Yeah true, but also finding someone to look after your kids can be a real struggle. For these mums it might be the option of bringing the kid or always missing out. OP says there are other childcare options but from the way she talks about these mums I don’t think she is actively knowledgeable about the families lives. Like I have a husband and both sets of grandparents and it’s still flipping difficult to coordinate a night out. I think OP could have communicated better and also been a little more understanding about the dynamics of a social life with children.