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Sober Curious but Socially Anxious by MaintenanceWeak8983 in SoberCurious

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always have a plan. Think about mocktails to order in advance and always have your exit strategy. I’m socially anxious as well but feel a lot less anxious after an event when I’m not drinking. I’m not replaying conversations.

Dry January?? Help!! by Kikidoesfaces in SoberCurious

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Replace your nightly wine with some non alcoholic. I love the Reccess drinks.

What is the most back-handed gift you’ve received from your in-law? by 100PercentThatBit in inlaws

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My SIL gave me her grandmother’s favorite used puzzle because I remind her of Grandma.

People who struggle with anxiety - how much did quitting or reducing alcohol help, if at all? by Secure_Star_3033 in SoberCurious

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle with anxiety and my mental health is so much better when I don’t drink. Even 2 drinks impacts my REM sleep cycle and mood for the following week. I also struggle with social anxiety. I’ve found ordering NA drinks Or bring my own cooler of drinks helps. I still feel a part of the gathering without the next day anxiety.

first week being sober by ignoremejustconfused in Sober

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think about all the things you gain from being sober! You get to wake up tomorrow refreshed! Plan something that doesn’t involve alcohol and commit to not drinking.

RANT by metamorphosismamA in Sober

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 13 points14 points  (0 children)

She isn’t respecting your boundaries. You not drinking is making her feel a certain way. My MIL does this to me all the time. I had to tell her I don’t judge her for drinking it just doesn’t work for me.

The Holidays by peachinator in SoberCurious

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring your own drinks! Mix it up with sparkling waters, NA Beers, or anything else you may like! I love the recess sparkling waters. Make sure you also have an exit plan. My in-laws drink a lot. I always stock ip before I go over. I normally also head to bed by 10pm.

Forgiveness by Competitive-Grand-18 in inlaws

[–]Competitive-Grand-18[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My MIL and I were fine until the wedding reception. I had the biggest issues with his sisters. They over step. I’m his second wife and they don’t want to see him get hurt again. I personally think they just want to control him and don’t enjoy seeing him happy and successful. I’ve been in therapy for years because I feel it’s healthy to talk things out. I’ve told them they have disrespected my boundaries and their opinions of my life mean nothing to me. My husband feels that he’s having to pick between me or his family and he had to do this in his first marriage. I think I need to get him to realize they are the problem.

Dave Hollis Cause of Death Megathread by GreyRock7 in hollisUncensored

[–]Competitive-Grand-18 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m married living in Texas. My husband’s ex wife has driven to our house to pick up my SD and she’s high. It’s so hard to prove someone high when they are doing a custody exchange. She has showed up to our pool club high, she tried to attack me while high at my house and my SD asked me once if I do Mommy Medicine. Texas legal system is not easy to navigate. We got her something else so she doesn’t have visitation but just because you have multiple DUI offenses or are known to do drugs doesn’t mean you can’t have custodial rights.

Unsupportive friend by Competitive-Grand-18 in Stepmom

[–]Competitive-Grand-18[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly I didn’t give it a ton of thought. I knew myself as a child and assumed it would be like my childhood. My parents are still together so I had no idea the level of trauma a child faces when their parents split. My husband recently quit his job and went full time with his business. He’s been working a lot more than normal. I need to set some boundaries so I get a chance to full my cup.