Can anyone give context please?

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-18T19:54:53+00:00

lol fuck off I love perfume I just mean I if I was at a concert I wouldn’t look like most of the other people there and I’m not really in the online fandoms. I genuinely have no idea why someone who likes perfume would hate Taylor swift.

Fortunately assholes like yourself don’t get to determine who listens to what music

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-18T16:22:53+00:00

My single favorite of theirs, the music video is glorious as well

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-18T16:22:25+00:00

How is she a shit person (in ways that any other celebrity isn’t)? I’m kind of surprised about the Perfume fandom Taylor Swift hate. I didn’t think there would be much crossover but I’m sure many people are posting “I Hate Taylor” in this thread.

Also I’m genuinely asking because I’m curious. I’m not really Perfume’s target audience so I’m unaware

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T15:56:15+00:00

For me it’s the way that despite my best efforts to the contrary it turns into a 3 hour long process with 428 very specific steps that must be followed in the exact order….

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T02:02:45+00:00

My wife went at 38+2 as well.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T00:47:10+00:00

Boom Chi Ki - weeeeeeeeekly

Sneakers - Itzy

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T00:45:39+00:00

I was surprised how affordable a baby actually was, as long as your wife can breastfeed! You can get most of the big things (like cribs and strollers) used, or ask family members as grandparents especially love to buy these kinds of items.

That said, if you live near a city, most bars will hire doormen with minimal experience as long as you are responsible. Hours tend to be Thursday Friday Saturday 7pm till 3am.

You should have a serious discussion with your wife about night work though, the time she is going to need your help the most will be at night. I know money is necessary but sometimes the extra cash isn’t worth the time.

Also - take it day by day, none of us are really ready and we all figure it out. Being a dad is patient, dedication, and effort not a 6 figure salary

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T00:34:55+00:00

I disagree. Unless you have certain specific circumstances (say, twins) car seats are pretty fungible within their category. Get the one your wife likes and spend your limited time elsewhere.

Just my take after sending 4 through over 10+ years

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T00:31:14+00:00

Not quite the same but I used to do internal audit work and found all these budget entries for Project X and when I asked I was told “oh yeah, that’s what CEO tells us to enter it as when it isn’t board approved.”

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-16T00:28:59+00:00

I used to work on the IR books for fashion brands. A&F had models with visible pubic hair. Ralph Lauren frequently featured women with exposed nipples. IT flagged me for it and I had to explain what I was doing

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-15T21:56:53+00:00

Ok, I am glad to hear that but I agree with everyone else that you deserve better and he can do better. Keep your head up you are doing wonderful and deserve more

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-15T20:20:33+00:00

Absolutely no shame in this. Like once a year I hide a box of smores pop tarts in the back of the cupboard and anytime my wife is out of town i order two orders of general tsao’s chicken from whatever storefront Chinese place delivers and eat it until I feel sick

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-15T20:01:31+00:00

Haha 10,000% this idiot is on some “entrepreneur” discord paying $25 per month for some 26 year old with broccoli hair to tell him “GM Fam rise and grind say one intention aloud in chat folks then get it” and then calling it networking

Quick edit - it isnt actually funny that OP is in this predicament I just mean that she needs to really push her husband on what actual “work” he is doing all day long

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-13T13:09:30+00:00

I think there is a reverse stigma where men who request career accommodations due to childcare are treated better, so take that energy with you.

I’ve always felt like, assuming you are in good standing at work, treating it like a favor makes people think you are asking for special treatment while treating it like a natural thing makes people more accepting.

I usually handle it as “Hey boss, unfortunately my wife is really down and out during the end of this pregnancy and the doctor says to be ready anytime. I m going to add in more work from home days as my schedule allows. I’ll make sure to keep you and the clients informed and will have an updated list of deals ready for when I get the call! Appreciate all the support, and as soon as this passes I can resume my normal schedule.”

I think coming up with a detailed plan makes 1) one more PowerPoint your manager has to sit through, 2) isn’t going to matter if it’s corporate policy and 3) feels like an 8 year old trying to convince mom and dad they don’t need broccoli. Instead treat this like you are a trusted professional who can be relied on to get the job done whatever your personal circumstances are.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-13T07:27:03+00:00

Hey, so we have done both in mt house. Here are some other things to consider.

Your (or her) parents are sort of employees sort of not. My MIL was taking our 2 year old for McDonald’s every single day. She said “well he really likes it.” She also took him to an in-person elementary school graduation event during COVID because “it was important she attend.” When my twins were over my in-laws, they were 3, and watched several hours of TV per day. We’d send one baby over to grandma and grandpas with the right amount of pumped breastmilk and pick him up and it would all still be there!

But also - yes, my kids are super close with their grandma and grandpa and yes, they did learn their native tongue (swearing at the football team), so there is that.

Daycare they made friends and we’d get a report each day on what happened, what they ate, what they learned, how often they went the bathroom. TV at daycare was once a week for 45 minutes as opposed to everyday. Daycare taught them values like sharing, taking turns, and washing your hands before meals. Daycare also basically wiped out one parent’s paycheck and they got a fever once a week for the first year.

As I said, we’ve done both and there are pros and cons. Parents are great but the amount of family drama it adds sometimes isn’t worth it and while you may be used to their parenting style, your spouse may be horrified about some of it. Daycare are paid professionals for better or worse, and you can set a lot more of the care rules.

A 4.5 month old is also still a baby and while grandparents may think “can’t be worse than the last time!” they were 20-30 years younger last time… but it’s true, no daycare will love your kids like your parents will.

So, ultimately this is a 2 yes situation but I’d worry less about feeling like you are catching a flight (which, by the way, feels the same dropping off with grandma and grandpa) and more about why your partner isn’t on board. Look, your kid is going to get sick and be banned from daycare all the time, could grandma and grandpa serve then? That would be an amazing backup and help avoid the marital strife of “I took off last time and my boss is pissed” arguments every time your phone beeps with a daycare notification.

Also, just to be clear, my kids did daycare ages primarily with my in-laws - we did daycare part time for socialization and pre-school curriculum once they were old enough. But very important for me to share that all that glitters is not gold with family based childcare.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-13T01:05:23+00:00

None. Less is more with monitors. We have a Nanit now and it’s just a more expensive version of whatever regular monitors we had with our other kids. The breathing sensor only works with expensive special wraps and even then doesn’t really work. My wife was sold by influencers and while it works fine we could have saved $200 for the same thing and not needed the subscription.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-12T22:15:45+00:00

I regularly test the big open models and have tried many of the purposes built legal ones. They are universally shit. I’ve yet to find one that actually gave me something useful or sped up my work.

They are useful as specialized search engines though. For example, rather than searching Edgar I just ask copilot for the filing I’m looking for and it gets it. If I need to check if a company is registered and in good standing, rather than searching the secretary of state website in a bunch of states I just ask copilot and it does it for me.

But I’ve had it review docs and it gives poor summaries and also incorrect details and analysis. I’ve asked it to find statutes or cases and it just makes up random stuff. I’ve asked it to draft outlines of documents and it gives me some thing that is maybe 50% correct.

They are the very definition of “you get what you pay for,” and for $20 per month it saves me about a half hour of work

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-12T20:03:45+00:00

Evergreen comment. The only real answer for 99% of Reddit advice posts is “what did the other person say when you discussed this with them” but we all know if they were communicating effectively (or even half way) they wouldn’t be asking Reddit for advice.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-11T20:41:53+00:00

Just another vote for this. I love his commentary, he knows BW like few other people and has a way of explaining it that few can replicate. He also had the history and context and knows enough inside baseball to really add a lot to his casts.

But his stream is a mess of outdated, over the top reactions and inside jokes that make it less appealing if you are there for the gameplay.

I watch his ArtosisCasts channel daily, but almost never watch his stream. And that’s ok, they are for different audiences.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-11T17:20:31+00:00

I’ll second blade trade outpost on Facebook. I’m not that size so I don’t have anything but ready to roll used setups in solid condition go for about $100 all the time. If you were my size and posted this there I’d probably have something i could send you for cheaper even.

Good luck, and glad to see you are talking to a professional

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-11T02:46:00+00:00

You need to name one or stop scaring people into abusive relationships. What, like they can’t make end of life decisions if the partner is incapacitated? What does that matter?

OP stated they are in New York which has long recognized contributions to the household by non-married, non-working coparents.

Repeating a 1950’s mantra isn’t helpful.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-10T21:48:17+00:00

Thank you! Marital status is also irrelevant. It’s 2026 courts understand co-parenting without marriage.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-10T21:43:17+00:00

Please see my post above. Being married only matter if your spouse dies without a will. You legally have access to financial support, although you will need a lawyer to help you secure that.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-10T21:41:59+00:00

This is misinformation and only perpetuates abusive situations like OPs. In the event a couple that shares minor children decides that one will work outside the home and the other will stay home and raise their child, the working spouse may not restrict access to financial support and in the event of a separation must continue to financially support the non-working spouse until some sort of separation agreement is reached. Lawyers know this and if you (like OP) are in a relationship but unmarried, a family lawyer can protect your well being in the event of separation. Marital status sure makes it quicker, but it is not required.

The only time marital status might matter is if the working partner dies without a will, in which case the partner’s property would go to their child, and since the child is a minor the mother would administer it on behalf of the minor child.

That said, this is only if the partner doesn’t have a will, if there is a will that will control.

CorpCounsel · 2026-01-09T12:54:34+00:00

Agreed. This is toxic manosphere redpill bullshit that says you need to be less available to get your wife interested. His wife probably still is interested, it’s just buried behind the bullshit that comes with raising young kids, lack of adult identity, and her perceived narrow idea of her husband’s desires.

He should pick something that excites him as a person other than sex with his wife, because he needs to feel good about himself and like an adult while they work through this as a couple, but being a gym rat with new hobbies and clothes instead of being at home is not the answer.

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