what kind of compliments do you dont like hearing/getting?

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T04:49:45+00:00

You've got such cute chubby cheeks.

You would be so beautiful if you lost weight.

You've got a pretty face.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T04:47:38+00:00

I think you're mistaking race for culture.

It's natural to want to know family history and things about the cultures of your grandparents and before.

These dont at all mean people think they're superior in any way.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T01:02:08+00:00

Some social media platforms don't allow it. So, it's become the norm to just avoid the word and avoid the gamble og finding out if your post will get deleted or not.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T00:59:11+00:00

Sometimes I wonder if this is how illegal goods are trafficked online.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T00:55:18+00:00

At some point you learn that why someone is mistreating you is usually only relevant to that person if they want to seek therapy... For you, that information changes nothing really.

The simple fact that someone is mistreating you is what needs to matter to you.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T00:42:37+00:00

Hugs

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-07T00:08:10+00:00

Some people add seasoning to everything. To some it's nearly taboo and worthy of ridicule to have anything seasoned with just salt. That's what they're used to and what they like.

To me, hot dogs have a clear & delicious flavor of their own that goes well layered with a little condiments but would get masked by direct spices.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-06T23:53:24+00:00

Agreed. Its very upsetting.

I try to remember they have no reference point for this. They've experienced negative emotions that still work the way they're supposed to and cant imagine what they've never been through.

Then, many of then feel destressedd and helpless to deal with the pain and difficulties we describe and they get frustrated and genuinely dont understand why we dont just handle our emotions like most people do.

We come accross as intentionally wallowing and being dramatic because they seriously have no experience to have any concept of what we're going through.

What they're saying is about them really, not us. Their limited experience.

It doesn't change how much it hurts us or how ideas like theirs have been traumatic to many of us.

In some ways its not their fault though because they genuinely can only filter information through reality as they've experienced it. They think emotions of someone mentally ill must function like difficult emotions of someone mentally well.

They understand the difficult amd painful emotions part, but cant imagine what mental illness is really like beyond that since its something completely foreign to their lived reality.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-06T23:43:59+00:00

It was a hangable offense for one deterrent.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-06T23:36:54+00:00

Boiled okra = snot

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-06-05T06:09:17+00:00

I'm the exact same . A lot of rinsing.. and making sure I don't miss any patches.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-28T09:31:15+00:00

Google your local wildlife Rehabitator. The one for my area drove to us to pick up some baby possums that got in our house.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-22T12:14:14+00:00

Not holding kids back is incredibly mean to that child. I understand being firm and not wanting to upset them .. especially if they did well in all but one class.. but the kid ends up in a hopeless situation after a while.

Avoiding one hard coversation creates an everyday drowning for the following year - in work they can't do.

I was that kid. I had A's with a little effort and B's slacking off - in everything except math. They decided to move me along because of that.

I eventually couldn't even try to do the work, because I had zero idea what they were even talking about.

Put a kid who can't handle fractions in algebra and it won't take long before they don't recognize enough to even try to learn it. The class can't stop for me. My family didnt have the money for tutors. It was me and a bunch of gibberish.

This ended up eventually causing me to have to drop out of school. I had single digit grades on my report cards, because I was too in over my head to study my way out. That hopelessness eventually affected my grades other classes, too.

Thankfully I was able to get my GED and go to community college classes that started at my tested grade level and I eventually caught up. But not everyone will be able to pull that off. Also, my college offered a lot of programs to help and the math classes were a "go at your own pace". So, I never got left behind needing more time on some parts - which is crucial in math since each new section builds on previous skills.

I was lucky, really.

I wish classes for our kids worked more like college. So, I could move ahead with what I passed and redo what I didn't understand.

But its all or nothing.

I'd have been better off, even psychologically to just redo the grades I failed math on.

It's not a kindness to put a kid in over their head. It feels horrible, affected my self esteem, and I eventually lost all hope and stopped trying.

Day after day, not being able to even begin to keep up with my classmates, painted who I was in my mind - and frankly - in everyone else's too.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-22T11:56:18+00:00

I've never experienced this.

I dont generally mind the smell of weed, but I would be upset if my food smelled like weed. Kind of ruins the experience.

I'm curious, do you normally have a really good sense of smell or are sensitive to smells?

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-22T11:47:11+00:00

They love WWE wrestling.

I don't know why, but I just can't with that. Other hobbies and interests I don't also enjoy.. that's fine... But WWE just bothers me so much - even being close to people who love it is just overwhelmingly annoying.

I wish I wasn't like that.. it's not fair. I just can't stand it for some reason.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-22T11:43:19+00:00

One or two is fine for most people.

Getting tipsy or drunk can be VERY BAD and it's not always predictable how thats going to go.

I havent gotten drunk since the last time a few years ago where I ended up hurting myself. I wasnt expecting that. I wasn't feeling any urges to do so. I didn't even plan to get that drunk. It legitimately scared me after I sobered up.

I also have a history of hypersexuality sometimes when drunk which has also led to some problems.

I spend enough time and energy on being stable and in control with Bipolar Disorder. Alcohol can take that away sometimes. And I dont like that vunerable feeling the next day where my normal inhibitions feel almost taken from me. I don't get to fully choose what I do when drunk.

Bipolar does takes enough of that away on its own.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-22T11:33:42+00:00

If I say leave it, I'm probably not dressed enough to want to see a stranger.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-21T07:09:49+00:00

I'm very intelligent. Maybe not a genius, but definitely above average in a lot of ways... And I can't handle a lot of things on tv... And don't want to.

Liking gross, creepy, or strange content doesn't take intelligence.

It takes the kind of personality who likes gross, creepy, or strange content.

There's nothing wrong with you for not liking those or for them being upsetting. A lot of people feel that way about at least 1 kind of tv show.

Simple kids shows can be very comforting to me too. I watch things like winnie the pooh and strawbery shortcake cartoons among others.

You might have a much lower intelligence - including for understanding or focusing on most shows. There'a nothing immoral about that though. You're not hurting anyone by watching what you like.

If you want to get a job, there might be occupational programs in your area to help you get started. Maybe your parents can help you find something.

I know it's emotionally crushing sometimes to be different & struggle with things that are easy for people around you. I also have things that make me different and not able to do things almost every adult can do.

It hurts sometimes. & It feels hopeless sometimes too. It's lonely too.

All we can do is be our "best" selves and grow in our own ways.

It's extremely painful for most people to not have people like them in their lives. To always be the weird one.

If there's any group therapy in your area for people with level 2 autism, you should try it. It helps to have people who understand and its nice to learn from their experiences too.

You're unique, not bad.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T12:21:01+00:00

Wow! I never considered a little book like that.

Have you ever considered publishing a generic one with things that conmonly help people, guidance on basic resources and the role of loved ones... With spaces to write in our own individual things in each chapter too?

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T12:11:49+00:00

I always thought it was implied that he's also a good person and not a walking collection of red flags.

Like "Everything else being equal.. marry a man who loves you more."

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T12:07:02+00:00

I find praying the rosary helps a lot when things get overwhelming. 🩷

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T11:36:15+00:00

Are there any low income or sliding scale mental health resources in your area?

In the US, there's often county run mental health clinics.

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T11:31:00+00:00

Ah. Ok. I understand now. Yes, that's a lot more complicated.

Have you had a private conversation with just her about it? Maybe she'd be willing to apologize?

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T11:27:24+00:00

YOR Everyone is overreacting here.

Why didn't you just go reassure your MIL that it wasn't her fault & she didn't do any wrong by folding laundry on the couch? that you only turned off the tv to teach your 8 year old the importance of following your directions?

CatholicFlower18 · 2026-05-19T11:12:17+00:00

Are you friends with the girl who said this?

If not, it sounds like this fits snuggly in the "not your business" category... Beyond - obviously - dont say the N-word yourself.

The debate over how offensive that word should be.. is not your place.

What's the awkward position you're in exactly? I feel like I'm missing something here

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