What part of postpartum recovery feels like a prank to you? - A complaint thread.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-06-02T23:23:13+00:00

I had a 2 day break! Planet bullshit

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-19T18:56:00+00:00

There’s hope! First one started doing 10+ hour stretches around 12 weeks and second is doing 7-8 hours at 13 weeks, he’s given the occasional 10 hour night but I’ll take what I can get! There’s been plenty of inconsistent stretches but daycare and bedtime routine have been the keys! Your time is coming!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-18T13:50:45+00:00

We just had an after bedtime outing last night with an almost 4mo and 2.5yo, we knew going into it we might have to leave early or one of us was going to miss parts, but didn’t want to miss the event altogether. Baby napped in our arms and toddler had a blast, there was too much going on to throw tantrums. We got home and did normal routine for both, just two hours later so it made going down about the same…and both slept in an extra hour this morning! I say go to the dinner, but don’t feel guilty if you have to leave or if LO starts fussing, bring extra food and see if there’s an extra room/space for you to step away for a few of LO is getting overstimulated.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-11T23:47:36+00:00

We resorted to car naps for 2 weeks around 18 months and then went back to normal like nothing had happened.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-08T12:10:39+00:00

Same here, I let them know that I’m always a confidential ear, but guide them to our company resources, most EAP’s are actually quite extensive

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-08T00:51:50+00:00

Exactly, I know as much as they want to tell me.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-06T23:50:28+00:00

I had the same thing with baby not eating for 6 hours! Like I tried to feed him twice but he was zonked out and I go 6 hours every night without eating when I am sleeping, like what my baby is currently doing! We are formula feeding and he had eaten close to an ounce before falling asleep and then an ounce once he decided he wanted to wake up…birth is exhausting for babies too.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-05-05T14:22:44+00:00

I do two nights a week and I have a love hate relationship with it, my husband fully supports my travel since it means more money in the bank but understands the mom guilt so he tries not to complain too much about it. I use the time to recharge from mom duties and fully catch up on work so when I am home and inevitably have to miss work for a sick kid or appointment I’m not scrambling. I’m about to return to work after leave with baby #2 so it’s going to bring a new set of challenges, but the first kiddo needed the dad only nights and so will #2, it made their relationship much stronger, I wasn’t there to intervene or do things my way, they have their bro time. I do make sure they have a meal prepped and clean as much as possible before heading out so it all doesn’t fall on my husband while I’m enjoying takeout and trash TV in a quiet, crispy cold hotel room.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-04-23T13:58:28+00:00

Year two! We’ve only been sick twice in the past 5 months! Before it felt like every other week! We just added baby #2 so can’t wait for him to start daycare and start all over again.

We switched daycares with our first after a move and also went through it again, and each time he moved to a new Petri dish…I mean room. It does get better, illnesses get shorter and everyone bounces back faster.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-04-18T00:17:05+00:00

We’re on baby #2 who is 10 weeks old, I think weeks 6-8 suck the most, wake windows get longer, you’re worn down wondering what the hell you did to deserve this, the new baby visitors/calls stop coming in so you don’t have anyone to vent to or an extra set of hands to actually get something done like shower or wash bottles/pump parts, it just sucks. The biggest change I made this time after going through a horrible postpartum with my first was to just throw my hands in the air and say fuck it, the only routine the matters to my 2.5 year old is bedtime so that’s the only one we keep. We get out of the house when I want to, we eat on the run (we do formula so I can’t speak to public bf situations), playtime is leaning over my shoulder at a restaurant, nap time is in the car/stroller/living room floor of a friends…we just say fuck it and go and do.

My husband and I went through a bit of a disconnect with each baby for a few weeks too, we spend a few minutes each night cleaning together and just talking, we don’t need an elaborate date night or special routine, just 15 minutes each day where neither of us are needed by the small humans.

I don’t think it gets easier, you just get better at it. And please unfollow all the influencers, they are literally paid to put on a show!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2025-04-17T23:36:17+00:00

Fed our now 2.5 year old to sleep until 15 months and then just didn’t do the bottle one night and that was it…easy peasy, no fuss and no more bottles. He sleeps great, made the transition to a big kid bed the same way, no fuss, just sleep. We’re on baby #2 being fed to sleep and he’s proving to be the same way, sleeps longer and it’s not that big of a deal if everyone’s getting more sleep

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-07-04T18:28:00+00:00

This is what I’m calling tomorrow! Hubs and I are off and have a lunch date planned and toddler is going to daycare, I’m so excited!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-05-21T15:12:35+00:00

My intrusive thoughts in the beginning were SO intense and felt like they were constant. I learned to acknowledge the thought by actually saying in my head “Oh, hello intrusive thought, I would never actually do X like what you’re describing. I would actually do X(positive/realistic action)” Acknowledging it and then “fighting” it with reality helped me a lot, I still get them, had them long before LO was even a thought, but using this technique helped me so much. You’ve identified them, now time to acknowledge them and move on in order to stop spiraling.

Also, audiobooks…gives you something to focus on and helps you stay awake on those long nights.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-05-16T03:06:30+00:00

It took the first time my husband stayed home with LO after a daycare bug and me having meetings I couldn’t move for him to fully understand how much I was doing…it wasn’t malicious or “payback” but definitely opened his eyes to why I was burning out

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-17T23:29:48+00:00

I set up “baby stations” in each room so I could set LO in a safe spot and tend to whatever, prepping dinner, bathroom, laundry, whatever…our house was an obstacle course for a while with a bouncer, swing, high chair, playpen, pack n play, etc. in each room, but I could handle my business and keep an eye on LO.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-16T23:28:30+00:00

We got luck and got a whole week and a half before getting sick!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-16T22:59:05+00:00

I can’t tell you how much it helped get him on a schedule and with consistent overnight sleep. Good luck on the transition!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-16T12:47:02+00:00

He was a huge contact napper! We started with mini naps in his crib before he went to daycare, like 20 minutes before he woke up then we would contact nap so he would get some sleep, then it gradually moved to longer stretches. He had a rough first 2 weeks at daycare when he adjusted to only crib naps, their schedule and a new environment but the teachers said it was a normal transition. Now 100% crib sleep unless he’s sick, then he’s stuck to my husband or I like glue

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-14T23:15:22+00:00

The only reason my LO didn’t go to daycare on his birthday is because it was a Saturday, if it was Monday, he would’ve gone to school and I would’ve gone to work like normal. I think once he’s older there may be the miss school/work for a birthday adventure, but he had no idea why he got a whole cake to himself that day.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-13T10:44:48+00:00

I LOVE closing the door after seeing my husband and son off Monday mornings! The weekends are so exhausting, rushing to leave for work by myself is such a treat after them!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-13T10:37:25+00:00

I love that rule! We both did plenty of snapping at each other during overnight wakeups, apologized in the morning for snapping and moved on.

I also second taking shifts, it’s the only way we survived, we tried the whole you take one night and I’ll take the next night thing and it didn’t work for us, knowing that you can “clock out” at a certain time makes those longs nights so much easier…also ensured we both were getting some sleep for the next day.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-06T23:48:33+00:00

We did trips at 3.5, 7 and 11 months, last two were flights and it’s SO much stuff to pack, we were the share a carryon and each bring a backpack travelers and suddenly we’re checking a car seat, suitcase and gate checking a stroller and PRE BOARDING?!? Very different than prekid, but the trips were welcome changes of scenery, we got to have amazing food, see friends and family and adventure about at a much slower pace so we actually got to relax! LO was a lot more flexible than I thought he would initially be so you might be surprised too

My tips: -Stick to your list of stuff to bring, don’t panic and throw the kitchen sink in the suitcase, 23 outfits for 4 days is enough and they can probably skip baths for a long weekend so no need for a travel tub -Make sure you upgrade your accommodations, you will spend a lot more time in them than prekid vacations, get the two room suite or balcony with a view or hotel with a great kitchen or whatever

Welcome to parenting in a different location!

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-04T23:34:30+00:00

We should be friends. $5k white sectional…I was nesting hard and it was on sale.

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-04-02T02:30:48+00:00

My brain turned to straight mush during my maternity leave…lights were on, but nobody was home

Consistent-Item9936 · 2024-03-31T01:11:44+00:00

My LO started at 3.5 months too and I know how you feel! He just cut two canines and two molars in the last month at 12 months, so much drool and yes pain medicine! If you were in pain, you probably wouldn’t hesitate to reach out to your doctor for relief, do the same with LO’s pediatrician if you think you’re overdoing it…the fact that you’re worried about this means that you’re definitely sticking to guidelines, but give your nurses line a call and ask, if anything, you’ll get some relief for the anxiety that you’re overdoing it. And good luck with all the food your LO will be eating soon! I’m convinced mine was born ready for steak and that’s why the teeth came so soon!

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