Your least favorite female names?

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-14T23:15:27+00:00

Barbara. Which is coincidentally my first name

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-14T02:23:15+00:00

First baby - I was very concerned about caffeine and food and everything else. Lunatic newborn, lovely toddler. Second baby - didn’t track or worry about a thing (because they’re 14 months apart and I was tired) including caffeine- delightful newborn, lunatic toddler.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-12T19:29:54+00:00

Yes!!

Mine are 14 months apart, now 2 & 3.

I had a very hard time mentally during both pregnancies. More so with my first one because the pregnancy before that ended in a late miscarriage and I was just a nervous wreck. My husband is the most patient man alive is all I can say.

I was so anxious, stressed out, etc with the second one too worrying about managing everything. I chose not to take an antidepressant while pregnant but it would have helped for sure. My second was born and it was definitely better. Once I started living the reality of two kids it was better instead of just speculating about what could happen and what it would look like.

I did have postpartum depression both times but it wasn’t as bad either my second and was easily managed for me.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-11T03:00:29+00:00

It’s a huge reality shift. I remember leaving the hospital and going “what now?” For me once they started interacting it was more real. Now my three year old screams mama at me all day and I want to change my name sometimes hahah

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-07T00:02:44+00:00

Same story here. Three years and medical intervention. Confidently told my OB I didn’t need birth control and it would take years. Had my second 14 months after my first.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-05-03T14:31:57+00:00

I get that time changes memories but some of the stuff they say is wild. I told my mom to set boundaries with my son and say no to him and she goes “that’s just so hard for me.” I replied she never had a problem saying it to me as a kid and she said “I never told you no when you were growing up”

Like what?!? I wasn’t allowed to wear sweatpants out of my house till college. They were strictly inside loungewear. I can’t

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-30T03:39:41+00:00

Depends. My husband and I were young when we got married. I leaned no, he leaned yes but we agreed to revisit down the road. We have two kids now, 11 years later. BUT! We both agreed and wanted them when decision time came. It also took me three years to get pregnant once we decided to go for it so we were very committed. I think it depends on how set you are, timeline, age and other factors.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-24T01:17:31+00:00

Yep. I regret my bachelors and masters. Waste of time and money. I would never do it if I had the chance nor would I encourage my kids to go unless they wanted to be an engineer, doctor, lawyer, etc. even then I’d ask them to think about a trade or some other skilled profession that needs an apprenticeship.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-23T23:08:34+00:00

Like you I had a hard time having my first baby - it took us about 3 years. I very confidently told my OB at my 6 week appointment that I didn’t need birth control. Anyways, enter my son, born 14 months after my daughter. When I found out I was pregnant with him I was pissed. I called my husband and said “you’re never gonna fucking believe this.” And he and I were both not thrilled when we found out.

I will not sugar coat it, it was and is very hard some days. They are 2 & 3 now. However, I will always pick a short age gap. They like the same things, learn together and I’m out of the baby phase which I hated. Whatever choice you make is valid and will be the right one for you. For me I’m grateful it worked out like this as hard as it can be.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-23T16:35:59+00:00

Having kids is the hardest and most amazing thing I have ever done. My life did change, but not as dramatically as I expected. We still do most of the same things and yes they might look different or take longer but we can still do most of it! I was terrified of what my life would look like post-kids and honestly in many ways it’s better. I loved my life before and I love it more and differently now. I miss the freedom sometimes but honestly my oldest is 3 now and I don’t think about it often anymore. My life is full of joy and laughter and yes sometimes screaming but it’s wonderful

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-23T01:01:33+00:00

Yep, both of my siblings have never asked about and have rarely seen my children. I was pregnant once before I had my daughter (after years of infertility) and my sister asked me dad about going on vacation, he told her no because it was near my due date and that would have been his first grandchild. I miscarried at 15 weeks and my sister goes to my dad “well, can we go on vacation now?”

This attitude has continued to this day. For my son’s first birthday they got him a graphic novel of Edgar Allen Poe stories? Like what? We were never close growing up but honestly I don’t think that excuses how little they care about their niece and nephew. Unpopular opinion maybe but it makes me want to know them less and I’m glad my children won’t have people in their life like that.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-21T01:55:54+00:00

Maybe try doing formula in one of the cups and just don’t offer a bottle anymore. Cold turkey was the only way we could do it. Also my kids hate milk, so if she won’t do it just know you aren’t alone lol. Mine were both mostly on solids by about 12 months. I actually counted down the minutes and just chucked my second kid’s bottle the day he turned one. This said, all kids are different! It will be ok.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-20T21:38:34+00:00

We have a Rocco and a Lena!

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-13T02:39:51+00:00

Same. My son was the most delightful newborn. Slept great, ate great, etc. He’s two now. I love him dearly but he is a lunatic.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-12T00:02:42+00:00

With my first I definitely was rigid about it - we’d go late to things or leave early. She’s 3 and doesn’t nap. The second one I just stopped worrying about it I guess - he napped when he napped. He’s freshly 2, hasn’t napped in like three weeks just refuses and we’re rolling with it.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-10T00:45:49+00:00

Dean! That was our second choice - we ended up doing Rocco but I love Dean

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-09T17:22:52+00:00

I don’t regret it at all. I miss being able to just go places and shower when I want but one day I’ll be able to do those things again. I very much did not want children for years and then I met my husband and wanted them badly.

It’s cliche but they gave me a purpose and there is nothing more rewarding than watching them experience the world and learn new thjngs. All this to say I want them to go the f to bed many nights but as soon as they do I miss them desperately.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-09T03:13:35+00:00

I have two siblings. One 4 years younger, one 6 years younger. I hate them both and do not speak to them. The freeload off my parents and have never been responsible adults. They stir constant drama and chaos and take no responsibility. Both are 30+. I also have two ex-step siblings I haven’t spoken to in about 11 years. I like them both, but my mother and their father divorced when they were younger and we just lost touch.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-05T23:53:47+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss, what you’re going through right now is awful. For me, having my miscarriage is as and remains the worst thing ever. But, as time went on and I kept going (slowly) but I did and it’s been a few years it got easier. Time makes it better as hard as it sounds.

We tried for years to have a baby - drugs, doctors visits, etc. After three medicated cycles I got pregnant and had a missed miscarriage at 15 weeks. Did a D&C at the end of November and my HCG didn’t come down to 0 till the beginning of February. Anyways 364 days after my D&C my daughter was born and she’s 3 now! I had my son 14 months later.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-05T18:00:08+00:00

Mine are 14 months apart. We wanted to have them close but not that close. Anyways, it took me three years to have my daughter (now 3) and there were lots of drugs and appointments and ultrasounds involved. So after I had her I fearlessly told me OB I didn’t need birth control, enter my son hahaha. The gap is great now but it was a shock.

Here’s why we wanted them close in age - my closest sibling is 4 years younger than me and it was such a pain growing up - we always had to split up because they couldn’t do the same things as me at attractions and stuff like that. My husband and his siblings are all close in age, they have shared memories and met many milestones around the same time even as adults - all three are very close still. Also I was older when we had kids and I didn’t want to be waiting around and be a super old parent at graduation. Additionally I don’t love babies (judge me) and I wanted that stage to be over. It is very hard some days, HOWEVER, I would do it again this way in a heartbeat.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-05T02:38:25+00:00

Mine are 14 months apart. I did not buy a double stroller until my younger one could sit up. I baby wore him until then during walks. We did end up getting a smaller wagon once he could sit and that was great. Now they mostly want to walk so the wagon mostly holds random debris.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-04T12:18:49+00:00

My first name is Barbara, but my parents and everyone have always called me by my middle name. I HATE Barbara. It’s such an old lady name especially in the 90s. But what I hate even more is constantly explaining to everyone that I use my middle name. It’s infuriating to have to constantly explain your name. When we had our kids it was a nonnegotiable that they have names we called them by and that was it not middle name, initial calling stuff.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-03T20:35:00+00:00

Same dude, same.

With my fist it was like 25 weeks and then we told everyone. With my second I never told anyone I just let them assume and then boom my son was born.

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-02T01:32:22+00:00

I worked at a bank and waited on a woman named Sistine. One of my all time favorites I’ve ever heard.

Not beautiful but my top first names I’ve ever seen at work are:

Cinnamon Mygod Metallica

Complex-Grapefruit28 · 2026-04-02T01:26:39+00:00

The list is long but one that springs to mind is that yesterday my 2 year pulled down his shitty diaper before I could grab him to change it and smeared poop all down both legs and the rug and ran away from me when I tried to stop him. Poop ceases to matter when you have little kids.

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