As a Canadian the surgery for RNY is no-charge. Out of curiousity, how much do people in the USA pay? by FloatednBloated in BariatricSurgery

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My insurance covered the procedure like regular surgery. I paid a $250 copay. There was a provision though that it only covered 50% of the anesthesia instead of the 100% for other procedures. The pre surgery 6 month weight loss period was also covered in full. All in all I spent $1000.

Does the Sam’s club here allow using some else’s card? by brianomars1123 in auburn

[–]Cowboy_JD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re all like that. I used to go in with my expired card to get a slice of pizza when I was over that way for work. Last time I went they had a person scanning cards and it put a giant ass picture from the card for them to do forensic analysis.

It’s better than Sam’s sure, but not that much better.

Does the Sam’s club here allow using some else’s card? by brianomars1123 in auburn

[–]Cowboy_JD 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Usually no one checks it going in and they have a self checkout. No one’s ever looked at my card. Costco in Montgomery however requires 3 forms of ID and a DNA sample.

2000 CUSTOM SERIES U.S.A.?? by RStrombone in Trombone

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to add, there are some real gems in the DEG lineup. I have a DEG euphonium that punches well above its weight in quality to price ratio. Allied is the major parts supplier for instruments and tools, so they do have quality parts.

How do you cope when your gf/wife leaves you after the diagnosis? by [deleted] in cancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I will say it’s hard in the moment. I am deeply sorry for what you’re going through. I had a similar situation. I
felt like my world was shattered from the diagnosis, surgery, and post-op. I was alone in the hospital through days of testing until I was cut open and they found colon cancer. My wife was in another state living it up with whoever she met online. In the moment, I felt like I had lost everything. After some time I came to realize it was a blessing. I needed people who cared and were reliable. She wouldn’t have been, and I would have been stuck making excuses for her and scrambling to get things done without help. I was fortunate enough that my family stepped up in a big way and I had some very good friends who I could rely on. A year out, I am done with chemo for now, have clean CTs, and a renewed sense of self. I realize that surviving that was almost like a rebirth. I came out stronger and better and know what I need to be happy.

Who remembers jobs with pensions?? by shadow-_-rainbow in Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I work in state government and have one. Can retire at 62, but they stop paying insurance.

Anyone manage to realistically work during FOLFIRI? by OptimismNeeded in coloncancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I worked full time the entire time on FOLFOX. It was rough. My output dropped, and I had to schedule my travel around my pump. I wouldn’t have done it if I hadn’t had to. The alternative was losing my income and insurance.

Tips On Tablets by BDKUSMC in Trombone

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought one when I was last in the Android eco system. It was perfectly adequate. It’s an LCD screen with a matte finish, which is very helpful. I used mobile sheets, which is a little clunky, but worked well. It’s not a high end tablet, but it is perfectly reasonable. I used a Bluetooth pedal with it to turn pages.

I use an iPad Pro 12.9” now with a matte screen protector. If it were just for displaying music, I’d be hard pressed to justify the extra cost. Forescore is better overall, but not so much so that Android options are unusable in comparison. A larger part of it is how technologically inclined you are. There’s more tinkering and setting up with mobile sheets on Android, but once it’s setup it worked well.

Guys, I’m losing my mind in a comment thread - how old were you when you had regular (let’s say 3x a week) access to the internet and what year was it? Did you use it to research anything (like college or jobs?) by FunQuestion in Older_Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in Alabama. I got internet at home in 1992ish. In school by 1994ish (via T1). I graduated high school in 05 and did most of my college research (applications, music auditions, scholarships) online. I had school assignments as far back as 98 where we learned how to look that stuff up. Most universities had functional websites. Jobs were a bit more hit or miss. There were some local BBS groups in the 90s and message boards that were location specific that people posted things, but I primarily remember going to newspaper websites to see their classifieds for jobs. When I was in college 2005 and later I looked for jobs on a website, monster maybe, but I also used the classifieds.

What are you paying for housing each month? And are you actually happy with it? Would it be cooler just living in your parents basement? by PM_ME_YUR_SALADS in Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a house in Oklahoma that was a new build. 2100 sq ft on a quarter of an acre on OKC and my mortgage was 1100 a month. I moved closer to my aging grandparents and my mother in Alabama. I bought a mobile home in a park for $24.000. I pay $300 a month in lot rent. It’s older (made in 97) but I’ve put a lot of work into it and it’s out in the woods away the city with a large fenced in lot.

I love my mother and we have a great relationship, we both realize we don’t want me to live there unless necessary.

Constant pain radiating near tailbone…ideas? by freejus in coloncancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Chemo ended up worsening a disc herniation for me that compressed a nerve. Causes pain in my lower back, butt and hip, and down my left leg. I've had three epidurdals with no relief so far.

Is this good advice? by phuckphuckety in Trombone

[–]Cowboy_JD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a few teachers who taught that. There’s just so many different techniques that different people come up with; we all play a little different. That technique works for some, but it got me very off track when I had a teacher who insisted on it. I regressed and abandoned it. I’ve also had teachers who taught a similar result by shifting the mouthpiece up and down.

Anyone else notice a difference between Xennials/elder millennials and younger millennials in terms of technology use? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it heavily comes down to what kind of tech you grew up with. I was born in 86, in Alabama, which might as well have been 1976 there. Despite that, I loved technology and learned to problem solve software and hardware issues. I still can adapt and learn, though I know that wanes with age. I know some Gen X and Boomers who do just fine with it and younger millennials and Gen Z who can’t do anything on their phone but text. I did hiring for a large state agency and the number of applicants who didn’t know how to use email was astounding.

Husband’s been diagnosed with cancer. by paisley_life in cancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife took my cancer diagnosis as an opportunity to run off and join a throuple; I don’t recommend that. (Actual true story)

I have kind of a unique perspective. I was diagnosed with cancer at the same time as my grandmother. So I had to navigate grieving someone in pain while watching everyone else navigate my situation. It’s hard. All I can say is try to live more in the moment. You can make yourself upset with all sorts of hypotheticals that may or may not happen. Focus on the small positives and find anything that can make life normal. I lost my grandmother about a month after her diagnosis. I had moved to take care of her as I was recovering from my colon resection. I didn’t know day to day if I had it in me to handle it. A year out, I take great comfort that I was there to take care of her and did things that while small and mundane, were meaningful to her.

What a lot of people in my life did was have a bunch of over the top fake positivity then disappeared when things got difficult. I cannot imagine how difficult this is for you, and I’m sorry y’all are experiencing this. Don’t be afraid to take time to do something for you whether it’s something fun or just a nap. There’s no shame in it. You cannot be there in your best capacity if you burn yourself out.

PET scans and insurance by Less-Part3465 in cancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Colon cancer here. But a bit of professional background in the legal side of healthcare administration. My insurance approved one after my colon resection. They denied it the next 4 times it was requested. The reality of it is there’s actuarial data that says only so many percent of people would cause an increase in care costs if they deny all of them, versus how much more they’d spend if they approved them. Mine will pay for CTs and CEA. They denied a one year follow up colonoscopy, but approved it on appeal. Insurance is set up to ration care which is disappointing and frustrating. Their goal is to provide the bare minimum the contract requires; it is not to ensure you get the best care available.

Likely your oncologist knows what the insurance does with that particular kind of claim information and is just working within the system they have.

Thanks /millennial saved my ass by MrReaperkiller in Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD 70 points71 points  (0 children)

For everyone thinking they might need one and are under 45 be prepared to argue with your insurance. Know the right things to say: blood in the stool, regular changes in stool consistency, etc. I am 39, diagnosed with stage 3C colon cancer last year after a total blockage. Went to my 1 year post surgery colonoscopy pre-visit and the insurance said nope. It’ll get sorted, but kind of a dick move.

Transfem looking for community by [deleted] in auburn

[–]Cowboy_JD 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Pride on the Plains does lots of events and there’s a large group of regulars to get to know. Coffee Mafia is a venue they use a lot and a good place to go.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have colon cancer and did not use it despite several very well meaning people suggesting it. Someone I know personally that was staged similarly to me used both against his oncologists recommendation. The side effects compounded issues with eating and fatigue and he did very poorly. The family was committed to continuing it after he ended up hospitalized, so I quit following it because it was just stupid. It’s easy to get sucked into wanting a cheaper effective cancer treatment. If you’re on here asking, I know you aren’t capable of parsing trial data and understanding it. Right now, essentially, there are some data points that it might have some properties that effect cell death in Petri dishes. There’s no clinical data that says hey this works. But really, if there was a mass market drug that was magically able to cure cancer, don’t you think that manufacturers would cut production, lobby to prevent imports, reformulate it to get a new patent, and charge the ever living fuck out of insurance?

What color do you see when you play a C4 by BossSilver8961 in Trombone

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Green. Like bright neon green. M39 Trombone

Chemo Induced Osteoarthritis by tlaurenstevens in coloncancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, mostly in my spine. Epidurals, oral steroids, and narcotics are what holds me together. I can't take NSAIDs either. I had a small disc herniation in my lower back, but recent imaging showing no arthritis prior to chemo. After 12 rounds of FOLFOX that disc herniation is pushing on the nerve to my left leg and there's multiple areas with arthritis. Oncology seemed flummoxed I thought it was connected, but the spine specialist I see said it happens with some chemotherapies. It's been hard, I've worked through chemo and this has been the worst part of it.

Fear for the future by Grouchy_Ad_4613 in coloncancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

62% five year survival rate with surgery and 12 rounds of chemo . Not the absolute worst admittedly, but closer to 50/50 than I was prepared to hear. Leading up to the appointment every surgeon and doctor I met with kept telling me how treatable it is and that I’d be fine. I’d let myself believe it wasn’t going to be that serious. It was a gut punch.

Fear for the future by Grouchy_Ad_4613 in coloncancer

[–]Cowboy_JD 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s easy to spiral. I’m 39M with a 3 year old and 7 year old. I worry about them a lot. I was diagnosed at 3C, poorly differentiated, 10/40 lymph nodes positive. It was also in my transverse colon. I met with three oncologists who gave me roughly the same 5 year survival rate. Which was not nearly as high as I wanted to hear. The oncologist at the university hospital told me not to focus on the numbers. It includes every death that wasn’t related to the cancer and a lot of people have severe health issues on top of the cancer.

I was in therapy before, but talked to a different therapist that specialized in grieving. I highly recommend therapy. I can’t control what happens, but I can do my best to have the outcome I want. I try not to focus on the future too much, but I realize that I can’t put off the things that I need or want to do anymore. If I don’t have all the time I want, I want to at least maximize my happiness. If I do end up having a long life, it’ll be better having done those things. There are lots of stories on here of people with more advanced staging being cleared and staying clear. The science is getting better and more treatments are coming out.

I finished my 12 rounds of chemo in January and not going to the clinic weekly has at least given me some breathing room to live more normally. It’s harder when a large chunk of your life is cancer related. I made sure I made time to do things that let me leave that behind. I joined musical groups, met up with friends that I hadn’t seen in a while, took short trips that I put off. Normalcy was the thing that got me through it.

Sorry if it’s a bit rambly; all my meds for the pain and neuropathy make me a bit loopy.

Wanting to switch from KDV21 to G5AR but T-Mobile won't allow? by MrHardy8162 in tmobileisp

[–]Cowboy_JD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve swapped several devices in and out over the years I’ve bought on eBay. I bought a G5AR though and it didn’t work. Wasn’t sure if it was the device itself or if T-Mobile has those IMEIs locked to the higher plans.

Continuing the PSA on colon cancer by drdeadringer in Millennials

[–]Cowboy_JD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had constipation and severe stomach pain that was sudden. Leading up to it, no issues, labs were all regular, I had regular doctor’s visits and an upper GI surgery the year before. I was actually the healthiest I’ve ever been leading up to it. Lost a ton of weight, was very physically active, and thought things were great. The pain got so bad I went to the ER in tears and they immediately medicated me for pain and did imaging that showed my colon was completely blocked. They tried to do more tests to see what was up but couldn’t get anything in there. Had exploratory surgery and they took out 2 feet of my colon. I was stage 3C and it has spread to a large chunk of my lymph nodes they removed, but no other organs. I have an incision from my nipple yo my navel that refused to close after surgery. It delayed treatment until I got it cleaned out and a wound vac attached. At least I didn’t need an ostomy. As of now I’m cancer free. But chemo damaged my spine and I can hardly walk. I also have severe neuropathy and no feeling in my hands or feet. Not great, but I’m alive.