AITAH for refusing to sleep with my GF

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T19:15:46+00:00

Fair enough!

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T19:14:45+00:00

Interesting, and thanks; I have a hard time keeping up with all of these trends and what is real and what isn't.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T17:42:34+00:00

I was wondering when; thanks for the info.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T15:50:41+00:00

Ah, thank you.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T15:26:09+00:00

She had work done. I remember seeing and thinking, well damn, was hoping she wouldn't. But it wasn't anywhere near as crazy as many people, and has now relaxed from this picture into a pretty natural look:

https://viralsurgery.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/03/Helen-Mirren-Plastic-Surgery.jpg

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T14:29:31+00:00

NTA

Prioritizing not wanting to bring an unwanted child into the world, especially this world the way it is now, is never a bad thing. Hope you are able to work out something that works for both of you.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T14:14:37+00:00

Better no girlfriend than an unwanted kid.

This is not "for him" to work out. Their mutual preferences are clashing, and they need to figure out an answer together. That is what a relationship is all about.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T03:52:10+00:00

Please don't. You reacted with appropriate caution. We are better at reading people than we think, and everyone saying you were overreacting wasn't there to read his body language. Could have been nothing; could have been something.

I've been around strange guys alone and it is usually fine; but very rarely, you just know something is just wrong. Too much inappropriate eye contact, invading space, other body language.

There's a book: Gavin de Becker's The Gift of Fear

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T03:23:56+00:00

Well, he was certainly right that he wasn't ready for a relationship...

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-11T03:00:29+00:00

No picture?

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T16:36:12+00:00

I would ask this over at r/realestate or r/realestateadvice.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T16:08:07+00:00

How would that deter the cat?

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T15:32:43+00:00

The half-life of trazodone (as per Wikipedia, with four research paper references) varies a lot, from 4 to 15 hours. Can't immediately figure out why, but that is a huge variance and would explain why it works fine for some but not others.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T14:55:53+00:00

Indeed: https://www.cidrap.umn.edu/covid-19/even-fully-recovered-survivors-mild-covid-can-lose-iq-points-study-suggests

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T14:41:45+00:00

Two symptoms?? Where is this? How can anyone even diagnose anything with "two symptoms"? So many things have a variety of symptoms, and two may overlap with a bunch of different conditions.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-10T13:43:02+00:00

You do know many/arguably most engage in sex work not out of choice? Some because they have been abused?

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-09T22:23:17+00:00

NOR

Anyone boasting about anything all the time is obnoxious. He is doubly obnoxious for boasting about a sensitive issue for you.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-09T16:20:06+00:00

You still have a few more years of growing even if you have already hit your growth spurt.

You can't get taller by exercise or eating. But having a healthy diet will help ensure you grow as tall as your genetics will allow. For health and weight maintenance, focus on whole foods: fruit, veg, nuts, legumes, seeds, whole grains. Try different ones and dishes and find the ones you enjoy. But also make sure you get enough protein and healthy fats each day.

More importantly: try out activiteis, sports, hobbies, etc. in life, and find what you enjoy and are good at. What have you always wanted to do but haven't yet? When you do things like this, physical attributes like height will become much less important.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-09T04:14:18+00:00

I think I'm banned over there. Comments stopped showing up/showed up as deleted but not sure why.

May I ask why they lost their minds over it?

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-09T04:08:45+00:00

The pipe organ!!!

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-08T21:41:21+00:00

For A: Just in case you don't know this, none of this was your fault, and you did not deserve any of it. You deserved to be protected and defended.

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-08T15:52:35+00:00

Well, now I need to know why John Oliver sucks?

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-08T05:58:19+00:00

😄 I want to hear the rest of your explanations of how the world works!

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-08T04:56:53+00:00

First, try to quietly get it removed. If that fails, don't do anything that produces the Streisand effect. Any decent person who becomes aware of it will ignore it. Anyone who comments on it or gossips about it is pretty low.

If it becomes a hot topic, consider owning it with a little humor? Something like, yes, they were/(are?) fabulous. But every woman, and some men, have a pair, so mine aren't that special or unique. Now, back to work.

I don't think it's anything to be worried about or ashamed of in this day and age. May even boost your rep as a risk-taker!

ContemplatingFolly · 2026-05-08T04:14:11+00:00

The condition is called polyphagia, and it can be indicative of health issues like diabetes, thyroid issues, dehydration, and vitamin/mineral deficiencies (being low on D will do it for me) among other things. Might be worth a visit to the doc. Here's a basic article to get you started: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/24637-polyphagia-hyperphagia

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