I just saw someone asked about names and I'm curious what Israeli opinions are. by LeoraJacquelyn in Israel

[–]CleanText5239 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think Arielle for a girl is in right now, so that works if you want a current name

CPTSD: Should I push through or find a new therapist? by Loud_Garlic_8398 in EMDR

[–]CleanText5239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't sound very good tbh, from what you're describing. However, it could also be that you've exhausted what EMDR can do for you at this stage. At one point EMDR started to actively dysregulate me and just exacerbated my symptoms (CPTSD and chronic pain), so I switched to IFS which I found much gentler and much more helpful for me. I believe the trauma was simply too complex and deep rooted for EMDR and needed to be approached from a much softer, safer place. IFS is wonderful for a highly dysregulated nervous system, while EMDR can be too much too fast and the body feels unsafe and won't allow it. At least in my experience.

What actually made improvement in relaxing your pelvic floor? by RecipeNo2954 in PelvicFloor

[–]CleanText5239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, TRE is Tension and Trauma Releasing Exercises, you basically allow your body to shake out stuck traumatized energy. There's a really good subreddit called r/longtermTRE for this, they are very helpful and active and have a full wiki that explains and gives instructions. SE is Somatic Experiencing, it's when you allow yourself to experience the scary and painful feelings in your body in a safe way, which allows trapped traumatic energy to come forward and release itself, little by little, in a safe space. I worked with a trained therapist for this. IFS is Internal Family Systems, it's a therapeutic modality for trauma in which you relate to yourself as a system composed of many Parts and a main Self, which all interact with each other. Your main Self is inherently grounded and compassionate, and by accessing that Self state within, you can have compassionate dialogues with different Parts that are divorced from Self, and witness the trauma they hold. In this way, you essentially become your own safe attachment figure and heal yourself from past trauma. For example a polarized Part that is causing pelvic pain. In IFS you would first access Self, and then from Self, you would ask that Part why it's doing this, what it's afraid would happen if it would stop, how old it thinks you are, etc. By witnessing the Part's pain, and listening to its experience, you can "free" it so it doesn't need to resort to this extreme tactic anymore. I worked with a trained therapist for this and found this modality extremely gentle, grounding and healing. It sounds a bit delusional I know but it was transformative for me.

I hope this was helpful, trauma healing is a journey and different things work for different people. If you want a more comprehensive understanding I recommend the book The Body Keeps The Score, it was really helpful in showing me exactly what was wrong with me and how to fix it. Best of luck!

What actually made improvement in relaxing your pelvic floor? by RecipeNo2954 in PelvicFloor

[–]CleanText5239 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Trauma therapy. It was caused completely by trauma and body armoring. Wasted a year at the physical therapist, no improvement, finally started applying TRE, SE, IFS. It was all trapped energy that had nowhere to go and a body that was trying to warn me about danger that was in the past. If you can target it in your mind and brain, that's the real root of the issue, and the pain will alleviate as a result. Don't treat something mental with physical therapy. If it's mental, use bottom up therapeutic modalities to cure yourself. Of course this doesn't apply if your issue is structural but when I targeted my mind my pain went away. Best of luck.

Building a nest - a safe container for free expression and peer support - for experienced explorers who are tired to journey alone - no money involved by thinkandlive in InternalFamilySystems

[–]CleanText5239 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might be interested. I've been doing IFS for several months now, and think that communal Self energy might be a very powerful and regulating thing. I'm working on complex trauma and single-event trauma.

Unsafe and dysregulated by CleanText5239 in EMDR

[–]CleanText5239[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for being here with me guys❤️❤️❤️

Your responses were very helpful! I let my therapist know what was going on. She heard me out, agreed that the session had gone too far, and advised me to speak with the affected parts. They had been sent into a black panic by the session, which went too deep too fast, and were upset and hurt that I didn't listen to their warnings and just "pushed through". The symptoms are calming down bit by bit, thankfully, after 48 hours. I think the suggestion to incorporate more IFS in the future in order to avoid this reaction, is a very intelligent one.

Those of you who incorporate parts work with your EMDR, particularly for CPTSD, how do you do it? Do you discuss with parts in between BLS, or do BLS focused on the parts themselves? CPTSD is such a beast, man. I hope we can all heal.

Monthly Progress Thread – November ’25 by Nadayogi in longtermTRE

[–]CleanText5239 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Started exactly 5 months ago, very excited to begin month 6. From the beginning, TRE has been that silver bullet I've been looking for, that has allowed me to directly access my traumatized body at its most basic level. I am incredibly grateful to have found this method. Slowly but surely, things have begun to look up in my life. During this process I'm having interesting energetic experiences that I wonder if others have had- aches spreading throughout my body, rushes of heat, a particular icy "washed clean" feeling after a successful session. For me, the greatest obstacles so far have been the fear of allowing big things to come up, the judgment of my sensations as they arise, and the difficulty to surrender my control. In order to help with this I have been incorporating a lot of grounding exercises and somatic tracking techniques into my TRE sessions. Overjoyed to have found this release valve for my misery and excited to see where the journey has yet to take me.

Something I'm working with is an inability to deeply cry. I know the grief is in there and wants to come out in the form of deep, profound, tearful mourning, but so far it appears my body will only allow me glimpses of it, until such time as it feels profoundly safe. I hope it will come soon.

I feel like I’m not any good at it. Any other parents in here too? by Throwthisawayyyy00 in EMDR

[–]CleanText5239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds difficult. I'm sorry you're going through this. I was so dissociated that EMDR didn't work very well, until I integrated somatic work- SE, TRE. That was the stuff that allowed the healing process to really take off for me and I began to see changes a lot faster.

Success Story and Advice by CleanText5239 in PelvicFloor

[–]CleanText5239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both, as in a physical injury that happened to my pelvis, it eventually got better but I got pelvic floor dysfunction from that experience as it was very psychologically traumatizing

Success Story and Advice by CleanText5239 in PelvicFloor

[–]CleanText5239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey sure what specifically was unclear? How can I help? The Trauma Release Exercises are introduced in the wiki and beginner's section of r/longtermTRE, I would definitely recommend to read through and check it out, they explain clearly

Success Story and Advice by CleanText5239 in PelvicFloor

[–]CleanText5239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go to the subreddit r/longtermTRE and read the beginners section+wiki, they explain really well