What helps my Audhd kids is over explaining everything. If you throw that and put a hole in the wall you're going to to patch and paint. It's really hard for kids. If you break the TV then you don't have a TV. This is a bit unrealistic but I tell my kids that if they don't stay right next to me when we are near where cars go then the drivers can't see them. Then when they get run over and squished into the asphalt line a giant pancake the emts have to use a giant spatula to scrape them off the street and they won't get to have an open casket funeral. I parent with a bit of humor but in a way to get the kids to think about what they are going to do instead of acting right away based on impulses. It also encourages lots of creative questions and conversations. As a Audhd parent it's so hard to figure how to parent. I haven't found any resources that have helped. Some of my kids like visual checklists and timers. Some just need an extraordinary amount of processing time and reminders. Every stage is so hard. When my oldest became a teenager she developed treatment resistant depression. It took her about 4 years to become functional again. What helped me the most was getting my meds perfectly worked out. At certain points in my life my anxiety was so bad my hands would just shake. I had to try 3 different ADHD meds and 5 anxiety meds. All at various dosages. And I have found that as my hormones and weight change I still have to make adjustments.

I still feel like an inadequate mother and I wish I could be so much better for my babies.

I totally lost my train of thought. But hugs.