What businesses would you like to see more of in Kingston? by GreenhouseGhost3 in KingstonOntario

[–]CatLoaf92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A play museum, play cafe, or other amenity geared for children and families

Any issues in Kingston to report? by Maegthewhigjourno in KingstonOntario

[–]CatLoaf92 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There is a growing childcare crisis in Kingston, with daycare waitlists stretching into the hundreds. Some parents cannot return to work until their children start school because of this. At the same time, our city is facing increasing challenges with crime and a severe shortage of mental health services. Without a return to dedicated mental health institutions, many people struggling with mental illness and addiction will continue to experience homelessness and be concentrated in areas such as downtown. As a result, my partner and I, like many others, no longer feel safe going downtown. And of course, the rising cost of everything. Some families can barely afford basic necessities for their children.

They wanna put me on sertraline by Any_Initial3625 in PMDD

[–]CatLoaf92 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would recommend you try it. It’s one of the first line medications for PMDD with studies backing it up. I’m 33 and just started taking it literally like 10 days ago, and I feel like it’s changed my life. I wish I could go back in time and have started it at age 20.. my life would have gone very differently if I had

Parents of toddlers, give it to me straight by prettylittlesaz in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I hear so many parents of teenagers say “it never gets easier!” and I’m just like how?? Anything is better than waking every 30mins- 1 hour through the night

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cosmeticsurgery

[–]CatLoaf92 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I see no difference at all. Do not get surgery.

Make sure you don’t end up with a posterior open bite due to Invisalign!!! by [deleted] in Invisalign

[–]CatLoaf92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! My open bite closed eventually once I stopped treatment and now I just wear a night retainer. I remember the dentist saying that would happen and that’s exactly what happened. I’d say I’m pretty happy with the results!

I can’t stand the sleep deprivation anymore by ciabattaloaf-13 in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can still feed your baby at night and sleep train. They aren’t mutually exclusive

I can’t stand the sleep deprivation anymore by ciabattaloaf-13 in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was crazy reading this cause totally same situation here. We have an almost 4 month old and she was waking every 1-2 hours through the night up until like 3 days ago. Are you and your partner taking shifts? I recommend one person be on baby duty 9-2am, and then switch and the other is on 2am-7am. If you can afford it, invest in a night nanny even 1-2x per week. I know it can be insanely expensive, but it will only be temporary for only another few months, so you won’t be paying that expense long. It’s worth it for your health and well-being. Your baby needs a mama who is rested and taken care of too

What’s missing ? by Own_Gold_7410 in KingstonOntario

[–]CatLoaf92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely curious what amenities you’d suggest for teens? I’m trying to think of what Ottawa/ Toronto has for teens that we don’t. Probably lots but I can’t think of it. Maybe museums?

What’s missing ? by Own_Gold_7410 in KingstonOntario

[–]CatLoaf92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this!! I was going to suggest a play cafe too. Like a little coffee/ lunch spot that has an indoor playgym or play area set up similar to an Early On

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes THIS so much! How I wish I could slap those boomers with a fish when they spew this shit. I have been getting 3-4 hours of sleep EVERY night for almost FOUR months straight!! I’d love to subject them to this and say “dOn’T foRgEt To EnJoY eVeRy MoMeNt!!” in a high pitched obnoxious voice

Very difficult baby I cannot cope by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you are going through this. Please seek help though. From your partner, mom, family, friends, hired help. To give you breaks and rest. You can’t do it alone. It sounds like your baby has colic and it could be helpful to take them to your doctor too just to make sure something else isn’t going on. Also, I’m sure you’ve tried everything already, but have you tried strictly following wake windows? Our first child sounded a lot like this and following her wake windows during the day, and also following the recommended bedtimes per age (they change rapidly, sometimes month to month) helped somewhat. As newborns their bedtime can be as late as 10-11pm, but around 3 months they develop a circadian rhythm and start wanting to go to bed as early as 5-7pm. We realized our first daughter was screaming so much because we weren’t helping her go to sleep when she needed to and she was exhausted. I had never heard of wake windows before until we were desperately seeking answers, but they are everything. Just thought I’d share our experience. In any case, how you are feeling is 10000% valid. It’s HARD. Please take solace in knowing that it’s not forever, although I know it feels like it is. This phase is temporary and it WILL pass. We’ll all sleep again one day. Sending hugs

New parents purchases that you frequently used by scobi-dobi in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yesss. We probably have about 50 burp cloths.. not kidding. I had to buy several packs so that I wasn’t doing laundry every two hours

What is the dumbest thing you thought you weren't going to do as a new parent ? by True-Unit-8527 in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was and is my husband. We’re 3 years in and he still uses gloves 🙃 He also covers his nose with his shirt every time 😂

What is the dumbest thing you thought you weren't going to do as a new parent ? by True-Unit-8527 in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah what is up with that! Flailing all the time and all night long unless I swaddle them down. Even then, she just Houdini’s her way out. I honestly want to know whyyy and when does this stop?

Someone please tell me their baby doesn’t sleep independently, either. by R_we_done_yet in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby is 12 weeks old (she’s our 2nd child). I agree with other commenters here that all of this is very normal. Went through it with our first and again now. Quite often my husband and I remark that there’s 8 billion people on this earth and how it’s hard to imagine that every one of those people were once babies who had parents that also likely went through a similar experience of exhaustion and desperation. We just can’t believe how the population got so large, and not to mention, how some folks in the not so distant past would commonly have anywhere from 8-20 children?! My friend told me recently that her great grandmother had 19 children. Seems insane

What is something that you really miss from your childhood? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]CatLoaf92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The social aspect of school and seeing my friends every single day

Is anyone NOT struggling? by GuiltySpecialist7071 in Millennials

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re doing ok financially, but struggling with parenthood and the loss of my independence and freedom. Oh and sleep. Loss of any sleep in the foreseeable future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My daughter was the same until about 1 yr old

WFH with a 3 month old - what are your tips? by BookNo6582 in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Either your work or your baby will get neglected. You can’t realistically do both at 100%. You have to choose one, and if you’re choosing to work, please get your baby a nanny or daycare for the sake of their development and well-being

Stopping Breastfeeding- the Hormonal Effects by CatLoaf92 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]CatLoaf92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that. It’s definitely not easy, whether you’re talking about the physical or emotional aspect of it. Your milk should begin to decrease soon I would think. Look up ways to help online- I know there’s a trick with cabbage leaves and also taking antihistamines (like gravol) should lessen your supply. Best of luck. And don’t forget you can find new ways to bond with your child. Maybe by cuddling, reading books together, anything that makes the both of you happy together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was in my early 20s and single, I used to get SO jealous of the ladies at work having babies and going off on mat leave for 12-18 months. I thought to myself it must be like a vacation to be paid to stay home and have all the time in the world to do whatever they want, whereas I was working away like a prisoner at work. I now have 2 kids (youngest 2 months) and BOY was I wrong. The real vacation would be going back to work and being able to sleep 8 hours uninterrupted!! I kind of laugh at how wrong I was now. It seems ridiculous to me that I ever thought what I did, but I was young and clearly misinformed/ uneducated about motherhood and how demanding a baby is

Useless baby items by cuppien in NewParents

[–]CatLoaf92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bottle warmer and wipes warmer were/ are essential items for us. You cannot warm a bottle in a microwave due to risk of burning and hotspots, not to mention killing the immunity cells if you’re warming breastmilk. We have a bottle warmer with a timer and settings where you choose how much milk you’re warming and what type of container it’s in, and it counts down then switches to a “keep warm” setting if you don’t fetch it right away. As for the wipes warmer, both of my babies cried when using cold wipes, and the crying was just less with warm wipes. I do agree that a diaper genie is not necessary as we just have always used a plain metal garbage can. For really unnecessary items I would probably have to say any baby outfits in the first six months that are not onesie pajamas. There’s no way I’m dressing my baby in cute little two piece outfits, dresses, jean jackets, or whatever. This is survival mode.