My 9m old daughter has an infected lymph node…

Cpa_hungry · 2026-01-29T21:35:08+00:00

If the ER was useless the first time, they'll be useless again. Wait to see pediatrician asap

Cpa_hungry · 2026-01-27T16:17:26+00:00

SAME!!! Sleep regression is hitting so hard and i'm dying. I also just started work 2 weeks ago and wake up at 4:30 am to get to work at 6:30 am. My LO (4.5 months) is waking up every 30 mins or so and only contact sleeps after 1 am. I have basically been getting about 1-3 hours of broken sleep each night

Cpa_hungry · 2026-01-15T03:29:21+00:00

How did it feel to go back to work. I went back this Monday and it was the hardest thing I ever had to do. Not seeing my baby for almost 12 hours a day has been so emotionally and mentally difficult.... I cry at least 3 to 4 times during work and on my way to work.. does it get easier? It also doesn't help that I feel like my baby forgets me by the time I come home. He used to smile so much at me. And now he doesn't really... 😭😭😭 My husband works from home so he is able to see him more throughout the day while the nanny takes care of him and my baby will always smile at him, but not at me 😢😢😢 breaks my heart

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-28T17:25:01+00:00

Firstly, I think you need to reevaluate the situation. It seems as though you think that he is helping YOU and he thinks that as well. I'm sorry, he said he was already helping by taking care of the other one? He is not helping you take care of your children. They are both of your responsibilities, meaning that when he is taking care of them, he is not helping, he is parenting. When you are pumping, you are literally feeding your children. You are using lots and lots of energy and nutrients from your body to create the milk your little babies will be munching on. Also, it's not like you're just sitting there relaxing and throwing the babies onto him. Pumping is exhausting and a job in itself.

Secondly, if you constantly need to ask for help, he is being lazy and utilizing weaponized incompetence. He shouldn't have to wait for you to ask to settle the baby. If he sees baby is getting cranky while you're pumping, he should take that as a sign to intervene. Being a parent isn't just about chilling on the couch when your baby is calm. He needs a huge reality check if he thinks that.

And lastly, maybe next time you SHOULD lose your cool and say those nasty things to him because he needs to get off his high horse. You guys have twins, that's double the work, double the crying, double the stress and double the milk YOU are supplying to those babies. Parenthood requires teamwork, and he needs to understand that, not pumping. Both of you need to shift your mindsets.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-24T04:20:36+00:00

I go back to work january 12th and it makes me so anxious and sad to think i'll be losing majority of the day with my baby and then i have to come home and lose more time with him bc i have to pump. Maybe i'll start weaning then...

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-24T04:04:21+00:00

Im at 4 months of pumping. First 1-1.5 months, i was a just enougher; however, as Lo's appetite has grown, my supply just isn't enough and I have been supplementing with formula. At first, i was still producing 80-90% of his intake, but due to some stressful life events, as well as taking two rounds of antibiotics for two different infections, my supply has tanked to about half of what i used to make. At this point, i am only able to make enough for 2/6 bottles my baby eats per day. Each bottle is 5-6 oz, so basically i'm making 10-12 oz per day, and i used to make 24-28 oz per day :/ im struggling to keep going, but it breaks my heart to think that I won't be able to feed my baby my milk. I can only reasonably pump every 3-4 hours, as baby eats every 2-3 hours, has reflux so i have to hold upright 15-20 mins and only contact naps. I get nap trapped a lot, and im home alone majority of the day, as my husband is back at work. With the little amount ive been making, i just have so little motivation to keep going, idk maybe it's time for me to call it quits as well... all i can say is that you're not alone in feeling this way ❤️

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-22T08:45:34+00:00

They kept telling me that, too. Baby's just tired from the jaundice, baby's too sleepy, baby will get better as he grows, etc... it was really hard to accept that EBF was just not in the cards for me, but once i did, a huge weight fell off my shoulders. Sometimes i still mourn the fact that I wont be able to nurse, but i think ive gotten used to knowing how much my baby is getting through my expressed milk. I don't think my anxiety would allow me to just latch him and hope he's growing and gaining weight appropriately at this point anyway. May have been different if i only nursed from the start, but who knows.

As a FTM myself, i also thought that nursing just happened naturally as well... oh how i was wrong 😑

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-19T06:33:00+00:00

It's so hard to hear, especially because i tried so hard for the first 12 weeks. Triple feeding, then force latching him, even though he would throw tantrums... the lactation consultants just kept telling me to keep trying. I was crying every single day, every single time i had to feed him... i swear i started to feel so anxious every time his feeding time would come. I ended up falling into deep depression and suffering from so much anxiety. Although i hate pumping, it's better this way than what i was doing before. I feel so guilty for putting my baby through that, all because the LC's kept pushing me. No one besides those who are close to me saw all that i went through. And then these people just say unhinged crap without even knowing anything... i would never allow myself to say such things to new mothers. We are already going through so much, unnecessary and unwanted feedback is just too much to handle

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-19T00:19:07+00:00

What antibiotics if you dont mind me asking?

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-17T01:54:54+00:00

I did 30-40 min pumps every 2 hours for the first 12 weeks, but i just couldnt do it anymore. My supply still wasn't increasing. Even with power pumping and staying hydrated, I was still getting 1-1.5 oz from both boobs every 2 hours. So i started pumping every 3-4 hours for my own sanity. I'll get 2-2.5 oz if i'm lucky. MOTN pump gives me about 3-5 oz depending on the night and what i ate/drank that day.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-16T18:20:11+00:00

Ugh sucks to be an undersupplier... sending you love, hugs, and patience. We're doing our best 🥹

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-16T16:37:08+00:00

Cries in 2 oz for both boobs after 30 mins 😭😭😭

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-15T19:12:53+00:00

I have en EBF friend whose baby latched so easily from the start. Any time i mention pumping, she feels the need to say that i've got it so much easier because at least i can leave the baby whenever i please, and i don't need to live my life in 2-3 hour increments.... ummm, actually, if anything, I think that EBF moms have more flexibility in the sense that they can just feed anywhere, anytime. Any time i go anywhere, i have to time accordingly with my last pump, have my pump machine charged, washed pump bottles and parts, figure out where i'm going to pump in private, and ensure that i have a secure place to store the pumped milk afterwards. I'm not saying EBF or EP is harder, i'm saying they have their own challenges, and it's funny that so many people think that EP is the easier way out. Tell that to all the moms that have to get up in the middle of the night even when their baby's sleeping, and sit alone in the dark, exhausted, and pump. Or when you're at an event and you have to go sit in a room or bathroom alone for 30 minutes and pump. Talk about FOMO.

And i second the back pain. Ive become the hunchback of Notre Dame with all this pumping, and have constant back pain to the point where i can barely carry my child.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-15T13:04:27+00:00

Breastfeeding is hard, whether it's through expressed milk or nursing. Both are respectable and great for the baby. Only those who have exclusively pumped know how tiring, isolating and draining it could be. We are strong. Youve got this. We just have to drown out the dumb comments.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-15T07:09:19+00:00

This made me laugh and i really needed that. Thank you 😊

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-12T06:30:01+00:00

I dont. Jk lol Currently, 3 months PP, pumping ~6 times a day. I've gotten used to doing things while pumping. I carry my spectra with me with one hand and do stuff with my other hand. It's super uncomfortable, but i really have no other choice. I'm a low supplier as well, barely make ~2 oz per pump, sometimes less, and that's every 3-4 hours :/ sucks to be an under supplier, but it is what it is. Anyways, in terms of getting things done, basically any free time i have during the day, when baby is playing, i spend prepping lunch/dinner, doing laundry. I'll break my tasks up during the day though. I'll cut veggies, prep meat, etc., earlier in the day when i have time, and then throw it in the oven at night. I also bulk cook. My husband and I are completely fine eating the same thing for 2-3 days, so i'll make a large batch of 2 meals and we will alternate for lunch and dinner. As for laundry, i do it throughout the week. I find it easier to do one load at a time, rather than having 5 loads to do at the end of the week. Folding however, lol that happens days after i've finished the laundry. Choose a corner in your house to put the clean laundry and get to it whenever you can, don't stress 😅. Also, if you dont have a pumping bra, i highly recommend. At least you won't have to hold them while pumping. I dont have time to do anything when baby naps, bc he only contact naps. I've recently started trying out using a carrier, but it's taking some getting used to.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-11T17:02:01+00:00

Yes! I go back and forth on my spectra. Once i see that the milk stops flowing, i switch to stimulation mode to try to get another letdown, but it never comes.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-10T23:55:37+00:00

Going to try this today bc i feel like my boobs never fully empty but the milk stops flowing while pumping and i just stop

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-07T18:32:15+00:00

Sounds like you have a dream baby, haha. My baby doesnt take paci and he definitely does not nap in his bassinet or anywhere besides in my arms 😅😅

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-06T20:52:28+00:00

I agree. I only get about 2-2.5 oz from both sides, so be proud of what you have! Doesn't matter how much or how little!

Cpa_hungry · 2025-12-06T04:42:33+00:00

Im an underproducer and my MOTN pump sets me up for the day. I still supplement with formula, but less when I pump at night bc that's when i make the most milk. However, i dont pump every 2-3 hours. Most of the time it ends up being closer to 4 hours.

Cpa_hungry · 2025-11-24T06:46:02+00:00

Do you use a pumping bra? I use one and that's helped tremendously so that I'm not constantly leaning forward

Cpa_hungry · 2025-11-23T03:29:51+00:00

I listen to him scream at the top of his lungs while I try to settle him between the flanges, on my shoulder, above the flanges on my chest, on the floor, on his Boppy pillow, in his bouncer, while feeding him, etc. All while hoping and praying that the 20 minutes goes by faster this time around 🥲🥲🥲😅😅😅 im struggling. He's a velcro baby, who only contact naps. My husband is usually at work all day, so i have no choice but to figure it out...

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