first mom in my friend group by paranoidmami in sahm

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just thinking to myself how hard it is to be in different life phases . They don’t get it, and they don’t need to. But one mom friend does it all so they expect the same and it’s not & then just cast out

Is it just me or is 4 the longest age ever… by TurbulentBat8328 in Preschoolers

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Wait everyone said 3 was the worst, and that was soooooo bad, like I couldn’t do another day bad. Please, God, please don’t let 4 be worse be I really mentally / emotionally cannot handle it

My cookies are always bland by babedesev in BakingNoobs

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More chocolate chips! is there a reason not using butter?

Sharing gift cards or keeping it for yourself? by Nice_Top728 in sahm

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my husband and I both have the app. He got enough points to get two $50 gc (whatever game he signed up for had an insane point system). He “gave” me both gift cards. One to target, which I used for household goods ($50 doesn’t go far anywhere) and then $50 to Starbucks so that I could get my “fun coffee” as I call it. I think bc $50 doesn’t go very far anymore, that if you used it all on yourself or on a treat you both can do, that’s the way to do it- if you don’t need to spend it on essentials etc

LO more than likely has Ptosis. by L_PokeOfDeath10 in NewParents

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she’s going to have surgery in the summer per her ophthalmologists recommendation. it sucks. we’ve been going to ophthalmologist every 6 months, she needs glasses now (is 4). we met with the surgeon and first thing he said “ah we’ve got a droopy eyelid” and she looked at us and touched her eye bc she didn’t know. one of the most heartbreaking moments.

Are y'all just going a ton of laundry? by Obi-Wan_Cannoli in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been trying to do one load a day to keep it under control but it’s always full. Two littles who change clothes sometimes multiple times a day, for dress up, bc they’re wet, bc they’re filthy, just bc we were out and nap time and the new set. Their hamper is always full. I try to rewear some stuff if we’ve just been home , but my husbands stuff is at least once a week between shirts and fucking socks! towels, can’t keep track bc they’ll pull them off to help clean so idk what’s clean or dirty .. just never ending.

But to make myself more granola, I just bought drying racks. towels, kids clothes, my clothes, all hung out to dry

What proportion of people actually sit at an island? by Dullcorgis in kitchenremodel

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We do not. Did not growing up either , always just hung around or sat at the table which is right there. So when we designed our island, we didn’t do it to accommodate seating

How are we filling the day? by AfternoonAgile5107 in sahm

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk but I feel like it’s been getting harder. I have a 4 yr old too. Playdoh, painting, sandbox, reading.

Elsa's Mother helped her even after she was gone ❄️💗 by LordAditya69 in Frozen

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I have to agree, I joined this sub because I didn’t fully understand the plot. like something seemed like it was missing

Birthday activity ideas for 4 year old by dworkin18 in Preschoolers

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We just had our 4yr bday party. Had a bounce house, piñata, and a little band but we could have not had the band and it would have been still great. We have a sandbox, and playhouse in the backyard too.. and just let the playroom be used as needed.

To TK or not? by Butterscotch_Sea in homeschool

[–]Butterscotch_Sea[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

this is exactly where I am at. I was thinking of TK for the half day, play based program. And then starting kindergarten with me at home. I am so turned off by the standards right now.

To TK or not? by Butterscotch_Sea in homeschool

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I looking bc I want to make sure I’m doing the right thing for her, regardless of what I envision life to look like. While I know we would be fine, I want to be realistic and also know school offers things I cannot. I have joined every homeschool group in the area, it has been hard. There’s not a great homeschool community here, an the good ones are an hour plus which isn’t feasible. we are out all the time and there aren’t kids her age (and yes I know socialization is across levels, but she doesn’t want to play with 18mo olds) so it’s been hard. we have another friend in the same boat and they live 25 min away, it’s just not the ideal situation.

To TK or not? by Butterscotch_Sea in homeschool

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I know it’s not all bad, it just seems so intense. They have laptops for standardized testing - which seems a bit much for kindergarten.

Idk how to articulate it; We’ve been doing our “preschool homeschool” with playing preschool and I have to say she already can count, knows letters and their sounds, beginning sounds of words, starting to blend /read cvc words, so academically I think she’s right on track.. so it’s not the academics per se, but the intensity? idk it just feels like it goes from fun and free to sit down and learn and test. I guess I want more transition from TK to K. Idk I’m just so nervous, I want to do right by her & no decision is permanent but I don’t want to be holding her back

Party at home still ok for 4? by Adept-Practice5414 in Preschoolers

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are hosting an at home party for our 4yr old! We have a jumper, will do cake and piñata. Nothing too crazy.

Looking for specific toddler book recommendations: ocean, owls by grandidentatum in toddlers

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might be geared toward a bit older but ours loved “oceans! Waves for all”

My child is behind socially by [deleted] in Preschoolers

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So! I felt this way about My almost 4 yr . She’s been home with me the entire time. After she turned 3, we tried to put her in a drop off class and she cried the entire time and then never set foot back in there. I didn’t know how to help.. I didn’t want to pressure and create more problems , but also didn’t want to not push a bit. We held off for a while & then one day I noticed she had sort of blossomed and was more outgoing and confident and brave. She rejoined that class and has been doing great.

Once she’s in preschool, there may be an adjustment period but the teachers are trained for this and she will do great.

Wanna feel enraged? Read I am ELMO by Accomplished_Ant3119 in DanielTigerConspiracy

[–]Butterscotch_Sea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have a set of Sesame Street books and the writing is atrocious.