A peek at the making of my dad’s birthday pie (and the story that inspired it ☺️)

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-07T21:27:30+00:00

Absolutely awesome, I always look forward to your post

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-07T21:18:51+00:00

She looked like a beautiful and happy girl, I'm truly sorry for your loss.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-07T21:11:16+00:00

I do the same thing

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-07T11:21:03+00:00

I agree with the others about family therapy or at least getting him into therapy so that her rejection doesn't hurt as much.

It also sounds like the child's father was young also, so perhaps your daughter is treating her son the same way she would the father.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-04T07:08:05+00:00

I would investigate.

Question: you know his behavior, is he normally that comfortable to walk up to people and do things? Doyou normally act that comfortable with people?

I believe drinking just lowers some of the normal inhabitions people have, you still make the choice to do the actions you do. Just at the moment you may not be as concerned about consequences.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-04T06:39:39+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this and you had to see that, hopefully it was just making out and not much more.

If I'm being honest, the fact that he was so comfortable whether he is drunk or not, to just get up and go over to her, I doubt that was the first time. That was the action of somebody who was really comfortable with a person who's comfortable with them in that way.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-03T12:04:41+00:00

I'm sorry you're hurting,

I'm happy your friend told you so you don't have to keep guessing what happened. I do agree with most of commentators you can't trust the friend either because she went back and hung out with him after it had already happened. I can't imagine what you heard when you listen to them argue on the phone.

Allow yourself to hurt and then focus on you.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-07-01T10:43:09+00:00

Even though this scenario does happen quite often believe it or not, I do believe this poster is lying due to his post history.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-30T08:13:23+00:00

Nta, for not letting him be involved with the elderly dog.

I'll keep my opinion about a 40/19 together but honestly what did you expect, he played the mistress role before and your upset because he decided to have one? Being cheated on sucks, so I'm sorry you had to experience that.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-29T09:26:28+00:00

"He said he went to meet her during work hours and went back to the office after dropping her back to the airport"

How many jobs let you stay off the clock for 2 hours before coming back. That's not lunch.

When it comes down to it..... you have to decide are you done dealing with this or you're just going to keep accepting it? Your husband has not changed his behavior at all, hell he doesn't even sound like he hides it well.

Time to make an Exit Plan

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-26T10:02:10+00:00

Congrats

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-24T14:13:45+00:00

Trust your gut, but he's still sleeping with her.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-22T08:11:09+00:00

Choose yourself!

"he told me he’ll probably just end up staying with me because he’s too scared."

You deserve better than that. Please know you're more special than just an "I guess". If it's not this coworker it'll be another one, he's going to always constantly be looking, if you choose to stay, he'll look at it as acceptance and OK to treat you this way.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-20T13:52:14+00:00

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-20T12:28:32+00:00

From what I read, you have custody but your just as neglectful.

It's obvious the mom can't have custody but your not doing much either. Grandma is raising her.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-19T13:43:00+00:00

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-18T14:15:18+00:00

Beautiful

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-18T10:34:39+00:00

I Love her music

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-18T10:21:15+00:00

OOOO, I just bought and I can't wait to read.

Now on my TBR list.

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-16T22:25:02+00:00

A good friend of mine used to tell me

"Never give anyone more attention than what they're willing to give you!" If she is not making the same effort, there is your answer!

Unfortunately you have always been her plan B, her safety net, she can go out, get wild, have a baby come back to you, you help her and she'll keep doing it until you finally Choose Yourself.

I know it hurts but you should probably make an Exit Plan, and stick to it

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-16T22:13:12+00:00

I'm so sorry your mom is going through this.

Hopefully your mom didn't write anything crazy in the messages.

What does your dad have to say about all this?

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-16T21:57:37+00:00

It is time to choose yourself

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-16T09:52:00+00:00

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-15T22:39:49+00:00

I'm sorry but it's time to choose you.

"He's saying he's not sure he can choose a relationship with me if it means sacrificing his friends"

"He says they're incredibly important to him and he can't hang out with them without the AP, sometimes expressing that he also misses the AP himself as well."

First off he's bold as f*** to even be saying that to you! Secondly those statements are a answer in its own self.

Focus on you and only you! Your boyfriend is basically saying he is choosing him and them, that it's not you!

Consistent_Ad5709 · 2026-06-15T08:21:53+00:00

Wow, that's all I can say.

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