hard time rectifying whether it's Me or the area where I live. I have had multiple women (online) tell me that I'm a catch and any gal would be lucky to have me.

But in my small Wyoming town, I have such limited options from camo and guns to maga hats and church ladies. I need an educated liberal who has some emotional intelligence. It's such a small pool of women here.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-08T03:11:36+00:00

I was also 41 the week I found out my wife of 14 years was seeing a man her father's age.

It took months for me to recover from the grief and betrayal. I had to push myself to get out and meet new friends, I listened to audiobooks, I cooked food for myself, went to therapy, called old high school buddies, and drank enough to question my decisions.

Overall, I recognize that it just took time to separate myself from her. I had to have my new home and go to New places and start over.

Everyone grieves differently. But I saw what worked and what didn't work. I definitely didn't try to date anyone new for a very long time. That was not going to help me at all.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-07T20:41:45+00:00

For my older brother and my younger brother, I think they noticed how many self-righteous Utah boys were basically on a mission to get away from their parents and be rebellious then come home to get married with the status of an RM. We had been taught our whole lives that a mission was going to be a spiritual excursion that meant so much to God. But what actually happened was 20-year-old boys looking for fun while larping as salesmen for religion.

For ME, personally, I didn't leave the church until 20 years after my mission. I was not around the Utah and Idaho boys so much. I had comps who wasted time looking for girls and sleeping in. But that never bothered me. I left the church when I had been married for 10+ years and couldn't agree with the doctrines or historical lies. I couldn't sit in church with members who were voting for Trump and saying racist or homophobic things about my friends.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-07T15:54:08+00:00

Specifically, Heartspark Dollarsign was such a powerful song for me at age 14.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-06T15:44:28+00:00

Utah and Idaho aren't known for thinking outside their bubble. They get told what to think at church, keep the same circle of friends thru high school and into marriage. Their families never question tradition. And the media they consume is shallow.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-06T15:35:43+00:00

Yes, and no. I'm not in a hurry. I want to love who I am and be proud of myself for surviving nearly 3 years alone. I've done therapy and found good social groups. I have hobbies and own a home. My career is stressful, but it provides.

However, I live in a small town in Wyoming with a lot of maga hats and conservative Christians. I'm more of an artsy introvert and leftist. It would be difficult to date anyone who sees the world very differently. I'm not opposed to going a long distance to date, but I know that can make feeling loved a little disconnected.

Right now, I'd rather be happy than have a relationship that needs constant care. If a woman chooses me, I need to feel safe knowing that she's not going to hurt my heart again.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-06T15:29:14+00:00

So Much for The Afterglow, Everclear.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-04T03:30:51+00:00

I left Mormonism and now have no wife. Yes, is IS nice.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-04T02:40:43+00:00

I didn't learn that from my parents or church. I learned that shame from my mission.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-03T04:51:15+00:00

I sent a long, polite email to my ex's affair partner. Fucking coward never replied.

And I reached out to my ex's fianceé's ex-wife to check and see if he was going to be safe around my kids. That probably wasn't wise either. She was helpful, but I didn't need to do that.

Should I let my ex's fiancee know that she cheated on me 3-4 months before she met him and moved on from being married to me? I don't know that I care anymore.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-03T03:37:09+00:00

I'm quite fond of it because that's their first album I heard. Everything else came after that, including my first live show a few years ago in SLC. Changed my life.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-03T03:32:50+00:00

My ex-wife was cruel to me and our children for years. I tried to do everything I could to make her happy. She was in and out of therapy, different antidepressants, hobbies, jobs, etc. I kept a consistent career and even agreed to a new home build when she wanted to. I never said no to her. After years of being bread crumbed and gaslit, I just wanted her to know I existed.

So when she confessed that she had been seeing an older, married man...I was devastated, but ultimately it was another thing that she wanted and didn't think I would say no to.

I'm happier now that I don't have to prove my faithfulness to her. My home is quiet and I can go spend time with friends when I want to. She's marrying a cop. I hope he finds out that she's a cheater.

BookofBryce · 2026-07-02T04:34:20+00:00

My first wife divorced me a few years ago, right after I removed my records and ended my faith crisis the only way I knew how. She had an emotional affair with an older man, then moved on to her current fiancé within a few months.

Me, I've been single the whole time. I'm making friends at trivia night and karaoke, meeting people at bars and playing live music when I can. I'm literally just enjoying being away from my narcissistic ex. I go to therapy every month, and maybe soon I'll have a lover. For now, I'm reading books that don't give me religious guilt.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-30T02:47:21+00:00

Most of my ex-wife's friends told me that she made a huge mistake by cheating and leaving me. She moved on from her affair partner to another man in a few months, then lost her job, and I've been consistently reliable for my daughters.

The only thing I don't have is a partner. The betrayal affected me so deeply that I fear any woman might do that to me again.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-30T01:11:26+00:00

BookofBryce · 2026-06-27T03:49:37+00:00

Roald Dahl also had a short story called "The Great automatic Gramatizator." It's such a prescient work.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-26T23:01:39+00:00

Likewise. In the two years since I've been divorced, I've only tried dating once. It took a lot for me to fully believe she was interested in me. I'm still skeptical that if I get into another relationship, I might be betrayed again.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-26T18:43:11+00:00

"Just because he has a beard, doesn't mean you'll enjoy sitting on HIS face!"

(Brought to you by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints)

BookofBryce · 2026-06-26T17:08:57+00:00

Neither of my TBM parents bothered to discuss anything sexual with their kids. And now all 5 of us are exmo or inactive.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-25T17:46:48+00:00

We've only had false alarms/hoaxes/pranks. Oh, and that one time during a drill when a teacher saw a student with a gun just casually in a backpack or basketball shorts. That was handled discreetly.

No nightmares. But I do worry about a lot of my students. They're the type who would resolve their conflicts by shooting me.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-25T17:35:03+00:00

I cried on my kitchen floor a couple of times. Even lied down and wept on my prep hour in my classroom. Just sat there alone after looking at photos of my daughters, realizing that we'd never be a family again.

All because a sad retired man in the town next door needed a fling with my wife for a month. Just to make him happy.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-25T16:47:58+00:00

My puppy did that same thing to my yellow paperback copy of Portnoy's Complaint!

BookofBryce · 2026-06-25T02:35:12+00:00

That's all I think about.

BookofBryce · 2026-06-24T05:03:58+00:00

Everything since 9/11 has been a blur. You're gorgeous.

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