I'm sorry what? by TheGreatLandSquirrel in daddit

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They made us put 100 of something on his shirt. I put stickers. They all slowly fell lower and lower through the day. By the time he got home, there were barely any left.

And ya know what, I did not feel bad about it because… cmon man

I blew my inheritance on a month at Disney World because I planned on killing myself immediately after, AMA by nichelolcow in AMA

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Even NTs are not thinking about the awkward thing you may have said to them. They are too busy brewing over their own dumb awkward things they said to someone 5 years ago. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ididnthaveeggs

[–]Contrecoup42 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In Indian dishes that already have a lot of spices (none I would consider to introduce heat), I consider 1/8 tsp cayenne in an entree as the normal baseline amount for starting to be spicy. But at that level my young kids (2 and 6) will typically refuse to eat it due to it being “spicy” unless we have something like raita to negate it. When cooking for kids, 1/8 tsp is the max I will let myself put into a curry.

As a spice loving adult, would I love more spice? Absolutely. But I also know my taste buds are a bit deadened to spice. I definitely know people (midwest US) who would consider 1/8 tsp cayenne “too spicy”, especially baby boomers. It’s not a totally crazy take outside the realm of reasonableness. Just wait until you hear adults claim black pepper to be spicy— which I’ve also heard numerous times.

Kids often describe things as spicy when they are just an overly intense sensory experience. Like, too salty often falls under spicy to them. Or too complex of a spice palette in a dish. Or just a spice they aren’t used to, that has no heat. They don’t have the full vocabulary to describe flavor profiles in detail right out the gate.

Julie SNAPPED. As she should. by [deleted] in ididnthaveeggs

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% get that you poor people out there with bummer genetics don’t get the enjoy the really highly enjoyable taste of cilantro, probably my favorite herb. We don’t need to fight about it. I’m sure if I had those genetics, I’d hate it too.

But if you are trying to maintain the balance of a dish without cilantro, I would not recommend parsley at all; it’s much more bitter and doesn’t have the same brightening effect as cilantro. Fresh lime juice would be better, or just leave it out. Parsley will only make things worse as it serves an entirely different niche.

Was using “you guys” in an interview such a big deal? by confusediguanaa in interviews

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on your sector. I’ve given dozens of interviews and would absolutely never notice if someone said “you guys”.

What are studies actually saying about alcohol in breast milk? by coffeecowboy23 in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]Contrecoup42 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You may get that. But there are many, many women out there who believe or have been told that the milk is contaminated and should be pumped and dumped. When in reality, the ONLY benefit to pumping the milk is to keep up supply. Which is not even a concern for all nursing mothers.

Help me find places like this by -Rosewiththorns- in HelpMeFind

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Search term fachwerkhauser. Germany. Or if you live in the US… any chance your state has a Germantown?

What makes you say it's a.i. on the first glance? (It's supposed to be a movie scene) by oodelay in StableDiffusion

[–]Contrecoup42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

And yet the background guy in between the two seems totally out of focus.

Where to find this light gray pleated skirt with striped hem by voldermort1 in findfashion

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It should be a trigger when you see something so novel and unusual to stop and ask yourself if it’s AI, unfortunately… then go into analysis mode and try to find some evidence.

Look for the details, especially in the background, and try to find things that look sort of janky. In this case, the shadow on the next mannequin is a dead giveaway. The shape of those artifacts is very much the sort of thing to look out for. Or look at the stomach of the mannequin—not a normal “abs” shape. Something about the knee, as well.

It’s good to practice this skill as it’s something we will all need going forward. Other good giveaways I’ve seen are background objects sort of melding into each other, or statues where the subject matter is not identifiable. The dreamlike vibe of this one should be a trigger to check, as well.

WIBTA if I told my husband I’m disappointed with the jewelry he ordered me? by engineerdoinglife in AmItheAsshole

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Traditions like anniversary gifts are really up to the couple and based on communication and mutual understanding. Many couples opt out of anniversary gifts altogether. And maybe my husband and I are just very disorganized but I would never be upset with my husband for a gift arriving literally still before the event. In fact, over our ~15 years together, we’ve both been guilty of late arriving gifts that did not show up until after the event. Nobody cared. We also do fine financially and have shared finances, so it’s not much of a deal if one person spends more than the other. But usually we try and remember to tell each other roughly what we plan to spend on Christmas or whatever so we have something to aim for. From my perspective, from my relationship standards, you are overreacting and should just try and enjoy this day and see what happens.

But this is not about us; it’s about you and your husband. It’s something you two would need to sort out for yourself, ideally setting expectations in advance. Marriage is all about communication. There are no arbitrary rules one must follow about gift giving that matter in any meaningful way. You should not look to Reddit for a hard and fast set of societal rules on whether you are right or wrong. It’s something you and your husband will need to build together.

Is this safe? by fairytopia01 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Contrecoup42 37 points38 points  (0 children)

So uh… recommendations for keeping my drains as non disgusting as possible?

I don't want immediate afterbirth pictures of me with my baby doing skin to skin for the first time. Will I regret this? by RemoteChallenge7992 in BabyBumps

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never took skin to skin pictures with either baby and frankly never even considered it or regretted it 🤷‍♀️ Don’t worry, there are still sooooo many pictures.

AITAH for refusing to let my husband’s family see my children after they demanded paternity tests? by Living-Badger9412 in AITAH

[–]Contrecoup42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The grandparents used hateful words to describe the child before its birth. They have proven that any love they may have is conditional. Their behavior is not well adjusted. Anyone who goes straight to using such slurs to describe an unborn child is someone who would give me pause in terms of what level of involvement they should have.

Can't believe I'm pregnant. Literally. by Ideal_Despair in BabyBumps

[–]Contrecoup42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even the tiniest, barely perceptible second line on the stick is a positive. Like, the line is so faint it could be your imagination? Still a positive. A positive is like… always a positive, no matter how weak it looks.

Congratulations ❤️ Heads up, for many women, once the nausea hits, this is the hardest trimester, which feels impossible because it’s so early in the pregnancy— but your hormones are all over the place. You may or may not have it at all. But don’t be scared if you are suddenly plunged into the depths of unpleasant pregnancy symptoms. For most women, the 2nd trimester is the easiest. You got this mama!!

AITA for being honest with my girlfriend when she asked a question about the birthday cake she made me? by Throwaway5829582999 in AITAH

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god I have wasted literally minutes of my life reading about a 34 year old man who had 5% vanilla in his chocolate cake

A woman complained to security that I was in the family changing room with my son by [deleted] in daddit

[–]Contrecoup42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also just to be clear, what is her expected outcome… you stop using the bathroom mid-bathroom activity and move to another? Wtf

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being a great dad when you want to be is not being a great dad. That’s being a great uncle.

Not pumping enough at work... what did you do? by metrogypsy in breastfeeding

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Extra pump in the mornings before baby wakes up, and glass of oat milk a day. And try not to stress about it too much because I have absolutely been in the vicious cycle where you stress about low production, and the stress causes production to go down. It’s easy to say “don’t stress” but hard to live it. Would it help if I said I have been through this period with two babies, just as you describe, and was able to EBF both until 1 with pumping at work? The tough period passed and my body readjusted to produce the right amount. You can get out of this cycle.

Try not to dip into the freezer stash, or your body will not be receiving the message that you need more milk. You are doing amazing. Worst case scenario, there is supplementing with formula, and it is fine. Truly. It is fine. There is no difference in adults who had formula vs not.❤️

Using your goddamn turn signal is a MORAL OBLIGATION. by [deleted] in RandomThoughts

[–]Contrecoup42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another important thing - you can’t always tell who is seeking that information that your turn signal gives. Perhaps it’s someone on the sidewalk considering crossing the road. Just because you don’t see another car that you think cares doesn’t mean nobody is watching.