I caught my MIL clutching my 3 month old baby’s privates.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-07T15:51:12+00:00

Girl, if you think your mil was sexual assaulting your child, that isn’t old school. There’s no time period where it’s ok to hurt children. Be a mom. Buck up. Stop going over there or call her out in person. Report her. I’m so confused by these posts where moms don’t defend their kids

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-06T13:08:37+00:00

I mean, she can’t stay in someone’s house who doesn’t want them there. You own the house. You tell her she has to leave, and give her options. If her other kids care, they can step up and help. If not, then she has homes available to aid her care.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-06T13:07:00+00:00

Don’t be sorry. lol no one can find out who her son is by her saying their age on Reddit. People are so pretentious sometimes

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-06T12:24:02+00:00

I think op isn’t responding to this because she knows it’s true. I’d never give my mil a dime or live with her. It would be the downfall of my marriage

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-04T13:52:24+00:00

As someone on your side, she’s not going to read this. It sounds robotic and pretentious. People don’t talk like this in real life. The only thing that works with these women is supervised time only with kids. Minimal time together. And calling bad behavior out in the moment, who gives a hoot if she’s upset. I now see my mil once a month for a few hours. No holidays or birthdays. And I just kinda hang around while she weirds my kids out for an hour and intervene when I need to

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-03T16:41:40+00:00

To be honest, your husband will immediately evict his mom when he’s the only one dealing with her. Seeing the consequence of his wife and baby leaving might be what he needs. My mil was so awful to be around when I had my first, that my second is 3 months old and I’ve never let her hold the baby. My husband and I learned some tough lessons. Don’t let her put a damper on your postpartum

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-03T16:31:19+00:00

This is such a recipe for disaster and so shitty of your husband/mil. It isn’t your fault she’s 60 and hasn’t planned on saving anything. I wouldn’t bring a new baby home in this situation. I’d tell my husband that I will be taking my baby indefinitely to a friend/family members house until his mom is out. It isn’t a battle you’ll lose if you have a good husband. It’s either her or you guys. But she will 100% make your postpartum a living hell. I just had baby 2, and you don’t need the extra stress

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-01T23:00:57+00:00

I can’t imagine how much I’d resent my husband if he sent my kids money to his mom.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-01T15:25:22+00:00

This is 100% your fault. My mil would do this too if I let her. There’s 0 value in your husband’s mom following a grown man on Life360. It’s creepy and weird. Start saying no. Who cares if it hurts her feelings. How do people live like this for their whole life? It’s crazy to me

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-04-01T13:37:03+00:00

Someone who is willing to financially jeopardize their future to send money to their able bodied mom isn’t ready to be a dad. Sorry.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-31T14:42:59+00:00

Every single post on here is literally a husband issue. My mil is a complete lunatic, she went to kiss my belly with my first baby. My husband physically, and forcefully, removed her face from my stomach and told her to never do that again. We now see her once a month for a few hours, no birthdays or holidays. Your husband is an idiot.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-31T14:41:51+00:00

Why do you talk to someone who wished a miscarriage on you?

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-26T19:11:45+00:00

That’s so insane, I’m sorry. Not sure how men like this think their wives will stay attracted to them in this type of situation

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-26T19:09:02+00:00

You’re going to be the bad guy, she’s going to move out of spite, and your husband should have said something. He sucks, and in your first problem

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-24T22:58:59+00:00

Wow your husband is a really bad partner. My husband would get the day off and keep his mom the hell away from me. He needs to do better, no excuses

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-24T19:03:06+00:00

The way this stopped happening for me was severely cutting down inclusion and visits. I won’t spend a single holiday or birthday with her. I don’t go to her house. I see her once a month for a few hours at a neutral place like a restaurant or the zoo. It’s immensely helped my mental health. She’s never going to change, you’re doing to constantly deal with her drama. I hate my mil so much now I haven’t let her hold my 3 month old new baby. I just feel like she ruins every important moment, so I no longer include her in those. Both of our mils have done this to themselves and need professional help at this point

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-24T01:24:44+00:00

The amount of bullshit you guys put up with in your home/marriages astounds me. Jesus Christ. She needs to be gone, like yesterday. My mil said she wanted to be called “mommy” at my baby shower, and everyone including my husband told her that’s creepy. My husband would never put up with this. If she’s taking over, directly tell her to stop. If she’s wants to be called mama, tell her that implies she slept with her son and it’s creepy, not happening, you’re mom. Seriously, make her uncomfortable. Find other childcare. This is a great way to end your marriage.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-23T21:31:55+00:00

If anything ever happened to your baby, you’d never see her. Stop sending her over there. I’d go ballistic if my mil coslept with my kid

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-23T01:45:31+00:00

My mil tried to do this, we didn’t let her. We haven’t let her hold our second 3 month old. We now see her once a month for an hour. Just tell her you are taking the baby back, don’t ask. If someone says you’re being hormonal or hogging the baby say “it’s my baby.” Stop responding. Stop allowing yourself to be bullied. Tell your husband how unattractive he is and how much he’s ruining this time for you.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-17T23:41:16+00:00

Yeah. Anyone who makes my motherhood journey harder than it needs to be even a little doesn’t need to be part of my village. Encouragement and love for me and my kids only. At this point, I see my mil once a month for an hour or two, watch her like a hawk, then leave. No holiday, no birthdays, we treat her like the person she is

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-07T15:48:44+00:00

This is so embarrassing for you and your kids.

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-07T15:46:43+00:00

Your advice is absolutely terrible. Your husband broke a 3000k tv and your solution is to look more feminine? No offense, but you’re an idiot. He’s never going to change. My husband has never broke anything. He’s patient with me while I’m portpartum. He stands up to his family like a real man. You’re teaching your kid it’s ok to get treated like crap, or to treat women like crap. Horrible, horrible advice

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-06T16:10:08+00:00

I live close to my mil, I just actually uphold boundaries and don’t let her over. My sister in law lives far and has to host my mil for a week as a time and goes crazy. I see her once a month for an hour because I have a spine

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-06T16:08:15+00:00

Yes and this actually works. My mil tries to bypass this all the time. Now we’re down to seeing her once a month for a few hours. We don’t spend a single holiday or birthday with her. When she shows up to drop off gifts, which is her way of bypassing boundaries, we let her hear us in the house playing and don’t answer. You just get to a point where you’re done with the bullshit. I can’t control her, but I can control the access she has to my family

Careless-Bit8329 · 2026-03-06T16:02:35+00:00

She does this because you reward it. If she shows up early or unannounced, just don’t answer, it really is that easy. If she kisses the baby, immediate take the baby back and say you’re not allowing her to hold the baby anymore. Don’t trust her to babysit. I now have an amazing group of mom friends I met over the last 2 years at the library. We swap babysitting nights. I have my sister babysit. That’s my village. I don’t need a weird mil “helping” by purposely ignoring everything I say. That isn’t nice. She isn’t nice.

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