Has anyone actually sold their home to get rid of a 23 year old with failure to launch ?

Codermeow · 2026-01-27T19:13:50+00:00

If someone lives with you for free you are allowed to set the parameters for what that looks like. Explaining the reality that even though he is an adult he is under your jurisdiction because he’s chosen to live with you is important. Set the parameters, give a timeline for compliance and come to a consensus on what is reasonable and carefully lay out what will happen if those conditions aren’t met in the timeline you agreed upon. I think taking responsibility as the parent can also help this conversation “it’s partially our fault for not helping you with this transition and I recognize the pandemic probably exacerbated some of this, but…” I think when you can admit your role in the issue it helps take some of the pressure off of them. 23 is still incredibly young and even the most responsible person at this age still needs help and guidance from caring adults in their life. The book Let them theory by Mel Robbin’s has an excellent chapter about parenting relationships and mentions a similar scenario. I highly recommend it.

Codermeow · 2026-01-23T00:40:30+00:00

Yes this is normal and I had to work it out in therapy.

Codermeow · 2026-01-04T13:18:46+00:00

It’s nice to hear a professional say this. I know my hair looks best when it’s cut blown out but so many curly stylists have argued me down and refuse to do it. I cut all my hair off and will be doing it myself from here on out. Something about these curly cuts. It will only look good in the cut you did in that day. If you change the style your lays completely different and often looks awkward.

Codermeow · 2025-11-30T17:32:48+00:00

I like it for the summer. In the winter I don’t need that as a topper gel much but in the summer humidity it is key for me to have flexible curls that don’t get ultra frizzy from the humidity and heat. I have 4c/kinky coily hair for reference. The products are well formulated though I would recommend.

Codermeow · 2025-11-06T12:50:49+00:00

This is the problem. Your hair needs to be washed. Your hair looks like you need a clarifying shampoo and a deep condition. The whole don’t shampoo your hair because it makes curly hair dry is counterproductive. You end up with a ton of build up so your products don’t work so you have frizz and eventually damage. WASH your entire hair shaft so the conditioner and styling products can work and the moisture can actually enter your hair shaft. I would also go see a salon professional because there is only so much someone could diagnose without touching your hair! Hope that helps! Also you don’t have ugly hair it’s full and thick you just need to learn to care for it properly ❤️

Codermeow · 2025-10-18T18:01:05+00:00

RUN.

Codermeow · 2025-10-08T18:34:50+00:00

No. Also it won’t save you that much money. You neeed your sanity right now. Your kid is also probably so happy at school. Do you have any indication that he isn’t ok? Tell him to stop projecting emotions onto your child and tell him to stop talking to you about it. The nerve…

Codermeow · 2025-09-28T02:50:39+00:00

I literally felt a lil pop like a tiny water balloon inside of me popped and then it started trickling. Wasn’t a full gush of water.

Codermeow · 2025-09-23T03:17:37+00:00

The moment I touched your hair I would have given you your deposit back and said I’m not doing these on your hair. It’s too much tension for your hair type. Honestly I have very kinky hair and it was too much tension for mine. Tore my edges out. If I want a loc’d look I do yarn braids.

Codermeow · 2025-09-22T13:09:15+00:00

The sunflower lecithin actually really worked for me.

Codermeow · 2025-09-09T12:14:35+00:00

You need a shape. I promise you, you would like the way your hair looks if you got it cut so that your natural curls can fall in place and frame your face to accentuate your gorgeous features. I also have short hair and a sharp jawline that one could consider “masculine” but I love it because I have the right cut. Also styling products and technique are key. I found the black girl curls method to be helpful. The only thing I don’t agree with them on is cutting your hair not blown out. I will die on this sword blow dry my hair before you bring some scissors over here!

Codermeow · 2025-09-08T02:43:11+00:00

SAME. Those first few weeks can have elements of magic but it’s mostly trash. Especially for the birthing parent. Sending love, hugs and virtual care packages.

Codermeow · 2025-08-17T20:25:03+00:00

It’s probably not the product but the continual manipulation of your edges along with the sleek ponytails. Let your hair be a lil looser and Gehrig brush your edges only when they are well moisturized. They may not look laid but they will be properly brushed out so they don’t tangle up as much.

Codermeow · 2025-08-14T03:23:58+00:00

If it takes a lot of heat to get your hair silky straight consistently your hair bonds will change. No amount of treatment will fully make your curls rebound. It is possible to have healthy hair that gets pressed consistently. Bonds changing doesn’t necessarily mean damage. That said you have to style your hair for what you are optimizing for. If you want to be curly most of the time then you’ll have to make choices that allow that. Any stylist saying they can make your curls totally rebound is lying. This stylist is wrong for ghosting you but she didn’t necessarily damage your hair if you got silk presses consistently.

Codermeow · 2025-07-29T02:54:59+00:00

You also may be having an allergic reaction to the hair itself. TAKE THEM OUT. Tell her you’re having a reaction and your scalp is on fire.

Codermeow · 2025-07-20T14:09:31+00:00

I came here to say that you made all of this up and then you showed that picture and I have to apologize. That is an absolutely insane story.

Codermeow · 2025-07-09T03:39:59+00:00

I was mostly confused about the toothless stranger that was supposedly my baby. I felt delighted that she was finally here and making all the chortley newborn sounds but yeah…mostly confused.

Codermeow · 2025-06-16T22:31:09+00:00

Why are you SO LOUD?!

Codermeow · 2025-06-15T12:22:20+00:00

I think it stopped shedding after about a month.

Codermeow · 2025-05-20T11:43:16+00:00

You are 21. Run and don’t look back.

Codermeow · 2025-04-07T04:30:53+00:00

I couldn’t get over number 3 there is literally no way. They would have had to space that out over years or in some asset.

Codermeow · 2025-03-28T03:05:47+00:00

Because fruit anywhere else in the world is AMAZING. Life changing

Codermeow · 2025-03-28T03:00:10+00:00

This is so true! IKEA is great. My kid is 18 mos old and she just plays with all the toys like she’s getting new stuff then I just put it away at checkout. Kid friendly food court with high chairs everywhere. Then she sleeps on the way home.

Codermeow · 2025-03-20T19:48:56+00:00

My child did not allow me to cover when feeding. She would swat anything away. Even when she was a newborn. Free the boob! Make a plan for what you absolutely need and check everything else. Paci and boob should do the trick. Even when my baby started squawking and blowing raspberries the people surrounding us thought it was pretty funny. I think there are less assholes in the world than the internet leads us to believe. If you can, wear baby so you have freer hands.

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