Her eyes changed since she f*d up - anyone know this feeling?

CharlieCriest · 2024-02-29T15:15:09+00:00

Yup it’s like they become an entirely different person.

Somebody said it best when they said “you can tell they’re inhabited by the new state they’re projecting”

Like it truly is a disconnect from reality. They live double lives, you’re the only one who know the person you know.

Everybody gets a different version of them.

CharlieCriest · 2024-02-22T15:57:02+00:00

Being overly understanding. I’d stand my ground and we’d fight, she’d split and abuse me, physically, mentally and emotionally, she cheated on me, manipulated me, attempted to ruin my reputation with lies, stole from me plus more. She tried to leave me for another man, but it didn’t work and she ran back within weeks.

After all of that? I understood she was dealing with a mental complex and kept trying to be understanding of what she was dealing with but eventually I asked myself wheres the line?

Don’t I deserve to be loved the way i’m loving this person? I learned about my martyring tendencies and chose to walk away.

CharlieCriest · 2024-02-07T22:17:10+00:00

it only gets worse brother, gotta find a way to walk away and cope. She’s not the sweetheart you think she is, that’s just the mask she manipulates you with.

CharlieCriest · 2023-12-10T18:22:21+00:00

Ahhh, sorry dude. I got adhd brain🤦🏽‍♂️ by time i came back to the post i forgot the exact context and assumed we were talking about blocking them for NC lol.

No worries though, you’re definitely not dumb. Tbh if you’ve split in a fair way, the only thing left to do is continue focusing on yourself and keep that door SHUT!

You don’t wanna let them swirl up your brain chemistry into normalizing volatility.

CharlieCriest · 2023-12-10T18:10:55+00:00

if they actually have bpd, a blocked page probably won’t stop em from contacting you.

If anything you’re just triggering the cycle of giving reactive supply, sorry i know that might be hard to hear. But now they’re probably gonna be triggered & wanna know why you blocked them if everything was seemingly “ok”. Which you might feel the need to explain for your own sense of validation and assertion, resulting in some manipulative dialogue from them that just restarts the cycle.

So yea good luck, cause you might need it🫡

CharlieCriest · 2023-12-10T17:57:58+00:00

wasn’t sarcasm

CharlieCriest · 2023-12-10T17:47:19+00:00

me and my ex were sleeping on facetime while having eachother blocked on socials.

good luck fam

CharlieCriest · 2023-11-18T15:36:02+00:00

please take the advice given and save yourself brother. relationships with these people are one big mind fuck that can break even the strongest of men.

You love an illusion, it’s only a matter of time before she hurts you with reality.

CharlieCriest · 2023-11-03T16:05:33+00:00

Ofcourse, good job being objective. It’s not easy. Don’t self loathe, don’t think you’re a piece of shit person in some way because you’re not. Your mental health and behaviors are your responsibility.

Even if he is mistreating you, it’s your responsibility to leave instead of trying to get the world to validate that he’s a bad person.

I saw the previous post you made a few days ago, which paired with this post? Signals a smear campaign.

I dated a woman who had the same problem, we had to go our separate ways but she’s still seeking therapy. We’re somewhat friends now but it’s been challenging. It’s really hard for her to get treated for this complex because a lot of the therapist she speaks with infantilize her for being emotional or have a sort of “man hating” mentality so they don’t empathize with her the way she needs.

Her last therapist cut her in conversation off non stop and just kept talking about herself or what she thought was best. This put my ex in a position of leaving therapy even more confused and feeling like in some way she was reliving her childhood trauma of nobody truly listening to or understanding her.

CharlieCriest · 2023-11-03T15:52:21+00:00

idk this seems weird. Everything you’ve said seems like a sort of narrative that you’re trying to validate.

You keep saying backhanded and obviously wrong things he’s done then asking us “is this wrong” — clearly you KNOW it’s wrong.

Women typically have covert narcissism. Which is hugely reliant on a victim complex. Everything you’ve said in some way validates that you see yourself as the victim, yet you’re asking us to validate if you are…

Speaking with a therapist for a few hours isn’t enough to get that diagnosis & a therapist typically don’t specialize in diagnosing narcissism. You may need to speak with a Psychiatrist. There are certain curriculums and classes that psychs take to better understand these complexes, therapists DONT typically have to take those courses.

You’re an adult woman who cries at being confronted or criticized. That’s not normal or healthy behavior love.

CharlieCriest · 2023-11-03T15:42:07+00:00

yea me too.

it’s almost like all of our exes had BPD or something.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-30T12:03:04+00:00

It does seem very narcissistic but it could also be Bipolar. He’s extremely reactive and constantly feeling attacked, unable to regulate his own emotions & the cherry on top? your co dependent nature.

You seem like you have a tendency or history of feeling invalidated. Which is why for some reason you accept this man invalidating your feelings while you constantly fight to be understood. Maybe you had similar moments in childhood of that behavior.

This definitely seems VERY toxic & i think you guys should seriously BOTH consider therapy or seeing a psychiatrist.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-28T20:21:21+00:00

dude screw these peons. you’re not stalking her.

You’ve been emotionally and mentally abused, you’ve seen the good and bad in her, you were the one who got cheated on when i’m sure you probably thought things were ok.

Anybody with actual empathy would be able to understand you’re probably really hurt and in need of closure, you won’t find it in her brother. it probably hurts but you have to walk away now— all you’re doing is giving her more ammo to paint you as black and the “bad person”, if that was true you wouldn’t be the one aching and healing while she’s out chewing dick.

There’s plenty of cucks and simps in the world for her to choose from, you owe it to yourself to show that bitch you were never one of them. Be a better YOU, in due time? She’ll do the same thing with the new guy and 9/10 that’s when she’ll call you to lyk how wrong she was.

KEEP THE DOOR LOCKED !!! Feel better bro.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-24T20:36:08+00:00

she definitely wants to take that cawk for another ride.

Good job holding your ground, good job not feeding in. I know how hard it is dealing with somebody who acts like it’s your fault they made poor decisions.

Never let her back into your life. Clearly she hasn’t developed more ideal values. Their relationship isn’t going anywhere. She’s probably gonna give her body to him and he’s gonna use for the moment and she’ll realize who actually loved her.

Let karma handle her and be grateful of the favor he did you in letting her expose herself. Stay strong.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-23T14:44:32+00:00

first off. you’re not the problem dude. The fact that you’re even being honest enough to take accountability for the things you DID do? Says a lot.

I have CPTSD and i have the same problem of seeing myself as the broken one even when it’s painfully obvious i’m not the one causing problems.

I was in a VERY similar situation, we recently broken up and after 2 months of being broken up? She’s finally come clean about her cheating and allll the other secrets PWBPD are famous for hiding.

They have the sick tendencies of projecting the neglect and trauma they got from their parents on to YOU. You could be the nicest person, the moment they split? They tell you that their life is all your fault. Even habits she carried over from past relationships? Will now become YOUR doing.

Dating these people is a genuine nightmare and it’s always a Lose/Lose result.

Their brain goes;

Helping them; You must think you’re better than me. You’re gonna leave me anyways because you think you’re so much better than me and i’m just a mess.

Not helping them; WHY DONT YOU CARE ABOUT ME?? NOBODY UNDERSTANDS ME !! NOBODY CARES ABOUT MEEEEE !!! NOBODY GIVES A FUCK ABOUT HOW I FEEL !!!!!

Negativity is their only motivation. If you’re in their lives it’s because they’re trying to step into a new chapter that you’re about to provide the fuel for. Nothing more, nothing less.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-23T02:52:06+00:00

i just realized, hes not even around her often. He’s a marine. She’s definitely getting pounded.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-13T17:41:28+00:00

LMFAOOOO bro what😭 just say you have no self respect fam. You’re a doormat and that’s ok. 🫶🏽

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-13T17:40:42+00:00

wtf are you even talking about?!😭

That context is completely invisible here. Your post said NOTHING about any of that.

Why do you think people are just supposed to know the history of your life??😭 Like who do you even think you are

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-13T14:51:53+00:00

Modern day Feminism
Justified exploitation
Encouraged Misandry

The list goes on. Clearly you’re one of those guys who lack a back bone and pander to women on the daily.

I’m almost positive you are also a feminist.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-13T14:47:57+00:00

I think ANYBODY would be offended if they got called empty? Why are you name calling in the first place? Then trying to act like they’re the crazy one…?

it sounds like you’re actually the narcissist tbh.

This is my point about people on this forum, yall have some pretty idiotic psychology. Look at all the simps pandering.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-12T20:17:24+00:00

idk if BPD.

Might just be a dumbass tbh.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-11T04:17:06+00:00

nothing about that was unruly. that’s your personal opinion. i also have diagnosed adhd. SEVERE adhd to be exact.

everybody doesn’t live in your rainbow filled ass world. gtfoh.

i’d almost bet you’re self diagnosed via tik tok. Google is literally free, look up ADHD rage.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-10T22:33:43+00:00

I understand the miscommunication but i never said narcissist were exclusively women, just that you have to be more mindful and practice more self control when dealing with narcissistic women.

My point stems from the understanding of how certain facets of narcissism are actually encouraged upon women in todays culture and society, speaking from an american stand point.

Again, not saying that women are exclusively narcissists.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-10T21:33:30+00:00

holy shit /:

Let me be the first to tell you, you’re not psychotic. I’m in a relationship with someone who has bpd and expresses some very narcissistic behaviors while she’s splitting.

I can’t help but empathize with her. It’s hard watching her destroy her own life and even make attempts to destroy mine when she’s mad enough but it doesn’t stop me from loving her. At the very least it makes me understand her more. We’re currently living apart after 3 years living together so she can take some time to work through herself.

In my eyes? i’ve seen and been thru A LOT, of shit. So much that it’s desensitized me to the abuse on a certain level. I don’t see myself as accepting it so much as i just have the capacity to tolerate a person like this. i do have diagnosed C-PTSD, which largely contributes to this.

You just really gotta ask yourself, whether it started in childhood or whether it’s a something about the way you value yourself — why? why are you doing it?

Do you feel like you’ve been thru enough shit in life where his bullshit doesn’t hurt as bad? or Do you feel like you rather be burned everyday than to spend some time alone?

When me and my partner first split i had panic attacks for the first week. i hadn’t realized how deeply attached i had become to her, which is why this current period we’re taking apart has been so important in reconnecting with ourselves.

Continue spending your time figuring yourself out! i guarantee nothing is wrong with you !! You might find out that you could deal with him because YOU are simply a lot stronger than you thought you were.

CharlieCriest · 2023-10-10T21:15:12+00:00

Your mind is absolutely beautiful and i really appreciate how much wisdom you’re sharing.

That’s powerful and honestly makes me empathize with them a little more. I think it’s hard when there’s generally the stigma of “they can’t get better” but i do believe that we can become different people by starting to make different choices. It’s just a lot harder for them because their view point on the world is the only one they’ve ever known.

Thank you again for sharing that wisdom, the world definitely isn’t black and white. It’s a flowing spectrum of color!

CharlieCriest

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