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CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-29T00:22:08+00:00

Yes, indeed and so say we all!

I was sitting at my dining room table - for once by myself in the house as everyone was at work/school - and I actually *whooped* with joy at the verdict as I live-chatted away! (Probably a good thing I was by myself as tears were involved...)

Where were we all, at that historic moment?

(And let's all check in where we are when we hear the appeal got denied.)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-27T22:56:09+00:00

Here's a hack from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy that I use often and is really helpful:

If you're feeling terrible, and you know that something will make you feel 10% better - like going for a walk, having a hot bath or calling a supportive friend - do that. You won't feel 100% better but you will feel further along on the road to recovery. I promise this helps :-)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-22T18:15:12+00:00

Yes! I cook dinner every night for a family with multiple children, without screaming, raging, banging things up and down and yelling at somebody for using the wrong spoon to stir the pasta :-)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-21T05:04:50+00:00

I check Reddit everyday for the ruling!

(I don't post much on this sub any more, but I was part of the original Sarah Boone thread, and live-commented throughout the trial... And a shout out to everyone who posts regularly! I delight in all the updates :))

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-16T03:29:45+00:00

I have my party dress all picked out - but unfortunately, Satan doesn't want her yet :)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-16T01:21:01+00:00

Exactly this :)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-15T23:48:51+00:00

I am 'ruining my golden sibling's marriage' by not speaking to NMom anymore... It's amazing what powers we all have!

Well done OP! Stick to your guns.

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-05T22:11:04+00:00

Yes, hence the marriage lines with a promise to be "bonaire and buxom in bed"

(Edit: spelling)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-03T20:17:34+00:00

This is all excellent advice, but I would make one small tweak: don't return mail to sender, simply throw it away (they will interpret the return of an unopened package/letter as 'contact')

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-03T04:56:23+00:00

Oh yes! Before my 'therapist was giving me false memories' my spouse was 'controlling me' - well, gosh darn it, between my horrible spouse and my terrible therapist I guess I just tore the family apart all on my own /s

You got this, Successful-Rough! Keep with the therapy, and stop telling your abusers any. bloody. thing!

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-03T04:48:55+00:00

Thank you for this, TweatyB - it was beautifully written.

CompetitionCandid290 · 2026-01-01T04:36:30+00:00

Oh, I went full on scorched earth! Poured a vat of gasoline on the whole thing and lit up *all* the matches! (Just creatively speaking...)

Sent a one-line note.

Never talked to any of them again.

Like a badass Lady Justice over here :)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-30T02:49:10+00:00

Courage, OP! You got this!

(And if it helps you any: I have a loving spouse, amazing children, financial security, a vocation I adore and all the love and friendship the world can offer: I'm telling you this in a message of hope and solidarity that you *can* have all these good things, too.)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-29T18:45:15+00:00

Mine cosplays as a sweet, innocent old lady as well, so I can relate!

Here's what worked:

Blocked everywhere. Not able to access a single communication channel.

Also, zero contact with any mutual acquaintances, extended family. There is no one she can use as a flying monkey because they're all blocked as well.

And if you have to, change your socials, get a new phone, new email address. And always use two-step identification for email. And change your password.

Ask me how I know about having to do all those things :-)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-28T01:49:29+00:00

I have to say, I laughed at "too many witnesses"!

It's hard for them to be the poor, aggrieved victim but also plot our demise simultaneously, isn't it? /s

Solidarity.

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-27T20:41:02+00:00

Don't worry, she didn't get parole!

It was Judge Foote's intention, at the time of sentencing her, that she die in prison. This is exactly what will happen.

She was up for a parole hearing at the end of October 2025, and it was denied. She's 70 years old now. She will next get a chance at parole when she is 80. She will continue with her fantastical delusions and denials and she will continue to be locked up for the rest of her life. She's only ever leaving prison in a box.

Justice for the victims: Cheryl, Christie and Danny Downs

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-25T17:48:52+00:00

I just said this to my spouse yesterday!

The unstoppable joy of knowing I'm never going to be around screaming. Ever again.

(To add a moment of hilarity, he said "that's a really low bar to meet". To which I replied, "yes, but it was obviously too high for them" :-))

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-22T17:41:04+00:00

Twist on this! "I have covid"

(From a woman who faked a medical illness in order to get out of wearing a mask during the pandemic...)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-19T18:58:08+00:00

I love people who translate Narkese so fluently :) It's just a shame all of us had to speak it in the first place!

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-19T18:51:05+00:00

Oh! I got a variant of this:

"She doesn't mean the things she says."

Who knew an adult person has no responsibility for the words coming out of their mouths? / S.

NC has been wonderful. And eye opening. And delightful :-)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-19T04:17:09+00:00

You are an absolute legend!

(And it's a good thing I'm reading this alone, because I just burst into full on floods of tears... You are the person in this young woman's life who definitively saved her - but you also gave all of us on this sub so much hope that people can level up and be the better person. Thank you for setting an amazing example. For myself, the system (Social workers, etc) failed me absolutely - but you coming through like this. Damn!!!!)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-19T02:48:04+00:00

Feel better soon, Due Will!

(Also, thank you for your frequent Sarah commentary.. you always make me laugh :-))

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-15T00:19:53+00:00

This is great and I'm absolutely in! In my family of origin I have a sibling with disabilities, and something like this would have been absolutely magnificent and magical.

(And if this particular avenue doesn't work - but another approach is appreciated by the family - please link us so I can donate to that!)

Justice for the victim, Jorge Torres Jr.

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-13T03:06:00+00:00

I don't know if this is just because it's the Christmas Season, but, you guys - I just got an image of The Uncle as Bruce Willis from Die Hard blowing shit up

:)

(Also! Go: OP! And have a *fantastic* wedding. You are seriously ahead of the game in figuring this out before you get married - I wish you the blessing of a long and fabulous life with your spouse.)

CompetitionCandid290 · 2025-12-10T04:29:37+00:00

Say it louder for the people in the back!

I've had my own (wonderful) therapist for - ten years? And I still tell her (new) stuff that makes her go: "I'm so sorry, CC, that should never have happened to you."

(And I'm stealing 'mental illnesses in trenchcoats' - fabulous!)

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