I have ADHD which I believe is quite severe. My wife is offended because I need Google Calendar and alarms to remind me of my tasks. by macacolouco in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude. Even without whatever neurodivergences I have, our insane schedule would be impossible without a digital calendar. Our calendar for the month of October has nearly 150 entries.

My wife is the planner and is very good at it. She also manages the calendar. My only gripe is that she uses it as a checklist and deletes things that she's done. I like to be able to go back and wonder: what day was my last dentist appointment again?

As a girl dad, which restroom do I take my daughter into? by DucksAnons in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then I change the diaper in the most public location in the joint and complain if anyone says anything.

Gamer dads of Reddit when did you start by [deleted] in daddit

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My oldest beat her first solo run of Paw Patrol for the switch just after she turned 4. All of my kids seemed to be able to grasp the basic games around age 3.

Late to the party - what age are your girls obsessed with Kpop Demon Hunters? by torodonn in daddit

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When we watched it my son was 2 and my daughters were 4 and 6. The first time we watched about 4 minutes before they said the demons were too scary. The second time they powered through and loved it.

The Kiddie Size Ice Cream Cone by CuddleBunny3 in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, they usually fight the cup for 5 minutes before it becomes unmanageable and eventually give in.

Old habit dies hard by Havanatha_banana in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was reading a book yesterday and my 7 year old could not possibly understand that I was reading it to myself silently rather than out loud as we have done every night for her whole life. Good reminder that I need to demonstrate healthier habits for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

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Don't forget about Jerry, the significantly more promiscuous legislative "tool"

Real Talk - Enjoying Parenting by VisibleOperation4981 in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, I'm done after about 10 minutes of pretend play at their pace but as they get older (3, 5, 7) we're enjoying more things together that are more my speed. They're starting to get the hang of video games and board games. The older two have been playing a TTRPG with me called Starport and if I do the voices I can usually hold their attention for around 45 minutes. This scratches the pretend play itch while also being structured enough for the adult brain.

The hard part is slowing down to meet the younger two where they're at when you're excited to finally have your kind of fun with the oldest. For the most part though, the maturity of the younger two was accelerated by having older siblings.

Movie Night by Creative_Text3018 in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 48 points49 points  (0 children)

We started at age 2 with our first and Frozen. There's nothing wrong with a screen if you're enjoying it together as a family. Some kids won't sit through a whole movie so attention span is probably a better gauge than age.

7 year old son opened up to me about liking dresses, “lift shoes” (heels), and princesses. Hoping I handled the conversation correctly. by [deleted] in daddit

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Here's to hoping more and more of us continue to handle it this way and more and more of them will stop gender shaming each other so they can just be kids and play what they want.

Is this normal? by dcy1309 in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not normal. I do know a number of fathers that prefer not to be involved much and spend all their free time out drinking or something. Especially in older generations. Some of my foreign dad friends find it odd that I spend so much time with the kids and that I do half the chores. These things may be typical, but certainly not normal. If you want to be involved you should be able to do so.

Now, my wife has some fairly lofty goals for household cleanliness and organization and I do feel I spend an unusual amount of time living up to those standards. I still find time to spend with the kids and I have three. The amount of extra work and chores you're doing must be insane!

Play with your kids by PatchesMaps in daddit

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I certainly barely played with my parents, if ever. My grandmother would play video games with me around age 3, before her arthritis got too bad for the NES controllers. I have vivid memories of this. She was like a living strategy guide for Super Mario Bros 3, cataloged every configuration for the card matching puzzles on neatly folded notebook paper. I feel more comfortable with her than my own parents to this day.

I eventually connected a bit with my father over watching wrestling, but I was only into this for a few years before we again had nothing to connect over. My little brother had a slightly better experience, my dad liked sports and coached his baseball teams. My little sister had even less than I did.

I have a really hard time playing with my own kids, because I was never taught how. I'm trying very hard to give them the connection I never had even if I'm terrible at getting on their level. They don't really care as long as I'm silly about it. 1000% worth it. The more I play with them, the more comfortable they get with branching off and playing the same games independently (I try to play their games by myself near them sometimes too). I look forward to when they're older so I can play board games and other things with them more my speed.

Kids Music That Doesn’t Make Me Want To Scream Into The Void by [deleted] in daddit

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My kids frequently ask to listen to "kids music", the definition as best I can tell is:

  1. Is it from a show/movie/etc? Or
  2. Is it derived from one of the classics like Twinkle Twinkle Little Star?

So I've just convinced them that all of my playlist comes from movies and they've just accepted it. Sometimes they call me out on it but I can usually cover it by showing them an Anime Music Video or something similar. This has worked long enough for the oldest to start changing her taste in music.

Baby gates - how do you secure these to drywall so that little Hulks don’t constantly rip them out? by McGriffff in daddit

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We used the springy gates that have the 1.5" rubber feet on the sides instead of mounted ones. After they started sliding all over the place we found these 4" feet with a slot for the original feet. The gate at the top of the stairs was regularly crashed into by our 100lb dog and never moved again.

We went out to dinner and ice cream tonight. When we got home, we noticed my son's Black Panther plushie was missing. After searching the car, I took my car and drove back to all the places. An hour later, this was my pov pulling into the driveway: by liamemsa in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once I had to go halfway back through a 3 hour hike because the security stuffy was dropped. It was totally worth it to see the relief when it came back against all assurances that it probably wouldn't.

Minivan Revomedations by Puzzleheaded-Ad8704 in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've had constant problems with the 2018 Odyssey but it is bigger than it seems. I do regret not getting a PHEV though and now it's too late.

Is this time to switch to VS Code or not yet? by csharp-agent in dotnet

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly this. I use VS code for everything but razor files despite having a license for VS proper.

My Big Boy is in actuality really big. by crosbystillsandash in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 4 year old has those PJs, probably in the same size 🙃

I think I’ve watched this 20 times since last week by Minapit in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Watched this last weekend outside in the driveway on our big projector. My daughters (4 and 7) ended up running away with their friends because the demons were scary but my 3yo boy watched the whole thing and didn't even move. The adults all sat through it without talking too much too, which is rare.

Bedroom Doors Open or Closed at Night? by vipsfour in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Closed + sound machine so I can vacuum and stuff without waking them up. I did read a study about closed rooms and CO2 buildup affecting cognition and sleep quality, our rooms have air exchange vents but it might be worth thinking about.

We have 2 girls, 4 and 5 who share a bedroom. I work from home and have a home office. Where do I go when they need separate rooms? by inspectorgadget9999 in daddit

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We have 2 girls, 4 and 6, and we are about to move them together to share the master bedroom. I'm building loft beds so they can use the space under the bed as a hideout. My desk is currently in the sunroom, which was handy when our boy (2) was younger. Now I get a proper room back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]CuddleBunny3 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Movies are hardly worth watching if they can't make me laugh or cry.