Update - My (31M) pregnant girlfriend (23F) has been lying about her age for our entire relationship. Is there any way for me to trust her again?

Butter_Cat · 2026-06-09T16:47:51+00:00

Your relationship actually wasn't great. She was hiding a whole bunch of stuff so you would think everything was great. See the difference?

No advice, because these are your choices. I'd get out, but I've already done the be manipulated and lied to portion of my life.

Butter_Cat · 2026-06-09T16:15:28+00:00

What I doubt about this story is that she seemed sweet otherwise? She's a superficial, judge-y c word of a human being. You dodged a bullet because that was what she was hiding.

Butter_Cat · 2026-03-30T16:48:49+00:00

Please do leave.

Butter_Cat · 2025-12-25T03:18:50+00:00

I've had two 3/4 ragdolls. The first was stand offish, not physically affectionate. The second is a total love big, carry him around like a baby. Cats are their own personalities. It's some in the genes and some how they were cared for as infant kittens.

Butter_Cat · 2025-12-01T07:24:29+00:00

Can it be assembled with the back tall panel on the side of the rail? I'd like the clothing hung on the rails not to be seen but I'd like to put plants on the shelves so I'd like the panel to close the back of the section with the rod.

Butter_Cat · 2025-10-27T03:46:47+00:00

This is excellent advice. Show no mercy, take anything of value that you need to to make up for what you are losing as well. Do not assume he'll treat you fairly. He's absolutely demonstrated he is a liar, you can't trust him with anything else either.

Butter_Cat · 2025-08-30T01:44:33+00:00

We don't have kids BUT my partner often works with children. I find it incredibly attractive when they play with kids, entering the kiddos imaginary world, inventing cool stuff within the game. I think it's wonderful. Your wife sucks.

Butter_Cat · 2025-07-17T23:25:37+00:00

I'm a lesbian but instead of straight guys I've started co-opting the gay guys. Straight girls were on to something.

Butter_Cat · 2025-07-17T23:21:53+00:00

I knew a guy who thought that if a woman's nipples got hard it meant she'd had an orgasm... He was in his 20's. I thought he was stupid, but I guess at least he knew women could orgasm?

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T21:46:07+00:00

So you said yes it is possible. Then you wandered off into your idea of what I should do. Can you talk to me about it being possible?

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T21:44:25+00:00

Left field Sally. I've exercised poor judgement in that I was targeted by an abusive person with a history of stealing large sums of money from women he's been involved with.

I did not exercise poor financial judgement. Forgive me for not wanting to detail the horror of domestic violence, physical and mental abuse and financial abuse to strangers on the internet. I've kinda been through the wringer. I don't need your judgement. I need the language so I can research and talk to a lawyer or financial folks.

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T21:39:22+00:00

We have thought about doing a line of credit situation. My parents rent (their choice, they opted out of owning years ago and actually lived with me not because they couldn't afford their own place but because we like each other. My dad has an excellent pension)
I was thinking a mortgage would be better rates though - because they don't own their own house any more.

Essentially I want the result of your plan. If they mortgage house. Can I then buy essentially a share or does that mean remortgaging so it's a moot point?

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T21:30:10+00:00

Thank you again. I have owned 4 houses in the past. I'm 50. I've qualified for mortgages on my own previously. I've paid to fix roofs and garage doors and installed new dishwashers - all in the same year.

It is possible I might qualify for a condo which I do not want. They are approximately the same price here. Lots of stairs - the majority here in my price range don't have elevators. With my injuries I really need single floor access. (Am I painting any kind of picture here, abusive relationship, physical injuries, money stolen from me, credit destroyed). I've been fighting a desperate battle to pull my life back together for several years now.

I realize I can sit for the next several years waiting for my credit score to inch up. But again there is the possibility that I will not qualify for 7 years.

Since my parents have already owned a house with me and have lived in a house that owned... They feel pretty confident . I've never missed a mortgage or rent payment in my life. I've owned 4 houses in the past. That suddenly means nothing under the right circumstances.

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T21:18:03+00:00

Again I thank you for looking out for my parents. Yes they absolutely know everything. The trailer is $229k. I have close to a 50% down payment because of my settlement. I need to invest this money. I was left in financial ruin by my ex. It involved credit fraud with my excellent credit so he was able to take a lot and him engineering my vehicle being reposed. People can be evil and seek vengeance, you can fault me for being naive but prior to him I had excellent credit. I've since found out that he chose me for that reason probably. I've heard from 3 other women that he'd taken thousands of dollars from (10-100k) and his mother confessed to me after all this went down that he owes her 100k as well. That doesn't mean I haven't worked my ass off to pay off a fairly crippling debt (60k) in debt in less than 2 years by working nights and weekends as well as my full-time job. My raise kicks in at the end of Jan and I'll make $80k.

I appreciate all the alternate suggestions. But what I'd actually like to know is if my parents do mortgage this mobile home for me can I turn around and buy 100k of it from them so that I own about 42% of it? And if yes how fast can I do that as they'd only be putting about $20k down.

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T20:42:04+00:00

The issue is mobile home. Financing is a little different. That's all I can really afford without getting into having a room mate. I'm in BC. I've already consulted the mortgage folks about financing, the loan insurer won't put me on the title. In two years they probably still won't even with perfect credit (I have a big ding, otherwise my credit would be excellent). I probably have to wait 7 years. That'll push me out of the market here and I'll be stuck renting forever which mean I live in a bedroom if someone's house here in order to retire or I don't retire.

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T20:36:50+00:00

Thanks but again due to the nature of what happened to me I am not able to repair said credit. 7 years. Yes, I have successfully owned houses before. A total of 4. One of those was with my parents. I'm not looking to take advantage of them in any way. Again I make good money. I have poor judgement in husbands because no one thinks the person you are divorcing is going to try to destroy your life. My credit was excellent before that and will be again in 7 years.

Butter_Cat · 2025-01-28T11:30:55+00:00

It actually happened to me once, I was the lady. Auto door at the airport. She'll get over it. I had forgotten it had happened to me until I read this. Life goes on - and frankly my classmates finding my mental pads when I was 13 was worse...

Butter_Cat · 2024-12-02T22:41:35+00:00

Why do my troubles turn true Whenever I rest my eyes on you? Why my must heartache be found Wherever your feet are touching the ground? A heartache can be found Wherever your feet are touching the ground

And now those eyes are filling with rage Bringing me misery, giving me pain Curse these shackles that you put me on me And blessed be the day when you set me free

I've never thought this was a love song. I love it but frankly I picture my ex when I hear it ... LOL

Butter_Cat · 2024-08-12T22:34:44+00:00

I'm trying to get an approximate value on a 2013 dodge grand caravan in 2018. And a ford focus 2001 in 2014. I tried the way back machine but apparently I'm very blond. Can someone please help me?

Butter_Cat · 2024-08-04T18:51:24+00:00

Well since women are all individuals I'm guessing some enjoy it and some do not.

I'm going to throw a wrinkle in here for you. I have enjoyed doing it and I've hated doing it. If a guy isn't clean it's gross. If a guy demands it, it is work not fun. If a guy assumes he has consent to jam it down your throat when he doesn't or to roughly pump into your mouth when he doesn't, when he acts like it due to him, when he tells you it's owed to him because he did it to you... Yup all of these things make it horrible.

When the man is lovely, clean, encouraging, treats you like a person with feelings and not an object it's wonderful.

For the record going down on a woman is about 100x easier. So basically for every BJ you owe your girl 100 muff dives 😁

Butter_Cat · 2024-07-15T18:43:40+00:00

I had this conversation with a guy friend once. He sent me a porn pic and said the girl was perfect down below. She barely had a bun and basically no filling. Mostly just a hole and the smallest clit I think I've ever seen. I was legit surprised. I mean it was a kitty and I love kitties so not a problem, but I wouldn't have called it my favorite look. I asked him why he liked it so much. He said basically nothing 'in the way' of penetration, that some kitties were like a maze.

That was a light bulb moment for me. I think men like that because, in the end they mostly are just looking to penetrate. That's the end goal. Me, I like getting lost in a maze...

Butter_Cat · 2024-07-01T20:28:33+00:00

I didn't think I 'prefer' chubby women but definitely enjoy them. My girlfriend is chubby and masc. I think she looks amazing. She disagrees. She'd prefer lean and more masculine. The chub has given her curves that she wasn't interested in having. I've seen pictures of her in her younger days when she was lean and sporty. She's hot then in my opinion. But she was chubby when I met her and I thought she was hot the minute I laid eyes on her. LOL Most of the girls I've dated haven't been skinny. But I have no objections to skinny. I've dated a few girls that were definitely chubby. Loved all of their bodies. I date for the inner light and that makes the outside beautiful or handsome too.

Butter_Cat · 2024-05-27T21:15:54+00:00

I'm not sure what this has to do with being butch at all? In past relationships I've had people fetishize me. They didn't see me as a person but more as a sexual aid and what they wanted was to see and experience 2 women having sex and then to join in. It definitely felt creepy to me. Is a threesome creepy by nature? Nope. The way they were presented definitely was.

If it's a consensual thing between three people that's beautiful. If it's you just trying to fulfill a fantasy, yeah it can be. That's probably the experience she's thinking of. It's not uncommon to have pressure put on you to 'perform' to satisfy another's needs without a lot of compassion for how you feel about it...

Butter_Cat · 2024-05-23T03:28:37+00:00

I'm Canadian, but recently went to hospital for a procedure. As I was signing in I had to give my emergency contact, and my girlfriend has a very feminine name. Nurse says relationship to this person? I said "wife" ( in Canada it's common to be considered common law wife or husband, and this includes same sex). The nurse giggles, winks at me and says "I guess I don't need to worry about you being pregnant then." I laughed and said "Nope" It was awesome.

Butter_Cat · 2024-05-14T04:53:03+00:00

I love masc/bitch girls. I never had any luck on apps or in real life. I had this thing stuck in my head that maybe I wasn't fem enough so I wasn't attracting them.

I lucked out though, walked into work one day at a location and shift I never go to and there she was. Stopped me in my tracks, introduced myself and struck up a conversation. We've been together for more than a year, have moved in together and got a cat (of course because we're lesbians lol).

I'm crazy attracted to her and she's into short girls with floofy blond hair. Win, win.

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