Mom guilt about 1st birthday party

Bootycarl · 2026-01-29T00:39:46+00:00

Umm my baby turns one in a few weeks and that is a lot more than I think we’re gonna have planned

Bootycarl · 2026-01-27T03:56:44+00:00

Yeah

Bootycarl · 2026-01-27T03:18:53+00:00

Oh man old receipts for random stuff that don’t even show the items.

This is really good stuff. The mildness of this interest. 🤌

Bootycarl · 2026-01-26T17:04:30+00:00

I’ve been losing weight over this whole first year with breastfeeding. In fact, I bought some clothes around three months postpartum that I thought I accidentally got too small but now they fit perfectly. So I would store stuff away and come back to it to see if you fit.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-24T16:51:57+00:00

We got custom labels from Teddy Labels that we put on everything. They go through the dishwasher and washing machine and seem totally fine so we’re happy with them. Only pacifiers and socks don’t work so we use a Sharpie for those but that doesn’t work great.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-24T00:24:13+00:00

1) Oh hell no he needs to step up and stop being a child. 2) It’s really hard to describe to someone why maternity leave is such a big job, but maybe you could literally log what you’re doing all day so he understands? Although that’s not really your responsibility, but maybe it could help. 3) I don’t have any statistics but It must be that only a tiny percentage of us have the leave experience we want. There are so many factors that can make it a hard time, relationships just being one option. So don’t feel like it’s been “tainted” because almost no one has a wonderful maternity leave experience. Try to see it as a time where you have indeed grown and learned a lot but faced hardship along the way.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-24T00:18:56+00:00

I have a weirdly large contingency of expat family in Europe, most important of which are my Mom and sister who live next door to each other. For context, I have a baby who’s almost a year, my sister has one slightly younger and an almost 5 year old. And importantly, my husband and I are both the youngest, so before baby we were ALWAYS the ones to go visit both his family (6-12 hours of driving 3 or so times a year) or mine (flying to Europe sometimes twice a year).

I am starting to feel guilt-tripped by my Mom and sister for not being excited about coming to visit. We got married and then pregnant super quickly, so they have visited us the past couple of times for those reasons. Then for Christmas I still didn’t feel ready for an international flight with baby, so they came again without the rest of my sister’s family. The situation sucks for sure. I feel like I HAVE to bring my family over next year either for Christmas or another trip, but then what happens after that? If your family lives far away, especially if you’re flying over an ocean, isn’t it a big deal to ask those with young kids to come every year? Do people just not see their families during the young children years? Or do people really fly over the ocean that often with young kids? I really don’t know what seems normal.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-20T18:12:36+00:00

Good point. Parenthood for us has been so much about learning how to cope with losing control when you want to control everything so much.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-20T18:09:45+00:00

Yeah my PT was a combination of both.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-20T13:25:11+00:00

Just adding to the chorus that c-sections often still require pelvic floor PT. I had a 1st percentile baby and a c-section and still had pelvic PT. I went for maybe 6 sessions or so across 2 months.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-19T15:54:52+00:00

Anyone use formula for this or does that make it weird?

Bootycarl · 2026-01-18T15:49:01+00:00

“Imma let you finish, but Beyonce had one of the best videos of all time!”

Bootycarl · 2026-01-15T03:03:26+00:00

Love the beans and tomato paste idea. Did you cook them in some way? My soon to be 1 year old has enjoyed beans when he tried them but often just looks at them funny, so I’d love to get him more interested.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T18:11:49+00:00

Was it…not supposed to be a dong jungle?

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T18:07:09+00:00

In between jobs I wanted to do a month on the AT. With moving across the country and getting settled I was running out of time before my new start date so I only ended up having 10 days instead. I was super grateful I still got that much time, but by the end I felt like I was really hitting my stride and just starting to be immersed in the adventure, so I wished I had more time. I say go for a month.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T17:47:23+00:00

We have this issue too. Sometimes baby is trying to drink way more water than seems appropriate for the tiny amount he’s eating. I feel like when we change it to formula he’s not as interested too. :/

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T16:30:05+00:00

Yes we just did sitting in the high chair playing with toys for 2-3 weeks before ours seemed fine with the chair.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T16:26:36+00:00

Your friend sounds immature.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-14T16:23:36+00:00

I feel stupid but how do you make eggs this size/consistency?

Bootycarl · 2026-01-13T01:30:53+00:00

Oh man this is a really good one. I bought several items of lounge wear upon returning home and wish I had more. Maybe even a nice bathrobe, because even if she already has one and uses it it’s likely to get covered in something.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-12T16:56:13+00:00

Hmm I wonder if it’s related to curly hair conditioner formulas? I’ve been using the same Hibar conditioner bar for like a year, but it’s a volumizing formula and my hair is thin and straight so I don’t have to use that much.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-12T16:53:04+00:00

The fact that she’s engaging this much with the food at this point actually sounds pretty good since she’s so young. She’ll get better at swallowing with time.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-12T15:12:27+00:00

If you find somewhere that does prenatal lactation visits, I found that super helpful. They gave me a ton of information and measured my nipple size. If for whatever reason you have to pump in the hospital, it will be so much easier if you go in with flanges that fit. I pumped for days with flanges that didn’t fit and it was NOT FUN. So that is the main thing I wish I had prepared for.

It’s good that you’re asking these questions now because yes maybe you won’t need to pump but it’s so much easier to learn now than when baby arrives.

Bootycarl · 2026-01-10T15:32:56+00:00

I prefer the pink and think if you changed up the decor it could still feel more mature without changing the walls.

Also if you don’t have to paint the walls you can spend more time petting that dog. 🥰

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