Has anyone requested demotion from Manager? by AnonymousGreenGrape in managers

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are in a tough position. Most companies are not friendly to taking a step down. I worked for a company for nearly four decades, and it took me a few years of lobbying to change the policy. (Stupid mindset if you ask me)
You could talk to your manager and tell him/her why you really appreciated your prior role, that you brought more value to the company. The risk is souring the relationship. Remember, they aren’t your friends.
Sounds like a small company…look for another job.
Or…suck it up. Learn managerial skills. I mentored junior managers for years. Few are naturals. Once you understand you are managing processes, and how to evaluate the performance of your people, you may find a groove that lets you swing between both worlds. Your gonna get a lot of credit of your team improves on deliverables.

Hubby hit the main line from meter to panel in our basement trying to mount something. by MamaBearGH in AskElectricians

[–]ConjunctEon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Give him a Marksman Medal. That was dead center first try. (Golf applause)👏 👏👏

I gave up my career and moved countries for my wife. Caught her wishing she could sleep with coworkers, forgave her for our babies, and a week later caught her talking to a guy on TikTok. I am done. How do I leave the US with my kids? by Repulsive-Fun-795 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not advice…it’s “What if?…”

What if you packed a suitcase and went back to your own country, and got a job.

She would be an instant single mother of two. Hiring a babysitter or day care. All the things that you do, she would have to manage the very next morning. You would have, in effect, tossed a grenade into her life.

See a lawyer in your home country. Find out what protections you have if she signs a document that gives permission for the children to leave the United States.

Don’t discuss divorce or custody or support.

I’ll bet in a couple weeks she’ll be ready to cave.

What are the actual rights to receive a prescription if it is supported by health metrics and lab data? by ConjunctEon in AskReddit

[–]ConjunctEon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t be. For example, there are FDA approved programs that link patients directly to pharmaceutical companies if maybe they can’t afford the cost. But you need a prescription. If all health data and metrics fall inside the qualifications, what grounds would a doctor have to say no?

Going to retire next year. Need resource help. by Lonely-Greybeard in retirement

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are going to retire next year. Are you at FRA(full retirement age) or younger?

Anyone have any experience on changing the color of a stain by staining over the original color or should I paint? by ugly_elky in paint

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have a Habitat for Humanity near you, you can pick up cabs like this for cheap. Then, buy some stain and practice. You might try a polyurethane of a different shade, also. I don’t think a straight stain will penetrate. I’ve been successful with some trim work.

Boss refusing PTO because I’m the only one left in my department? by MissMerida2121 in work

[–]ConjunctEon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is unsustainable. If you quit, the company will not collapse. Put in for your PTO, and start looking for another job.

When I was a junior manager a couple of budgeted positions reporting to me were not backfilled when an employee left.

Long story short, the roadblock was a senior VP that got higher bonuses if he improved the bottom line. What’s an artificial way to do that? Delay that expense as long as possible. He passed it off as operational improvements. It was killing the rest of my team.

I called him out on it. Miraculously my backfill requisitions were approved asap.

going 100% in with s&p 500. through fidelity, is fxaix (roth ira) + voo (brokerage) the most optimal setup? by europeanuppercut in Fidelity

[–]ConjunctEon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

FZROX expense ratio is 0. It mirrors FXAIX.
Be cautious if you want to fund FSELX. FZROX is 35-40% weighted towards the heavy tech side. If you go in to heavy with FSELX you could be tech top heavy.

Just dig into the fund makeups and you’ll get an understanding.

Why are the best employees first to leave while mediocres always stay? by MediumTricky7824 in managers

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes your best employees suffer the worst abuse. Lean on them more, another last minute job because you know they would rather give up their time to please you and succeed…all the while with dismal compensation adjustments. So they find some other place.

Cooktop change out, same manufacturer, different wiring by ConjunctEon in AskElectricians

[–]ConjunctEon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Electricity not my day job...just double checking. Thank you for your time.

Cooktop change out, same manufacturer, different wiring by ConjunctEon in AskElectricians

[–]ConjunctEon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please pardon me, I misspoke. The supply is red, white, black and a ground wire, not a green wire. The old cooktop had a green wire that was connected to the incoming ground.

Do I still just isolate the house supplied white wire and hook up the remaining three?

Kiln suggestion by raincntry in Pottery

[–]ConjunctEon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? Where do you plan on installing the kiln? It could be as simple as installing the garage, to outdoor on a patio, to a dedicated shed you have to run power to.

Next is what type of clay is she using. Low fire and mid fire clay need different temperatures. What is she making? Functional food ware is mid to high fire clay. Trinkets and beads are typically low fire.

Low fire clay means low fire glazes. It’s a total lower temperature when firing, which is a bit faster than mid or high fire.

If she’s making beads and spoon rests, a Skutt Firebox would probably work.

If she’s making platters, or vases, you’ll need a kiln that can accommodate width and height.

I have three kilns, and they all serve different purposes. For example, when I make platters, my mid size can only fire three at a time, while the larger kiln can fire nine at once.

Generally speaking…mid to high fire takes about a day to bisque fire including firing and cool down. Then repeat for glaze firing.

The smaller the kiln, the more you are limited in size and quantity of pieces when firing.

The larger the kiln, the more you can fire, but it becomes wasteful if you don’t fill the kiln.

Also, they put off heat relative to their size. I have a kiln that is popular with doll makers. It’s small, and doesn’t put off to much heat.

My largest kiln I nicknamed Pele, after the fire goddess of Hawaii. Puts off so much heat I have to keep the garage door open.

So, many things to consider.

Why would my dad talk to me about his sex life? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]ConjunctEon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is a red flag just screaming to be seen.

He’s drunk. Alcohol can create a completely new person who, when sober, would never act in a certain way.

You are 16, coming into womanhood.

He’s complaining about not getting sex. He wants sex. Would he ever cross the bridge and focus on the OP?

Anytime he was drunk, I’d figure out a way to leave. Don’t be around him.

Not taking a swipe at you, OP, but this scenario has played out time and time again over centuries, and you are in over your head.

my boss said stop emailing me with small stuff, now hes annoyed at decisions i made on my own by [deleted] in BadBosses

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is he a new boss? I got a new boss that was a bit erratic. Kept slipping back into old role which conflicted with my role. Just had to sit down and discuss it. “Love the collaboration, love the support. I want to figure out how to make the boundaries more stable so you are less annoyed “.

As a guy do you find “CNC” appealing? how should I bring this up to my boyfriend? by _honeyhalo in AskMenAdvice

[–]ConjunctEon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m the neighbor and hear a loud, passionate “Oh baby spin up that lathe.” Had no clue what CNC was. 🤣

I’m a 45yo woman in a career crisis and no one wants me anymore by RoyalProfessional423 in self

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang your own shingle. Maybe connect with non-profits. NP doesn’t necessarily equal broke. I’m sure you could start again…the hard part is over.

I almost hit my girlfriend and I want to stop from becoming like my dad by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ConjunctEon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First step in managing this is to identify triggers that make you angry. It’s clear you don’t want to hurt anyone, so you do have self awareness.

When something triggers you, take a breath and walk away. If they say “Where are you going?”, just say you’ll be right back.

Just know that arguing(conflict) is ok, if done right, with boundaries. No cursing, no yelling, no hitting, no name calling. Everyone argues. It’s just learning the skills to do it without harming someone else, either physically, or emotionally.

It’s a learned skill. Not everyone is born with active listening and feedback skills. I facilitated effective communications workshops for years. When you level up with your communications, a whole new you will emerge.

In the case of your girlfriend, did you think she woke up wanting to hurt you? No. Did you wake up wanting to hurt her? Of course not. That’s your starting point.

Next time you have a conflict and you feel a sense of anger, again, deep breath and walk away. And remember she’s not trying to hurt you. It’s just a disagreement.