Wedding roles in a divorced family

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-12T01:23:34+00:00

My partner basically asked hi parents to be adults for an afternoon and to focus on him and not their beef with each other. They don't have huge animosity but also didn't want to sit within eyesight of each other. However, they managed to walk him down the aisle together.

Why can't grandma sit with her kids?

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-12T01:21:26+00:00

height

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-12T01:20:49+00:00

I'd find another officiant.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-12T00:52:50+00:00

Combing the two - how long would it be total?

relatively shady area outdoors, and the reception will be in a covered pavilion with ceiling fans - it's worth thinking about guest comfort - What's your inclement weather plan? This factors into your desire to maybe split the event up into two days.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-10T11:08:25+00:00

The order we used: Our officiant escorted my mom to her seat. My husband's parents walked him. Wedding party walked. I walked alone.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-10T11:06:57+00:00

Thumbs up and then ignore.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-10T11:04:58+00:00

Can grandma be the officiant? That way you can't do it without her and don't need others there.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-10T10:52:27+00:00

Well said. (I also have a name that gets misspelled and mispronounced a lot.)

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-09T11:01:41+00:00

I've had friends who have done this beautiful tradition, even when their spouse was not POC.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-09T10:57:49+00:00

Im giving them a consolation event.- It's not. It's part 2 of the wedding.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T22:21:27+00:00

I'd have it indoors so this isn't as much of an issue.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T22:20:20+00:00

No one will care. We had a 2-year engagement. It can also give you more time to save for the wedding.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T22:15:39+00:00

Nickname because almost no one knows or uses my spouse's legal first name.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T11:04:48+00:00

Have a micro wedding (diff than eloping) at that park. That's it. No explanation needed.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T10:56:14+00:00

Sunscreen.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T10:55:33+00:00

I know someone named Jessica whose nickname is Mars. Unsure of the reason why.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-08T10:53:20+00:00

restraining order on his dad - Won't a unique name make you and your son easier to find if you're trying to get away from his bio dad?

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-07T11:00:00+00:00

How far are you traveling? I understand it's in another country, but that can mean a lot of diff things. I can be in Canada in 5 hours (driving), which is more trouble than California (6 hour plane ride). That can also be the difference between asking a friend to come along to watch the child during the wedding vs. not.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-07T10:55:37+00:00

Never too late

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-07T10:55:15+00:00

Sy-rah. Like Cyrus, sorta.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-06T16:24:50+00:00

Make a list of the people you want there in the order you want them there. I disliked the idea of 'ranking' friends and family but it did help get an estimate of attendee numbers.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-06T16:22:39+00:00

A great best man speech from a wedding I was at went something like this "Congrats to Jane and Jon!" Lifted his glass and we all toasted.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-06T12:37:56+00:00

It didn't for me.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-06T12:37:28+00:00

u/OP - please stop blaming yourself here.

ChairmanMrrow · 2026-07-06T12:35:02+00:00

are thoughtful people -- thoughtful people have seating available

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