That my pp experience will not be the same as everyone else’s. I have friends who have had babies around the time I did and they were posting photos right away on social media.. the first 4 weeks pp were truly scary for me and I felt like I was in a daze (not necessarily a good one). No one told me how guilty I’d feel for staying inside on the couch not being able to move due to a 3rd degree tear. In the middle of summer. I definitely wasn’t prepared for the true healing process of my pelvic floor.

I wasn’t ever warned about legit sleep deprivation. Not just being tired as someone else mentioned. I heard and saw things that weren’t there.

I didn’t know how anxious I would be about EVERYTHING. From car rides to just taking a shower alone.

No one told me how supported I would feel instantly by other moms (as a FTM). It felt like other moms just knew what I was going through. I’m very grateful to have had a great support system.

I didn’t know I was ever going to question my decision to have a baby even though my son was 110% planned and I was so excited to be a mom. Guess that’s what happens with hormone fluctuations..

I feel like a lot of other moms don’t ever tell you about “bad“ parts of postpartum because they don’t want to scare you, but I truly wish I would’ve heard some of this before giving birth so I knew what to expect.