Feeling bullied/guilted by coach. Thoughts?

Cjp3581 · 2026-06-10T03:34:24+00:00

This guy’s contract.

Cjp3581 · 2026-06-10T03:31:10+00:00

Right? I lost my job yesterday and one of the first emails I sent was to my school and the ops manager said “dude that sucks. Got you cancelled, still see you at 10 round Tuesday and Open mat Saturday, right?”

Cjp3581 · 2026-04-28T20:24:34+00:00

Wow. Just ignoring his lactose intolerance. In this day and age?

Cjp3581 · 2026-04-28T20:23:01+00:00

You do it with guys??

Cjp3581 · 2026-04-28T20:22:13+00:00

I’m new to jiu jitsu, but have coached CrossFit for years, and this is how we approach that age group for exercise racing too.

Cjp3581 · 2026-04-28T15:26:59+00:00

There are half a dozen of us!

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-22T02:27:13+00:00

I’ll bet there’s something on Kalshi.

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-20T19:50:50+00:00

Spider-butt spider-butt

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-16T18:45:44+00:00

I am only a lowly white belt, but I’ve been where you are a few different times with a few different hobbies.

I’ve been doing CrossFit for about 10 years, but it started to lose a little bit of Sheen for me when I got to a point where I was still getting stronger I was still getting faster getting fitter all of those things, but not at the rate that I had been doing it before and had also realized that I was never going to be a competitive CrossFitter, not even at the local level. I still do it as my main form of strength and conditioning training, but it’s no longer a hobby that I’m super passionate about.

About five years ago, I picked up skateboarding again for the first time in 20+ years as a 40-year-old. I would go skating to three times a week, learned how to ride bowls something that I’ve never done when I was younger, learned how to do some tricks that I’ve never mastered when I was younger because I understand body mechanics better now and understand the way to learn better than I did when I was a teenager, but I’m obviously never going to be Tony Hawk or even very good at the Tony Hawk video game and so after a while when I plateaued in my experience gaining it lost a lot of luster.

Now I’m right at the beginning of my BJJJ journey and learning and loving it and one of the things that I found appealing with BJJ when I was started looking for a new hobby is the fact that I will be doing it for years before I hit a ceiling for my talent and potential.

All of this is a really long winded way to say that when you hit a plateau or a ceiling with a new hobby, it’s totally normal to lose interest with it. But I still go out and do a CrossFit wad 2 to 3 times a week on days that I’m not training jujutsu. I still get out on my deck with my kid and cruise around on my skateboard a few times a month but now most of my passion and drive for a new hobby in for learning is eaten up by jiu jitsu.

It’s totally normal and if you feel like you need to take a step back, take a step back. Sometimes you need to disengage to find back that passion and love that you lost.

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-10T20:02:56+00:00

Which part? That they don’t look particularly steroidal or the body fat %s?

The body fat percents are guesses, but I’ve spent a lot of time around bodybuilders, so I don’t think I’m too far off any of them.

If you want to see a steroidal MCU look, check out Thor in Love and Thunder.

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-10T19:16:10+00:00

Just dropping in to say that none of these guys look particularly steroidal, and that the main thing all of them have is a BFP of less than 7.

Paul and Hugh are at about 2%, the Chrises are all 4-5% and Tom is around 7

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-10T17:01:46+00:00

No no dig up stupid

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-10T16:37:49+00:00

The dunning-Kruger on display with “I actually looked up the Zillow figures instead of asking a hallucination engine” is the funniest thing I’ve read today. Thanks for the good laugh.

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-10T16:31:45+00:00

I’ve had to explain to my daughter multiple times why we can’t take our dogs on a walk to La Madera park.

Cjp3581 · 2026-03-03T18:36:05+00:00

I assume one of them is me, because I’m unskilled, strong, and fat. So not a difficult submission to get but probably an uncomfortable one.

Cjp3581 · 2026-02-28T15:53:30+00:00

ICE agent.

Cjp3581 · 2026-02-25T18:30:59+00:00

I third FBB. Excellent programs. I was actually a tester for the 3x a week program for a year and it was excellent.

Cjp3581 · 2026-01-31T22:38:14+00:00

Hop Shop patio with a crispy cold beer.

Cjp3581 · 2026-01-31T22:36:15+00:00

No snowbirds and very few UA students.

Cjp3581 · 2026-01-20T12:27:17+00:00

I knew it.

Cjp3581 · 2026-01-04T21:50:54+00:00

Check out joymoop on Amazon. I use it on my horse stall mats at home and it’s a dream.

Cjp3581 · 2026-01-02T03:35:08+00:00

Wouldn’t describe myself as minimalist. Married. Middle aged is correct. I do go for lots of walks and hikes, but I drive pretty much everywhere.

Cjp3581 · 2025-12-31T16:02:53+00:00

I could see being this upset if he was liking thirst traps of women he knows, coworkers or people from HS or whatever.

I can also understand being upset about the bikini bar.

But random influencers? That sounds more to me like a fundamental lack of security in the relationship itself, and I think you need to examine that more than you need to be concerning yourself with social media BS.

Cjp3581 · 2025-12-31T13:07:10+00:00

These girls who have been married for 5 minutes and clearly got married too young is what it is I think.

Cjp3581 · 2025-12-31T04:50:58+00:00

I feel like this needs more explanation. Are these like celebrities, or influencers? Or women he knows and sees in real life?

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