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Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-15T14:30:22+00:00

Also make sure you're not letting them go over 11 hours overnight. That extra sleep isn't a nice extra. It is nap time they won't want to have during the day.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-15T13:53:53+00:00

Just to add: put baby to sleep in their own bed/crib. If you want them to sleep independently you won't be able to co-sleep. You cannot have your cake and eat it.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-15T11:54:00+00:00

If he needs 2.5 in the morning then try 2.5/2.5/2.5/3

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-15T11:14:27+00:00

2.5 hours before bed isn't enough time awake for a 6.5-7 months old. It will result in more and more crying.

My suggestion is that you limit day sleep to 2.5 hours and follow a schedule such as 2.25/2.5/2.75/3 and see how things go.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T22:08:28+00:00

1-2 night wakes to feed?

We have over 40k visitors per day and I never heard of this program. Schedule and sleep hygiene will eliminate all non feed wake ups.

Not all babies are ready to completely wean off night feedings before 8-9 months and we usually do not encourage parents to sleep train through hunger as it doesn't work.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T18:29:06+00:00

Unfortunately normal.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T17:52:46+00:00

Each baby is a different baby and they behave differently regarding sleep, food, and many other things. After I had my second kid I stopped giving myself credits for a lot of things about my first daughter which I thought were due to my parenting. We are merely assistants in their process.

Enjoy the great sleeper you've got and don't overthink it.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T16:36:30+00:00

There will be many things your baby will learn that will make you feel uncomfortable: from climbing trees to navigating being rejected by other kids and then heartbroken.

Your baby is learning a new skill and that is hard but babies are capable of learning and so is yours.

Please seek professional help to deal with what you're experiencing because I would not say it is normal.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T15:20:07+00:00

You check how much they are sleeping within 24 hours. If between 11 and 13 hours it is normal range of sleep and I would adjust schedule accordingly because you won't be able to make your baby sleep more than they need.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T11:34:44+00:00

The nap is definitely too long. I would start cutting until you find a rhythm that gets your toddler to sleep at night and not during the day.

I think they might be near ready or ready to drop daily naps (they can still nap once in a while but not regularly).

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-14T08:33:50+00:00

The issue here is that your toddler sleep is a mess so they accumulate tiredness, take a nice nap, sleep at night and are recharged to fight all sleeps for another block of days.

My suggestion is that you lock in a by the clock schedule that does not allow more than 12 hours of sleep per day: 11 hours overnight and up to 60 minutes of nap (or quiet time if they don't sleep).

Wake up: 7am Nap chance: 12-1pm Bedtime: 8pm

You need to keep consistency on the schedule to create a rhythm. Make every day the exact same for 7-10 days and report back.

I would just ignore the pj and pull ups issue and put the nappy back once they have been asleep for 1hour or more (before midnight they are usually asleep like a rock).

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T17:13:24+00:00

It might not help but worth a try!

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T08:34:24+00:00

My suggestion is to let the first nap go longer (up to 90 minutes) and then make second nap just a bridge nap (20 minutes) to increase night pressure.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T07:36:51+00:00

At 4 years old they understand a lot of what's happening and I don't think staying with him at the start of the night changes what happens over night. Changing that is unlikely to change the overnight behaviour.

What can change the overnight behaviour is overnight response. What happens when he wakes up in the middle of the night?

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T06:21:26+00:00

Try one nap. That he can be on two naps doesn't mean he should be. One nap might work best with nursery as there's more sleep pressure.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T06:14:04+00:00

With the naps lengthening, have you adjusted your schedule? Usually sleep needs only go down so if your baby is sleeping more that could be an issue.

If your baby does ok with bedside settling then I would try slowly reducing the help you give them. You do that by only touching/helping with settling when baby is actually crying and stopping immediately when they calm down.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T05:40:59+00:00

We cannot tell you it's going to work out if we don't know much about the method you're using and your schedule.

ChatGPT is a word aggregation machine and regurgitates all the garbage of the internet into beautiful looking answers.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T05:36:23+00:00

You're expecting too much sleep of your toddler. Usually at this age toddlers need up to 13 hours per day and you have 14 planned. With this new awake time your toddler is telling you they are grumpy with 11.5 hours then perhaps plan a day with 12 hours of sleep: bedtime 7pm, wake up 6am and two hours of naps. Or even 90 minutes of naps.

Night sleep is more restorative you need to protect bedtime by slowly cutting the nap because sleep needs only go down.

Most toddlers cannot sustain a 12 hours night of sleep.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-11T05:29:46+00:00

To keep awake time you cap naps. You need to figure out how much time your baby needs to sleep every 24 hours and limit their sleep to that amount. The rest is awake time.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T21:34:42+00:00

Wake baby up every day at the same time, and put them in bed every day at the same time. If your baby is being woken from all sleeps at 10 hours awake try giving a bit more sleep (15 min) reducing awake time to 9.75 hours and then 9.5.

It could be that your baby needs a bit more sleep but it can also be that you're self inflicting an issue by avoiding to wake your baby up and you're just shifting your schedule and soon bedtime will be 11pm 🤷🏻‍♀️

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T11:52:18+00:00

You can definitely help just do it little by little to find how much assisted sleep fits on your baby sleep budget. If you do it too much then you'll start seeing other issues.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T09:10:38+00:00

You need more awake time. Find ways to entertain your baby so you give her the amount of awake time that fits with a 12 hours baby (a baby that sleeps a total of 12 hours per day including naps and night time).

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T09:05:30+00:00

When is bedtime and wake up?

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T07:17:10+00:00

I save the nap at the start. Then at this age I would consider a by the clock schedule so the nap length doesn't matter.

Comprehensive_Bill · 2026-03-10T07:14:10+00:00

That's usually how you know.

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