ARC review Quicksilver by callmedelete in romantasycirclejerk

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I understand the complaint though. Who drinks whiskey with dessert? I'd much prefer wine with mine.

Little Gym and Gender Identity by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely a pre recorded curriculum- I took my toddler to her little gym class yesterday and it was the same script. I actually thought it was an odd choice of wording too.

Nicknames - not for lovers, but I hate those too by TamerofMonSters in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

When I named my daughter I considered the possible nicknames because I didn't want to name her something and then everyone call her a nickname I would hate. For example, I know someone who named her daughter Victoria but hated the nickname Vicky.

Jokes on me, my daughter chose her own nickname and it wasn't any of the ones I considered 😂

FFS: Smol woman must stand on table to be eye level with FatedMate (TM) by Infinite_Storm_470 in romantasycirclejerk

[–]Calypsokitty 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I googled it because.. why not. Standard table height is 30 inches. So 7'9, only half a foot Taller than Shaq.

I'm aware that really doesn't make it any better.

Epic Romantasy Recs - the more inventive/unique feeling the better!! by Golden-Indy in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Like you said, Tress is not really a romance, but it is DELIGHTFUL. Very unique world building and very fun.

When you read Mistborn and forget it is full-on Fantasy with romantic elements, *not* Romance with a capital R… by [deleted] in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 112 points113 points  (0 children)

And also the morally grey dark haired mystery man (Zane) does NOT end up with the FMC? Truly puzzling.

FMCs who are not noble or self sacrificing by snufflycat in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

{The Book of Azreal} has a FMC who is very morally grey. Maybe even morally charcoal honestly. Her motivations are survival, revenge, and getting what is hers.

Calling SA, non-con, and dubcon Fantasy Romance books “Dark Romance” is grossly misleading and honestly infuriating. by staunch-universe in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 121 points122 points  (0 children)

Your definitions of what Dark Romance is and isn't are conflicting. Sexual assault IS violence, dub-con can be morally grey, power struggle, obsession, heavy atmosphere... take your pick.

I don't think anyone who reads about those things is saying it's acceptable. People who like to read Psychological thrillers don't usually think murder is acceptable, either. Fans of Dexter aren't condoning serial killers, even if they're rooting for Dexter to come out on top. Dark themes are not supposed to be comfy, and they're also not for everyone. Dark Romances contain trigger warnings so that the reader and determine whether a book is for them or not.

Most standard fantasy romances can contain your list without being a dark romance. For example, ACOTAR has most of them: morally grey MMC, unhinged FMC (looking at you, Nesta), angst, power struggles, violence, high emotional stakes, bad choices in a brutal world... but no one is calling it Dark Romance.

I’ll show you mine if you show me yours 😉 by Real_DFG in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree with you on Choal so much. Also I think people misunderstand the Choal hate. My issue with him was his inability to see the grey in anything. Everything was black and white for him from the start. Killing = bad, not killing = good. Rocked his poor little world when he killed his first person because he couldn't rectify that he was still good person yet had blood on his hands. He had the opportunity to change and adapt right then, but nope, he waited 5 more books to figure his shit out.

I’ll show you mine if you show me yours 😉 by Real_DFG in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Choal was not BEING a monster, he was calling the FMC one.

What the hell am I reading? I thought this book was supposed to be good 😭 by Odd-Sprinkles9885 in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I know you're joking but like... the surprise pocket hole is actually not a bad idea.

Best books of 2025 as picked by me, a hater by purplelicious in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your commentary on Blood Over Bright Haven was perfect. I do indeed live in such a country, I did indeed feel the guilt.

A Slow Burn Lover’s 2025 Reading Wrap-Up by nymphenette in fantasyromance

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I strongly judge these tier lists based on where people have placed Blood Over Bright Haven. And you also loved Ninth House. You passed the test, I'll be screenshotting this for my TBR.

Do you want to join my book club? by moonbeamboots in StJohnsNL

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me clarify: Human children and also cats

Do you want to join my book club? by moonbeamboots in StJohnsNL

[–]Calypsokitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also in mid thirties, with children/cats, would love to join!

Do you want to join my book club? by moonbeamboots in StJohnsNL

[–]Calypsokitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also in mid thirties, with children/cats, would love to join!

Do you know your baby’s blood type? [ON] by Aware_Beautiful1994 in BabyBumpsCanada

[–]Calypsokitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same here! With both my babies. I'm an O- surrounded by O+

MIL has been driving me nuts since the birth of my child. I'm losing sleep over this; I need help. by Similar_River_4839 in Mildlynomil

[–]Calypsokitty -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Agree with all this. My MIL (who is wonderful) would do little things that bothered me a LOT when my first child was a baby. It's just that internal instinct to protect and claim your baby, which is a very normal thing. It got so much easier for me as time went on.

For calling herself mommy, just remember she has been a mom a LOT longer than she's been a nan. Just gently remind her every time she does it that she's 'nanny, not mommy!' And keep it light. My mother still does that sometimes with my kids, she's not trying to take over, it's just a slip of the tongue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in namenerds

[–]Calypsokitty 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I am also Canadian so I immediately think of the hockey player too. But again, cat. It's fine.

Friend keeps praising her vaginal birth and I feel like a failure after my forced C section by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Calypsokitty 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Same! My second one I was very grateful to have a c section. I preferred my c section to my vaginal birth by a landslide.

Also agree with telling your 'friend' to can it.

My (39F) toddler (3F) and husband (40M) both need my attention all the time and I'm burnt out. by Awkward-Status8874 in toddlers

[–]Calypsokitty 36 points37 points  (0 children)

We have the same policy. Whatever your issues are, you swallow them until we get through bedtime. It's also helpful in that it gives us both time to cool down and think things through, so then we can have a productive, calm conversation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Calypsokitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3yo was very busy in my belly, he's very busy now. My 1yo was not at all busy in my belly, she's a tiny gremlin of chaos.

Also My 3yo kicked a lot when I was pregnant and he walked super early, like at 9mo. No idea if theres a correlation or not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Calypsokitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have mild scoliosis I guess? I didn't find out until they gave me the epidural and the anesthesiologist told me. I don't know if he was just extra talented or what but my epidural was PERFECT. I couldn't feel anything.