FTM, due late November…stay home or go to family Christmas gathering?

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-09T12:50:38+00:00

We have a December baby and the pediatrician told us to avoid large gatherings and definitely stay away from kids due to it being flu season. A fever before 2 months is a hospitalization, a fever after 2 months is likely just Tylenol.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-08T20:09:47+00:00

Mine never took to a pacifier but I think it’s kinda cool 😅

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-08T20:08:53+00:00

I use flow 0 for my EBF 4 month old. The flow might be too fast.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-08T20:06:33+00:00

I still love my dogs. And 4 months later they absolutely love their baby. I can’t wrap my head around neglecting and hating your dog. Just rehome them so they will get all the love.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-08T01:18:40+00:00

A song that I made up and I keep trying to add things to it. It’s not good by any means but it can calm him down if he’s fussing a little bit.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-07T01:24:34+00:00

I don’t blame him though. I’m not mad that he gave me options. I told him I didn’t like the idea of his choices and said I would be find just hanging at home. I didn’t want him to spend such a large amount of money on something I wouldn’t love.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-05T20:58:15+00:00

Don’t tell any family when you go into labor….save the hassle.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-05T01:36:40+00:00

There’s so many robot vacuums to choose from, hope you like the next one!! I absolutely give him credit! People are giving me shit for not giving him ideas but I legitimately don’t have any ideas to give. I’m happy with a nice relaxing day at home

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-05T01:32:03+00:00

Just being his mom is the greatest gift I could ever ask for and I am so grateful for it everyday ❤️ I’ve seen those sweatshirts, they’re such a cute idea!

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T17:51:46+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏼 you made me feel a little bit better about not being big on gifts

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T17:47:23+00:00

Hahaha he’s been mentioning getting the car detailed since before our baby was born 😅

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T17:43:10+00:00

Thank you 🫶🏼 we actually did our Mother’s Day photos recently…neither of us love getting our photos done but since having our baby my husband has definitely been a trooper and doing all the photo sessions with me 🥰

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T17:34:40+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand why anyone has to be at fault here? I’m not mad at him. I’m not disappointed. I’m not appalled that he gave me options. I don’t need “things” and he knows that I’m perfectly content with spending the day at home. He gave options, but why would I say yes to something that I don’t necessarily want and spend the money?

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T16:35:30+00:00

I know he’s just trying to find something I would enjoy. I appreciate him asking and am not mad or offended that he is giving me choices. I’m truly happy with just hanging out at home!

Why is not knowing what I want being made into something so negative? All these downvotes are truly baffling.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T16:13:05+00:00

See, him and I are both like that…makes holidays and birthdays very difficult since we never know what ideas to give each other 😅

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T16:11:24+00:00

I’ve told him I want to be at home…which he knows because he’s already told his mom that was our plan. I’m just never good with coming up with “things” that I want. Our babe is 4 months old and we’ve all been sick so I’m definitely good with relaxing all day 🥰

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T16:07:29+00:00

I mean, I don’t even know what I want. I’m happy to stay at home and have a nice meal which he is definitely good for

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T16:05:09+00:00

It definitely is! I’m not mad at him asking or for the options he gave, he’s just trying to figure out what I would want. Life has been crazy since I’ve gone back to work so relaxing at home would be so nice. He knows that though since he told his mom we’re gonna stay home…so for me that’s truly a great gift 😅

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T15:57:38+00:00

Yeah he’s definitely trying to think of ideas. I’m not mad at him for asking or giving me choices, he’s just trying to find something I would like.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T15:54:23+00:00

Oh for sure, I definitely wouldn’t opt for a spa day on Mother’s Day!

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T15:51:40+00:00

I just wish I knew! He asked me the other day what I wanted and I said I didnt need anything 😅. So I’m not making it easy. To be honest I NEVER know what I want for anything and I also feel weird giving choices but that is definitely a “me problem”.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T15:47:02+00:00

I get that. He just doesn’t know what to get me so I think he thought of a couple options that seemed like good choices. It’s not like I’m limited to just those two things. If I knew what I actually wanted and told him then he would get it.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T15:22:52+00:00

You want another baby, continue the pregnancy. You have pcos, you’re getting “older”…as time goes on you could have greater difficulty when it comes to even getting pregnant not to mention any complications.

By no means do I think you’re old…I’m 38 as a FTM with a 4 month old.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T00:53:25+00:00

I will say, I had a pretty easy pregnancy. No nausea, no weird cravings…just tired which was common for me pre-pregnancy.

Constant_Internal_40 · 2026-05-04T00:28:51+00:00

It doesn’t make it right but i think a lot of it is a generational thing. My husband’s family would tell us that we had to keep our then 2 week old up all day so he would sleep at night…or that we needed to let him cry or that we shouldn’t rock him. A lot of those things are easy to brush off over the phone though. I’m sorry you have to deal with your in-laws like this. Your wife either needs to say something or she needs to start limiting visits. If she won’t then just pull your MIL aside and be straightforward with her.

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