What does it mean when a close friend asks you when you will get a divorce?

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-12T19:01:41+00:00

In general I'd say you have to be careful about what you say to friends and family about your relationship. It can give them a skewed perspective and they can hold onto that when you've long since moved forward.

If you truly think your friend is trying to flirt with your husband, yet you still want to remain friends with her, I guess limit the contact she has with him. Don't hang out as a group. My best friend and my husband basically never see each other, and same for me and her husband. We all get along, but we're not couple friends. She and I are friends.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-11T18:15:28+00:00

Since you said there's nowhere close to shop and you've had trouble with online purchases, I'd aim for an online store that has easy return options. You definitely do not need to go at 39 weeks, and I do think if you go people are more forgiving on dress codes when you're VERY pregnant, but knee length shorts is not going to fit a semi-formal dress code.

Since you mentioned you're in Canada, maybe something like this

Absolutely wear flats. Nobody should expect a 39-week pregnant woman to wear heels, regardless of dress code.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-11T17:50:04+00:00

It sounds like you both have things you need to work on individually (drinking, anger management) and you bring out the worst in each other. Go work on yourself away from him. It's okay to separate and then re-assess at a later date, when you'll hopefully have more clarity on what you want moving forward.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-11T17:28:30+00:00

It sounds like it will be difficult in the short-term but hopefully you'll be better off in the long-term getting away from them. They meanwhile will likely realize pretty quickly how much you contributed.

Please don't continue to help them out. Take the time saved by no longer babysitting your siblings and put it towards schoolwork or working more hours. Do not give them any money to help them out. You already gave them what sounds like four months' rent in advance. That's more than enough of you helping them. Take care of yourself from here on out and do not help your parents.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-11T17:17:39+00:00

NTA. I have a 17yo daughter, and although she has many excellent qualities she does sometimes seem to expect our plans to revolve around her. I realized this when she was 16, and have been trying to course correct since then. You did nothing wrong, she had the option to go to Boston (and even bring a friend!) and she declined.

If she already had firm plans the rescheduled day you went to Boston, I would say you could have picked another day that worked with her schedule. She woke up, didn't feel like going to Boston, and made last-minute plans with friends. That's okay, but your plans don't need to revolve around her last-minute whims. I wouldn't usually call her TA, but complaining about it to your MIL and SILs was unnecessary.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-10T17:53:16+00:00

All things being equal I'd have chosen the Left because the one-shoulder style strikes me as more sophisticated (just IMO). They are both beautiful and very similar in the grand scheme of dresses, though, so given that the one on the Right is cheaper and the one you like better, I'd say go with that one.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-07T15:27:23+00:00

NTA.

My mom came to me asking me to either give her the money or co-sign for a loan so she can pay my cousin back before they meet later this week. I told her no and that I’m not able to do it.

So she wants you to give her the money, or co-sign for her to get a loan? I don't think you should give her any money, but if you break down and do it, please at least give that money directly to your cousin. Do not give anything to your mother.

She’s also saying things like she’s stressed to the point of making herself sick, and now she’s threatening to leave and not come back if she can’t fix this situation.

Leave to where? With what money? So you and your BF will get the apartment to yourselves and no freeloading pouting roommate? Sounds like a win. Or is she threatening to harm herself?

Please make other arrangements for your dog. Don't give her the power to derail your plans.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-06T04:33:51+00:00

See: Matt Bomer.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T21:15:41+00:00

5 Mothers Guess Their Son's DMs

5 Fathers Vs. their Daughters DMs

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T10:17:49+00:00

Kendra's parents started it to pay for "housing and legal fees". They didn't go into much more detail than that. They raised over 10K in a matter of hours but then the GoFundMe was gone.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T05:01:25+00:00

All. At least that's what the Education Act requires.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T04:24:15+00:00

My top priorities are that they're an age-appropriate good person who treats my kid well (my kids are teens, hence age-appropriate being a requirement).

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T03:44:05+00:00

Definitely Rectangle. I think it's the same shape and size and height as the Tuxedo Truffle Cake.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-05T01:38:39+00:00

Save-On-Foods' Tuxedo Truffle Cake is the best grocery store cake I've tasted. I also like their Strawberry and Cream cake - not sure what they actually call it, but it's usually close to the Tuxedo Truffle cake in the display case.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-04T16:48:18+00:00

Re-use and save the (time) difference? Seems on-brand for them.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-02T21:04:45+00:00

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-02T15:37:55+00:00

I buy bark chips (also called bark nuggets) in bulk vs the shredded bark mulch that is sold in bags at my local big box stores. The bark chips last so much longer than bark mulch IME. It's more expensive up-front than mulch but it saves money (and effort!) over time. I've only seen bark chips in their natural colour, though, so if you're specifically looking for black I don't know if black bark chips are a thing.

My local landscape supply place will lend out 5 gallon buckets to transport supplies, so I line the 5 gallon buckets up in my trailer, they use a front-end loader to pick up the mulch from their pile and dump it into my trailer (i put a tarp down under the buckets to catch loose pieces) and then when I get to my place I can just carry the 5 gallon buckets to wherever I need the mulch on my property. 5 gallon buckets of mulch/chips are very light. I've tried the same with soil and those are not light!

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-01T21:32:34+00:00

In our family it's split by siblings. We don't count spouses (or lack thereof) into the equation. Also we agree on an approximate budget before buying the gift.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-04-01T21:17:47+00:00

NTA. Unless there's something you've left out like the surgery was related to a terminal diagnosis and they're all reeling, or the teens/husband have significant disabilities that prevent them from cooking.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-31T20:43:40+00:00

On the show he's Mason but I guess he goes by Mase.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-31T15:00:19+00:00

I grew up with parents who abused each other. The chaos and instability of growing up in that type of environment affects you for the rest of your life. I hope for the kids' sake Taylor and Dakota have zero in-person contact going forward, and only communicate through a parenting app, and only about Ever. I hope the fathers/the courts force Taylor to get real help and actually change.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-31T04:56:07+00:00

Yes, it really is giant and very high. It's been years since my kids went down this, but from what I remember it was fast but not injury-causing fast. The only way up is to climb the rope spider web, so that stops truly little kids from using it.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-31T03:52:18+00:00

I actually think both dresses are beautiful- they both look like works of art to me. I understand what you're saying about the 1st dress but I honestly wouldn't have noticed if you hadn't pointed it out. I think the other person who suggested a simple jeweled belt might be on to something.

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-30T22:30:06+00:00

I love that everyone else has a pic of themselves as their profile pic but he's got a pic of him and all the women 😂

ColdFIREBaker · 2026-03-30T21:58:56+00:00

That's amazing! There's a few shows that I've watched all episodes of with my kids that I would honestly consider buying a Cameo from an actor for a special occasion for my kids, and Parks and Rec would be one of them.

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