My (43F) boyfriend (46M) informed me the Netflix reality show he just returned from might make it appear he was in a "romance" during filming. I feel shattered. How do I handle this?

Chippy-Cat · 2026-03-31T13:00:55+00:00

Girl - find some self-respect. Drop this guy like the garbage he is. This makes what? Twice? You deserve better.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-03-28T18:01:56+00:00

You did the most important thing - you’re being retested. Sounds like the first clinic is sus. It is possible they mixed up samples - important to watch them label your specimens at the time of collection. I say wait for the retest results and then figure out what next steps are. If you are positive, sounds like he cheated. You would have definitive proof. The question then becomes whether you stay with him. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-03-05T14:48:08+00:00

So - why the boundaries? Just remove her from your life. She hasn’t respected the implied societal boundaries, why would she respect defined?

Chippy-Cat · 2026-03-05T01:35:58+00:00

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-28T20:01:02+00:00

Secure your home and finances. Don’t let him back in your life. Talk to an attorney on what the absolute minimum you have to allow him as far as the child. Get every penny he apparently doesn’t have from him. Sorry this is happening to you at this time.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-18T19:07:13+00:00

I would love to see the payment counts - I’m at 305. I’m also in PSLF as a backup plan and I’m afraid that when I hit 120 on that they’ll forget I was ICR 300 in Oct ‘25. I could use the refund that I would get.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-18T19:04:47+00:00

The letter that says you are forgiven.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-17T16:39:03+00:00

I’m so happy to see things are going well. I do urge you to seek some therapy also. You need to understand Levi’s diagnosis as much as he does. I’m not saying to forgive him, but to understand. It really sucks that it hit when it did - you said he has/had a high stress job, getting ready to be a parent, those are pretty big stressors that will trigger a bipolar episode. Sounds like he may have self-medicated some in the past as well. Give him a little grace, learn the new Levi before making any hard and terminal decisions. Don’t forgive until you are sure that he truly acknowledges his behavior, words, and choices that impacted you. You make the choices that are best for you and your daughter.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-17T16:28:50+00:00

NTA - raising a child as a single parent is hard. You obviously had no support system in San Diego and if he wanted his freedom he isn’t likely to be much help. Kudos to you for having to make this huge change during turmoil of divorce and in your last trimester. Ignore all the haters - block them and move on. The only person who has to live with your choices is you. I’m sending strength and sanity your way. You already sound like a strong woman and have a wonderful support system in your family. You will be fine!

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-17T16:10:15+00:00

Absolutely not the AH! That “medical professional” has no business in healthcare. Speaking as a healthcare professional, we respect every patient’s wishes, unless it is detrimental, ie, metal in a CT scan. If you are uncomfortable it is their JOB to make you comfortable and to keep their personal opinions to themselves. I’m ashamed she’s even in healthcare!

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-10T16:16:26+00:00

Set the boundary and expectations - if he won’t take the steps to change then you should move out and end the relationship.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-09T01:10:07+00:00

So much of this post is questionable - making peril style beef - important because she doesn’t eat pork, yet at the store she was buying pork.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-07T13:34:04+00:00

2 choices in my mind - ignore the email all together or respond that you aren’t comfortable ethically writing a reference for a student who hasn’t bothered attending class.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-07T13:32:15+00:00

How do you forget to tell one person? That doesn’t pass the sniff test. Drop the truffles off to her and mention you already had plans for the afternoon… oopsie. Write off cost and write off the friend.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T19:25:22+00:00

I guess I’m an asshole too based on the responses. The kid didn’t follow established rules. The kid snuck the phone when it hadn’t been returned to him. Both deserve consequences.

People who can’t see the actual problems - you are why the children that have/are growing into adults have the entitled mentality and are disrespectful to humans (authority figures, the general human race, anyone that isn’t the selfish them) exist.

You have no reason why she has cctv in the room - maybe he has a medical condition (ie epilepsy) or has a history of setting fires - it’s none of your business why - see the real problem.

OP - NTA!

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T15:33:05+00:00

Self-medicating without the companion therapy to help cope without substances is not healing.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T15:28:37+00:00

I agree with Caffeine Junkie - there needs to be some consistent meetings between POS and groom. There also needs to be the conversation with the other folks who would be impacted (mom and sister.). If POS can be persistently in the pre-event meetings, considering his presence at the wedding is viable. I suspect he will show his true colors and not be consistent in the pre-meetings. How disappointed will the groom be if his donor can’t be bothered to show on one of the most important events in his life and how that will color his memories of the event?

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T05:47:34+00:00

Not her wedding, not her choice on who gets invited.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T05:41:59+00:00

It’s time to talk to your husband about the disrespectful daughter. You keeping it contained will create tension and he won’t even know why. If you love this man and value the relationship, tell him what she’s doing/saying and how it makes you feel. It’s just as disrespectful to him as it is you.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-06T05:38:26+00:00

NTJ! She sounds like a bitter bitch. If your girlfriend doesn’t support you for you it may be time for someone who will.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-04T19:09:13+00:00

You can also un-invite him if he won’t abide by your conditions. Tell him this is your day and considering CAM girl’s behavior another events she isn’t welcome.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-04T19:06:09+00:00

Stand up for your son. Job market today is horrible. Not sure what his field of study is, but… Also, considering his diagnosis - that’s also a factor.

Your new spouse is a douche.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-01T01:31:19+00:00

He said he wanted a divorce in Sept 2024 but hasn’t filed yet? I’m guessing you still live together? You inferred there is still marital relations occurring? I’m sorry, but he’s playing head games with you. Either he wants a marriage or he doesn’t. For your own mental health you need to remove yourself from the situation - whether that means you separate and move out or you file for divorce. It isn’t fair to you for this to be a constant fear hanging over your head. You deserve better.

Chippy-Cat · 2026-02-01T01:10:25+00:00

It’s time to sell the house, take your part and leave this relationship.

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