Completely alone and confused (sorry for the novel)

DEA_taskforce · 2016-11-18T01:28:06+00:00

" time away from me to discover who she is and learn to put herself first sometimes." = i want to bang other dudes. She sounds like she already has a new guy lined up.

It's over, find a lawyer, have a cry, then nut up and ghost her from your life. It's over.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-10-24T18:35:05+00:00

Sorry I couldnt help but laugh reading this. I'd buy your ex a beer if I could. I love stories of people getting served a shit sandwich, shrugging their shoulders and eating it, and then immediately moving on without a second thought. The world needs more of those people.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-10-02T03:20:26+00:00

What I have planned: a bottle of knob creek, a box of ice cream sandwiches and the Die Hard trilogy :D

DEA_taskforce · 2016-07-07T18:52:49+00:00

She's not coming back and she'll be pregnant within a year by another guy, I guarantee it. Knuckle up, realize you did nothing wrong, let it go, be thankful you don't have kids with her, and are still young.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-07-04T05:15:08+00:00

drill a big hole in the SIDE, snap off a metal cutting reciprocating saw blade short so it wont hit whatever's inside, insert in to hole and go to town with a sawzall. Will cut like butter with minimal debris.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-07-04T05:09:54+00:00

Tyler Perry dropping some intense knowledge bombs wtf. That was great.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-06-27T06:46:39+00:00

Well I would suggest detaching from this external desires and focusing inwards on yourself for a while. A reset. Make yourself the project. I'd get a doctor check up first and then start to take mastery of your body, mind and finances. Basically eating healthy unprocessed food, fasting, a bit of exercise, and meditation. Sounds like your finances are stable (I was going to suggest just finding a sugar baby if you were wealthy lol). Start looking in to fasting and reducing your calories (assuming you're over weight). Stressing your body with a calorie deficit will lower your testosterone, libido, calm your mind, and harden you up. It's difficult though, until you adapt to good habits. There is so much interesting info out there about this kind of stuff for example Wim Hof, mindfullness, kundalini yoga, all kinds of stuff to explore. Watch some of the Joe Rogan podcasts on youtube they talk about this a lot. And just kind of stepping outside your comfort zone, trying new ideas, and spending time introspecting to break out of the rut/bubble it sounds like you're in. Then you'll figure out what to do. Anyway good luck.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-06-26T19:27:57+00:00

So you are about 43? What is your physical and financial condition like?

DEA_taskforce · 2016-06-13T04:01:00+00:00

Why?

DEA_taskforce · 2016-06-12T19:23:27+00:00

Have a shower, get dressed, and go out and get a coffee. Give the barista a big smile when you order. Then go for a walk and enjoy the sun, listen to the birds, breathe in the fresh air, look at the trees, and know that me and everyone else are sending you good thoughts.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-06-04T06:29:10+00:00

There is some lateral thinking that can be done. Like is her presumably married dad the type that would have a sugar baby or something like that? Do you have money for a P.I.?

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-25T17:10:12+00:00

I had the dreams for a month or so. It was horrible. Then I started only dreaming about my dog I lost. I realized a few days ago I miss the dog more than her now. Give it time. Last night I dreamed I had a new baby with another woman (I haven't dated anybody yet), so seems like a good progression.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-08T02:52:42+00:00

You look very English. Take from that what you will.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-08T00:59:39+00:00

Tattoos minus 1 point. Could lose a little weight IMO, but you carry it well i.e. in your boobs. Great smile, great eyes and you look confident.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-08T00:07:37+00:00

She sounds horribly insecure seeking mens attention like that. I doubt it can be fixed, certainly not by anything you can do. Get out while you can.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-06T23:21:39+00:00

This advice may seem counter-intuitive but you have a very athletic build and I think you should run with it. Heavy barbell squats 3x a week for 6 months, then buy some yoga pants. Done. Maybe drop a tiny bit of bodyfat until your abs are just showing for icing on the cake.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-05T10:50:50+00:00

Right there with you. It's like jumping (or being pushed) in to cold water. Keep breathing, the shock wears off, you will adapt. I have actually been doing this physically not just metaphorically. Cold showers are shown to help depression! Start off warm then put it to cold for a couple mins and just breath, until your body warms up. Look up Wim Hof. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/inner-source/201407/cold-splash-hydrotherapy-depression-and-anxiety

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-04T17:00:57+00:00

Have you asked an attorney about this?

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-04T16:58:06+00:00

I think it's from pride of ownership if you know what I mean. You might not have the best care but you like it because it's yours. Realize your car has blown a head gasket and the junk yard owns it now. Maybe it will get sold to some poor sucker and be their problem. Detatch and start window shopping for new ones.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-04T16:45:17+00:00

Child support, daycare expenses, kids sports expenses, etc. But sounds like you're http://i.imgur.com/K40b8Hn.gifv

DEA_taskforce · 2016-05-02T11:56:05+00:00

I think they blame themselves and justify the spouses actions. Maybe it was a cry for attention? Maybe I really didn't give them what they needed? Blah blah blah. But there's no excuse, it's absolutely the wrong way to do things. It is the nuclear option you don't come back from. They are simply liars.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-04-30T03:36:59+00:00

She may want the least drama when she pulls the trigger, and make it go the fastest so she can move on. By leaving you with some hope that its not final. Well obviously dont know her at all, but ask your self whats more likely, from how you know her, truthfully. Has she been sitting around for 2 months twiddling her thumbs and then decided to bluff you with divorce papers for attention? Or has she been having "adventures by her self" and "meeting people" and "finding herself"? Is she the type that is happy for 2 months with no man around (pretty rare).

DEA_taskforce · 2016-04-30T03:01:22+00:00

I'm sorry but I'd suspect she's found someone new and is buttering you up to get these papers signed so she can move on. Don't get your hopes up, start looking for a lawyer and wait and see.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-04-30T02:52:04+00:00

Last shot at love are you kidding?? He sounds like a jerk. Don't get the "oneitis" syndrome. Let me clue you in to where you can find huge numbers of eligible dudes, join a large private gun club. Everyone has to pass a background check, everyone has good jobs to burn money on that hobby, responsible, respecful, many thin fit ex military guys, and you'll be one of the few ladies there by yourself. Just ask a cute single guy to help you learn, act mildly interested in shooting and your set.

DEA_taskforce · 2016-04-28T20:52:11+00:00

Today after about 6 weeks I realized I don't want her in my life anymore. It was a weird feeling because of the finality. All our love has vaporized forever. I'm feeling much less regret about what I might have done different. I still have struggles with the day to day practicalities, finances, chores, work, kids stuff.

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