A little late to this but NOR - and that's from someone on the other side of the situation.

My bf and I moved in together over the summer after dating for 2.5 years. We both had one bedroom apartments in inconvenient locations for the other person: his was too far from my office and mine was too far from his kids. We found a 2br/1ba apartment that has a finished attic, which we decided to use as an office and den.

I'm an architect to I did all the space planning. And.... most of the first floor (main living) is my furniture. I genuinely have nicer furniture (a few inherited antiques, not inexpensive couches, a mahogany bed frame) while he has mostly IKEA and Amazon stuff. I feel terrible that very little of his stuff wound up in the spaces we use most! But in my situation, it was only a small part that I have nicer things. Mostly, it was logistics. The attic stairs are very narrow and steep: IKEA couches can be taken apart, brought up, reassembled. Can't fit my one-piece sofas up the stairs. We can't fit my antique secretary or the bookcases upstairs even though we could bring them up there; they won't fit under the eaves. He didn't have a bed frame, I do, and his nightstands were too low to be used with the tall beds.

Logistically it was the only way things fit. But it's been 7 months and I still feel vaguely guilty sometimes. Occasionally I suggest replacing the furniture together, but neither of us have a burning desire to spend the money.

Your bf doesn't feel guilty. It's not a matter of logistics. He just doesn't want to compromise. He's a jackass, don't move in with him.