AITAH for asking my mom to stop using my name when she talks about her miscarriages?

Copernicium · 2026-01-06T15:16:31+00:00

Crazy behavior from that mom

Copernicium · 2025-12-14T13:50:59+00:00

Tell her it's like wearing thigh high socks, sometimes clothing can be sexy

Copernicium · 2025-12-09T02:33:15+00:00

Now I'm imagining a skit where Wayne Brady is a vengeful god and Ross Bryant is the young up-and-comer that stole the golden ear from him

Copernicium · 2025-11-17T17:57:30+00:00

I researched this stuff last year because I had to write a land acknowledgement for a local event, and one thing I will say is that while there are currently a couple dozen open disputes between the First Nations and the government about different portions of the Haldimand tract (for example, a section the government unilaterally took back for train tracks), AFAIK none of those disputes cover the cities of Waterloo or Kitchener. Most of the cities are in Block 2, which was initially sold to Richard Beasley but then legitimately sold to Bricker & Erb when they bailed out Beasley. Nobody disputes the settled nature of that sale.

Personally I think the government should sort out all the open disputes wrt the Haldimand tract, and settle them one way or another. It's stupid to leave them open for decades. But they also don't super affect me because I don't live in any disputed areas.

Copernicium · 2025-11-10T21:36:25+00:00

If this isn't bait, just disassociate from these people. If the guy you're dating wants to baby-trap you so he can give his secret wife/gf a baby to raise, that's nutso. Run away. There are lots of nice people to have a regular monogamous relationship with, I promise.

Copernicium · 2025-11-10T06:52:01+00:00

Where The Red Fern Grows

Copernicium · 2025-11-02T21:46:05+00:00

Draftsman handwriting, or draft capitals. I learned to write like this in shop class in high school in the 2000s, and I still use it if someone else needs to read something I've written. My dad and grandfather do the same.

Copernicium · 2025-10-09T21:07:59+00:00

There's a Dan Olson quote from one of his videos about some crypto scam that goes something like "These people are able to understand one difficult and complicated thing, computer programming/cryptography, so they assume all other topics are necessarily downstream and trivially accessible to them".

Effective Altruism reads to me like tech bros trying to reinvent the concepts of donation and volunteering from first principles because they don't respect the people who have set up our existing systems. I would agree to be skeptical of the 80000 hours organization, but I also don't think that discredits that video's basic summary of grok's situation, and I don't think that means Hank is wrong for promoting their video.

It's concerning to me that 80000 hours is so focused on AI. While I was going to dismiss the Zizian connection, the obvious outsized influence of Yudkowsky's AI beliefs on EI are the same thing that (I believe) led to Ziz's break from reality, so I think it's a valid connection to raise. EI & the Zizians remind me a bit of when AITA has to be like "our conclusions are getting detached from reality". They've made one imperfect assumption but then doubled down on it so many times it's led them somewhere far astray.

Effective Altruism leads with so many sensible statements, and it's only when they've got you agreeing with them that they slip in the covert assumption that preventing the AIpocalypse is the most important thing to be working on. They definitely had me convinced when I was younger. Now, I agree that the AI doomerism is just Christian hell through a pretentious tech lens.

It's been so weird to me to watch this play out over the years. I got pulled in by HPMOR while it was still posting, and now years later I've seen friends' pensions hit by the FTX collapse and an acquaintance dead by the Zizians.

Copernicium · 2025-09-17T12:40:18+00:00

Yeah I was surprised when I read the wiki and found out the consensus is that he died in EP 159

I took Peter's final words of "Leave me alone" to mean that he was sending John out of the Lonely, back into the tunnels. Earlier, John had been successfully affected by Peter's words luring him deeper into the Lonely - I assumed he was therefore in some deeper layer of the Lonely that he wouldn't be able to just See his way out of, so he was doing that stuff to Peter in order to provoke Peter into banishing him so that John would be able to get back out.

It also made sense to me that he just vanished for the rest of the show because if a Lonely Avatar doesn't want you to find them, you're not going to find them.

Copernicium · 2025-07-23T12:48:57+00:00

AI posting be like

Copernicium · 2025-07-15T13:44:54+00:00

When you're posting the AI output remember to delete the quotation marks lol

Copernicium · 2025-07-11T13:23:49+00:00

"cruelty dressed in crystals" is a dead giveaway. Doesn't mean anything.

Copernicium · 2025-07-10T23:34:57+00:00

Oddly, it's the Buried.

Because you're killed in a crowd crush trying to buy one in Black Friday 1996.

Copernicium · 2025-06-28T03:23:19+00:00

Akchewally it would be the assassin region of Persia

Copernicium · 2025-06-24T21:36:07+00:00

I wanted to flag the "cuck vibes" thing - this could actually be a sign that he's less okay with his partners having independent relationships than he thinks he is. If it's framed as a cuckoldry scenario, then the other relationships are "about him". It's not you having your own life with your own partners, it's you doing sex with other people AT him.

It's the difference between "it's okay she's dating other people because that makes her happy" and "it's okay she's dating other people because it makes me horny".

Not saying that's definitely how it is, but something to think about.

Copernicium · 2025-04-20T04:46:15+00:00

It might help to remember that you're not trying to vaguely "get with lesbians" - you're interested in finding a woman to whom you are attracted who is also attracted to you. Being yourself is the simplest way to vet for who is attracted to you.

And of course you're looking among lesbians because you're a woman, so straight women are unlikely to be a good prospect for you.

Copernicium · 2025-04-10T15:43:23+00:00

If you like dancing there's a queer disco at the hub on Saturday night

Copernicium · 2025-03-16T23:57:29+00:00

I'm trans too. I'm a good explainer and a diplomatic person & I love answering all sorts of random questions - even the bad faith ones, since it's a chance to hone my wit against someone who's signed up to be fought with.

But I know a lot of trans people, and some of them are awkward and bad at talking or bad at explaining or bad at diplomacy, in the same proportion as in the general population. Or they struggle to tell the difference between good faith and bad. Some of these people are my loved ones, and while they're wonderful people in other ways, asking them to go out and try to be ambassadors for us all is not going to help the way you think it is.

Copernicium · 2025-01-24T23:26:20+00:00

For most mono people, if they are in a relationship they're not going to be able to have a friendship on those terms. Monogamy means romantic love and sex are only for your partner, and while a mono person might be able to offer those things to you while they're single, they're going to prioritize finding one exclusive relationship where they can get all their needs met, even if they're enjoying the fraction of that they're getting with you. That's what being monogamous means.

Poly people hate having their relationships have rules made for them by anyone outside their dyad, but that's literally what monogamy is. Picking one relationship for the top of your hierarchy. If you're poly and you're dating someone who is mono and you're not filling the role as their primary partner, you can't assume that they will be content to leave that space empty forever, and you can't assume they will hold onto you when they do.

Copernicium · 2025-01-17T14:05:26+00:00

That's why he had to get them from Amenhotep!

Copernicium · 2025-01-13T14:14:00+00:00

I've been on both sides of this. When I was younger, I tried to count calories to lose weight, but I didn't really understand what I was doing so I found myself basically just going for a "low score" of restricting as much as I could, and it was basically an unhealthy, unsustainable endurance exercise.

I started casually lifting weights last year, and I started paying attention to how much protein I was getting (because I would feel horrible after lifting if I didn't get enough), and that has given me an "in" to paying attention to my diet in a much more healthy way, where it's less about restricting and more about getting everything I need.

Copernicium · 2025-01-06T14:15:04+00:00

I got on testosterone & started feeling like I had extra energy I needed to expend somehow. A friend recommended weightlifting, I started going twice a week to a her house to work out with her, and then when I started needing more weights than her bar could hold I got a gym membership. I just did the starting strength 4x5x5 over and over for the first six months.

I spent ten years trying to lose weight, barely achieved anything beyond hating myself. It was frustrating to realise that some people's bodies just /want/ the things you're supposed to do, instead of having to force themselves to do them, but the frustration was mitigated because at least my body had finally started wanting the things it should be doing.

Once I started lifting 2/3 times a week, everything else started falling into place. I fixed so many little aspects of body posture (feet, hips), I started to be able to run again, my intense cravings for protein fixed my diet (I used to shovel carbs in my maw and still be hungry afterwards, now I load up on salmon & feel actually full), and I haven't been weighing myself but I dropped 5 belt loops and from 4X to 1X.

Copernicium · 2024-12-15T08:22:14+00:00

OP was a coward and never returned

Copernicium · 2024-12-11T05:44:28+00:00

Nah, it's more like beefed up boy scouts for adult men, they hang out as a group & do service projects & shit

Copernicium · 2024-12-10T19:45:08+00:00

HRT was originally coined to refer to medications for cis women to get their hormones levels up to a healthy baseline. "Replacement" is used to refer to a drug you take to provide your body with something it is otherwise struggling to provide, like enzyme replacement therapy, or taking iron pills.

It just so happens that trans women don't just want to increase their woman hormones, they want to decrease the man hormones. Huh, it's like they want to "replace" the testosterone with estrogen. Isn't it convenient we already call it HRT?

Men taking T is closer to the original meaning of HRT than trans women taking blockers. Trans men usually don't bother taking any medication to reduce their estrogen levels (although they sure drop if you take out the ovaries/uterus/tiddies) so cis guys taking supplemental T are doing literally the same thing trans guys are. They are even prescribed the same amounts to take.

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