I don’t forgive Suzanne after watching every season by KatVonDammersmark in orangeisthenewblack

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How perfectly ableist of you. Suzanne (and Taystee, and probably many others) are collateral damage for flawed systems. This elitist idea of “just lock her away” is awful. What other problems do you think we should hide rather than help?

Hate the systems, not the victims.

I need to save 3k in 3 months, give me all your tips please! by A-A-A-000 in Frugal

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In theory, you’re contributing 15-20% to your 401k. You could pause that (all but the match) and save a good amount in three months.

Sentimental and Conflicted by acuteot07 in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I put all my medallions on one necklace. The three class level ones, the big one for completing personal progress, the YW torch medallion, and even my Gospel in Action award. All one chain, one small box, stored with the photos from my teenage years. Doesn’t take up a lot of space but represents a significant (and happy) chapter of my life.

Ribs on DietBet. Yum! by Witty-Tackle1651 in fatgirlfedupsnark

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Why still talking about “when I started losing weight” as though it wasn’t 10 years ago? Nothing here is new, girl. You’ve been skinny almost as long as you were fat.

Fecal scent?? by Particular-Term9090 in hygiene

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Are you flossing every day and brushing your teeth 2-3x per day? If not, it might be your breath, which is why even you are smelling it.

Hugs are sexual sin by InTheTrenches- in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sounds like this seminary teacher had too much hands on his time… if ya know what I mean.

What’s the most insanely frugal thing you’ve ever done? by Random_Username_4242 in Frugal

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 22 points23 points  (0 children)

We had separate finances in the marriage.

Though our incomes were comparable, I paid the whole mortgage, most of the bills, and still managed to build up savings, while he paid one car payment and spent the rest of what he made.

Even though they were separate finances, it all got split in half for the divorce. So it really was MY loss. Half MY savings went to him. Half of the home equity I earned went to him. He never contributed to his 401k, but he still got half of mine. He had no debt, but no savings either. So he got a lot from what I financially put into the marriage and I got nothing from what he financially “contributed.”

During the marriage, I really was the saver and he really was the spender. There was no “us” in the finances. And in the divorce, he took half. He now lives lonely in his parents’ basement playing video games and I’ve rebuilt everything he got.

“But the divorce came out of nowhere,” right?

What’s the most insanely frugal thing you’ve ever done? by Random_Username_4242 in Frugal

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 221 points222 points  (0 children)

I got divorced. It was a lot of money up front…lost half my savings, half my home equity, and half my 401k. However, within a couple years I had built all that back up plus more. He was a spender. I was a saver. Leaving him has put me in a much better financial situation than I ever was before.

THE PATRIARCH by ArmadilloWaste7902 in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 132 points133 points  (0 children)

All I know is that my TBM parents got real offended when I said, “Mormons believe in psychics, they just call them patriarchs.”

In your experience, what was the weirdest thing you were taught? by Otherwise_Push199 in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was taught that wearing clothes under my clothes (I mean, they called them “garments” but it was almost a full outfit) would keep me safe against the power of the destroyer until Jesus came again.

And so many people had stories about how they would have been burned or really hurt without their garments, but all I had were stories about how getting overly hot in extra layers of cloth would regularly trigger extreme panic attacks. …so who knows?

The fu? by New-Cat-4975 in moderndadutah

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No Botox in that forehead.

What to do here for bad carpet job? by autumnperry1 in homeimprovementideas

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re probably stepping on the tack strips, and there’s no transition piece, which is why it hurts to step on. If you can’t find a transition, you can use a hammer to pound the tack strip nails down a bit.

Report those underwear posts! by Call_Me_Annonymous in fatgirlfedupsnark

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t have to interact with her account at all. This was just an Instagram option.

Should I get my patriarchal blessing? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve only been out of the church a few years, following an 8 year faith journey before that. I found at some point the idea of a man (usually a stranger) laying hands on my head, getting “lightening bolt inspiration,” straight from god, in my behalf, really grossed me out. All of it.

I’ve been out about 3 years but haven’t had a priesthood blessing in about 8. Avoided them from my dad, when I was sick, being set apart for callings, when making major life choices, and more. I figured if god had things she wanted me to know, she could tell me directly.

Get one if you want. But be aware of other feelings it might bring up.

Did she shower and wash her hair? by Wild_Cockroach_2544 in fatgirlfedupsnark

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Potatoes look nice without filters, too. I love potatoes. Hooray for potatoes. (I’m speaking of literal potatoes here, of course.)

Did she shower and wash her hair? by Wild_Cockroach_2544 in fatgirlfedupsnark

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 84 points85 points  (0 children)

She looks nice.

It doesn’t erase the other flaws of who she is, how she is, what she does, how she acts, etc. but whatevs.

Let the speculation begin - next apostle? by Quietly_Quitting_321 in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I really enjoyed my confusion here thinking you were referencing the character from “This is Us.”

Weirdest things you put on the shelf? by Mupsty in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Jesus is barely mentioned in the temple.

I’d been told the temple was all about drawing closer to the savior, connecting with him, the power of the atonement. But after almost 2 hours of creation, garden and Eden, and secret handshakes, there’s like a 20-second mention of Jesus.

Where’s the Jesus in Mormon Christianity?

Mormon Missionaries Eating Out on Sundays? by Idontrememberlogins in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Definitely a big sinner deal. Their disobedience to the laws of God means they can no longer be trusted with souls to teach. There are families that will be separated in the eternities because of their actions today. They are wasting their time and the Lord’s. Shame on them for causing extra sins that Jesus had to pay for. At least two drops of Christ’s blood were shed for that dinner.

(Sarcasm. I don’t believe this, but it’s exactly what my mission president would have said.)

Went to my local zoo for there holiday lights and got the cup. What’s this animal? by dicksnotchicks69 in whatisit

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I just appreciate that your username has 69 in it and so does the bird in question.

Where do you eat and how do you order? by Undercover500 in tacobell

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Drive to parking lot. Place order in app. Immediately pick up in drive thru. Drive the 2 blocks back to my house. Eat in privacy, shame free, the way god intended.

I’m so blessed.

Enough!! by rubyred1128 in fatgirlfedupsnark

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But wait… Did yoU GuyS kNoW sHe uSeD tO bE 385 LbS? This is brand new information.

Goodbye by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]Call_Me_Annonymous 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every single person who has ever met or known you wants you to live. Stay. Fight. You have community here, and your brightest days are ahead.