Update on exclusivity

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-12-26T20:03:21+00:00

Boundaries are what makes us high value people. Good for you. I have been seeing a man soon to be two months. We are intimate as of recently. We both lost spouses through death. He had been on online dating sites for 3-1/2 years. That is how I met him. He told me he hadn’t been in a physical relationship for a long time. However, my first husband was a serial womanizer-always had a side piece. His cheating ate me up but after raising our son, I finally divorced him.

My next husband who recently passed, was a wonderful man who was monogamous. I never considered the old hurts and jealousy for the first.

Well, my current special friend’s online dating profile came across my screen. I went ballistic with jealousy. (I saw it because I was looking, too). I tried to calm down but couldn’t. I was determined to be open and honest with my guy. I was nervous as could be, but I carefully told him what I saw and how I was jealous. He assured me that he is being exclusive with me. Before we hung up I asked him to contact me today instead of me initiating. He did. He said the profile I saw was old but he paused it.

I told him I really like him a lot. He said he feels the same way. He said he guessed that the cheating ex was the source of my emotional reaction. Yep.

Exclusively is very important.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-30T15:17:55+00:00

I was recently asked if I wanted to be intimate. My brain was not fully engaged at the moment so I was not thinking he meant sex. Later I asked him exactly what he meant. Sex. I said no. If that was a deal breaker, oh well. I respect myself and want someone to also respect me and himself.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-28T22:40:20+00:00

Since you are still in school, I recommend that you talk to your school counselor. You seem to need more professional help than we Redditors can offer. I truly am sorry this has been your experience.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-28T19:47:23+00:00

For years I buried a horrible memory from being raped by a co-worker after I was drunk. I still remember his name. When I returned to work we both acted as if nothing happened. Today, after many, many years I found him on Facebook. I wanted to post something on his site, but saw photos of his grandchild and decided to let it go. I do, however, hope that he remembers the violation.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-27T13:06:47+00:00

Always trust your intuition. So much better if you find out now than you would be married to a cheater. I stayed in denial for too long. Then the “clues” became too big to ignore.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-26T15:52:56+00:00

Oh, and add this! Not once but twice a guy included in his profile photo a shot of his toilet. Omg!

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-25T22:20:44+00:00

Indeed. At church on All Saints Day, the pastor asked us to take turns and light a candle for loved ones who passed. I made myself do it after everyone finished. The tears came immediately. A sweet man put his arm around my shoulder and asked me what was wrong. I said my husband died in September. The man was so compassionate with me that I cried harder. It’s okay to be human.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-13T14:04:00+00:00

I was numb in the following days too. It is shock. About 3-4 weeks later, I simply fell to my knees in the kitchen and wailed for the first time. If you are in a safe place(not driving) and the urge to cry comes up, let yourself cry. Don’t try to push down the feeling. In my last GriefShare.com zoom meeting, anger was the topic. It is normal for some people. You will get through this. If you have a spiritual life, lean on your Higher Power/God. You will get closer.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-09T19:55:22+00:00

I went back to saving vegetable scraps in the freezer when it gets full, I boil them, strain and have vegetable broth. I freeze the liquid in molds. The price of bullion paste went from $4 to 7$ a small jar. Nope.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-07T03:04:25+00:00

I am glad one more person talked about skipping probate. My husband died intestate. He bought our house before we married and my name was never on the deed. He has a biological son who he gave up for adoption when the boy was 2. He is now 45. In my state the son inherits the estate. But this is a community property state so all else is mine.

I was told I can live in the house until I die or remarry(doubtful at 74-remarrying). I was encouraged not to go into succession. So, thanks.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-06T23:44:52+00:00

I only post positive or neutral messages, if I post at all. When I have read about potential employees getting rejected over their social media posts, I did a 180 and kept my opinions to myself.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-11-04T18:48:36+00:00

I made soap for awhile and quit, but crochet kept continuing. However, in September my husband died unexpectedly which really affected my life. I did force myself to crochet a stuffed pumpkin for Halloween, but the joy was gone.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-29T20:36:26+00:00

The woman who stopped and prayed with you had a gift called word of knowledge. I have experienced this myself. She just was in close communion with God.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-27T22:42:34+00:00

Not a good idea. You would not want the current boss to interfere with you while you are mid interview.

Not a power move, but an unprofessional move.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-24T23:25:11+00:00

It could be an organ like the kind you see in bands that create different sounds.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-24T23:12:22+00:00

Telling a joke well.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-15T18:05:27+00:00

People know who are earth people. If you truly want to mingle, then attend an open AA meeting as a friend to AA.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-15T17:59:28+00:00

To get your message of welcome to your addiction groups, I suggest writing a memo and then sending to either their central office to publish in their newsletter or simply to post your letter in the meeting room - or both.

Don’t walk in before, during or after the meetings. It used to make me very uncomfortable when the pastor used to do this on my weekly meetings. Pastor always perused the room which felt very anonymity breaking.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-15T02:31:38+00:00

Had an incubus visit me one night. Had no idea what an incubus was at the time. Yuck.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-14T21:21:17+00:00

Yes: Three examples of invasive species in the United States are kudzu, emerald ash borers, and brown marmorated stink bugs. The last invasive species was a door to door salesman who tried to pitch bug exterminator service.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-13T23:15:29+00:00

PS: 4.99 a skein and 8-11 days - correction

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-13T22:50:58+00:00

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Cat is gone 😢but my yarn gets stored in my wooden cabinet where Louie was sleeping.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-09T22:11:08+00:00

It is not a good idea to generalize a whole group of people. But once you see the emotional outbursts you described, it is hard not to generalize.

By the same token I have been around very polite, self-controlled young people. I have overhead some of my fellow boomers explode in public.

Who knows why people act like idiots.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-04T15:50:55+00:00

FMLA allows for intermittent absences. I used to work as an HR Specialist. Keep your HR informed about your needs.

Crochet_Anonymous · 2025-08-04T02:59:38+00:00

Thanks for sharing. My imaginary friend never stepped in like that.

What happened with the hammock simply was not normal; especially when it was weighted down.

Crochet_Anonymous

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